Anyone who says “accept the uncertainty and move on” is a massive hypocrite

No they're not. Maybe you're not grasping the concept of "accepting uncertainty". Nobody expects an OCD sufferer to just repeat to themselves "okay, I accept uncertainty". The point is, you work on not sitting there with the thought and letting it corrupt every aspect of your life because you cant stop ruminating on it or doing other compulsions. Instead you try to fight off doing compulsions and focus on the task you have to do for the day. You walk with the OCD and dont let it affect you to the point you're disabled by it. Does that make sense? Its about shifting focus from the OCD thoughts to living your life with them. And in this sense, you naturally accept uncertainty. Finding certainty doesnt Happen with OCD and that's what makes us do compulsions.

I guess perhaps you're misunderstanding what we mean by "accept"... I've been in recovery for a long time from HOCD, and I now accept the thoughts I get. That doesn't mean I'm falsely accepting them to be true/meaningful! It means I accept that I get intrusive thoughts sometimes. They're still not fun, but I can say to myself "alright, yep, we just had that thought... but we're not going to stress about it or try to make it go away" You accept the presence of intrusive thoughts and you don't try to force them away (that makes them worse!) But you don't accept the content of them, because that wouldn't make any sense ?

Someone the other day told me something just like this. They said “you’re one to talk” and I said yes. I am one to talk. You know why? I experience the same problems so I KNOW what needs to be done. It’s not gonna go away just like that and you aren’t gonna be able to accept the uncertainty all the time. Recovery is up and down not straight up. You’re here with people who experience all the pain you do. We may be hypocrites but we’re hypocrites who know what we’re talking about.

We’re all in this together one of the reasons but not the only reason is that that we have trouble accepting uncertainty. Just because I or someone else doesn’t totally accept uncertainty but tells others to doesn’t make the advice invalid. Maybe some of us who aren’t 100% comfortable with accepting uncertainty are telling others to do it because they know it’s a great way to fight ocd and they are doing the best to try and fully accept uncertainty themselves. Maybe telling others will help them with it too. This isn’t an app for negativity it’s already difficult dealing with everything ocd brings. We should be a community that spreads nothing but positivity and it’s ok to get upset but let’s not take it out on others. Sorry if you’re struggling and I hope you’re day gets better.

Umm no

You can all have your opinions but I stand by mine

LOL wait, so all the OCD therapists are massive hypocrite? Because that’s what they teach you/what we all have to do to get better ☕️

And yep @lulu23 that's true, it's about letting them pass ?

Ohhh I remember seeing you talk about your STD theme on here before! Yeah it's really really stressful... Try not to let these thoughts control you. Do you want to move in with him? Because if you do, you should consider it. Your worries about STDs don't have to affect your decisions - try to not react to them, because by making your choices based on such worries you will only make them stronger and that will make you think they're true. Do you have therapy? Because I'm not sure how you can get out of this if you don't do ERP, even if you have to do it yourself.

Okay, I think if you want to do it then you should do it. Your thoughts have nothing to do with it - they're only thoughts. Accept that they're there, but don't believe that they're true (again, I think you've been misunderstanding what acceptance means) And that's annoying! Maybe you should try again. It sounds like you're really struggling and it's clearly getting in the way of your normal life and relationship choices.

Well, the reason you're unable to do it yet is because you have OCD! I used to hate the phrase "accept your thoughts" because I misunderstood it too. But once I started getting myself to do ERP, it made more sense. And, of course, my OCD is much more under control because of itm

And if there were tests to see if people were gay, those of us with HOCD would either not use them because we were too terrified, or we'd use them and not believe the results, or we'd use them compulsively and panic. It's the same with your theme - you either don't get tested and worry about what would happen if you did, or you get tested and still feel uncertain, or you compulsively get tested. No matter what theme we have "testing" and "checking" absolutely never helps.