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Keep in contact with her. That’s how you can reassure yourself that she’s okay. And try to be logical about her conditions in the army to really evaluate whether or not you should be worried. Consider her position too. You should understand that she needs you to stay strong because she’s the one actually there. You being worried will only cause her to feel worried in a place where she is probably bombarded by lots of worry. So if all else fails, just be confident for her sake at least, so that no matter what she knows she can come to you to feel okay ??❤️
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That must be scary to think about. I agree with everything @KweenMira said. I also believe it’s out of your control, and to do more work on your OCD may ease half of it because the other half is something anyone would be concerned about and that’s a normal human emotion
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I think you'll have to do ERP for that. Which would probably involve visualizing the terrifying scenarios and sitting with them until the emotions subside. ERP is one of the most fiendishly difficult therapies but it is just so effective. I'm sorry you're going through this, it sounds incredibly painful.
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I’m trying not to talk about it too much with her but she knows I have these worries. We talk every day. And I know logically odds are very small it’ll actually happen. She’s combat-trained, doesn’t party, doesn’t drink heavily with people she doesn’t trust, borderline too cautious, but still...I work in forensics. My work is literally the people who had odds stacked against them. I’m thinking ERP therapy might work but I’m not exactly psyched about spending hours at a time imagining my girlfriend being kidnapped or tortured or raped.
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ERP (under the guidance of a qualified therapist) is scientifically proven to work. It's super effective. But it is incredibly uncomfortable. It's a bitter pill but it will help if done correctly.
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I’m low-key pretty sure I’m treatment-resistant
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