My OCD is a little odd. I have intrusive thoughts about my loved ones getting hurt, mostly my girlfriend being raped. She’s in the army and you hear such horrible stories and I’ll be at my internship (we have a lot of people who have been sexually abused there) and I’m worried that since the people who need to share their stories make me spiral and spend twenty minutes trying to convince myself she’s not being by one of her fellow soldiers, that I’m not cut out to be a psychologist. They always get graphic and I end up convinced it’s actually happening. We’ve talked about it and she said she takes precautions and she’s mostly around women (only comforted me a little. I’ve been sexually abused by a woman) and that she’ll be fine and that if something does happen she’ll tell me, but still. It scares me so much. Like, how do you deal with graphic intrusive thoughts of someone you love with all your heart- someone you may want to marry down the road- being penetrated against her will? It’s so terrifying and I think it might be interfering with my work.

Keep in contact with her. That’s how you can reassure yourself that she’s okay. And try to be logical about her conditions in the army to really evaluate whether or not you should be worried. Consider her position too. You should understand that she needs you to stay strong because she’s the one actually there. You being worried will only cause her to feel worried in a place where she is probably bombarded by lots of worry. So if all else fails, just be confident for her sake at least, so that no matter what she knows she can come to you to feel okay ??❤️

That must be scary to think about. I agree with everything @KweenMira said. I also believe it’s out of your control, and to do more work on your OCD may ease half of it because the other half is something anyone would be concerned about and that’s a normal human emotion

I think you'll have to do ERP for that. Which would probably involve visualizing the terrifying scenarios and sitting with them until the emotions subside. ERP is one of the most fiendishly difficult therapies but it is just so effective. I'm sorry you're going through this, it sounds incredibly painful.

I’m trying not to talk about it too much with her but she knows I have these worries. We talk every day. And I know logically odds are very small it’ll actually happen. She’s combat-trained, doesn’t party, doesn’t drink heavily with people she doesn’t trust, borderline too cautious, but still...I work in forensics. My work is literally the people who had odds stacked against them. I’m thinking ERP therapy might work but I’m not exactly psyched about spending hours at a time imagining my girlfriend being kidnapped or tortured or raped.

ERP (under the guidance of a qualified therapist) is scientifically proven to work. It's super effective. But it is incredibly uncomfortable. It's a bitter pill but it will help if done correctly.

I’m low-key pretty sure I’m treatment-resistant