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- MemeLord
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Keep in contact with her. That’s how you can reassure yourself that she’s okay. And try to be logical about her conditions in the army to really evaluate whether or not you should be worried. Consider her position too. You should understand that she needs you to stay strong because she’s the one actually there. You being worried will only cause her to feel worried in a place where she is probably bombarded by lots of worry. So if all else fails, just be confident for her sake at least, so that no matter what she knows she can come to you to feel okay ??❤️
That must be scary to think about. I agree with everything @KweenMira said. I also believe it’s out of your control, and to do more work on your OCD may ease half of it because the other half is something anyone would be concerned about and that’s a normal human emotion
I think you'll have to do ERP for that. Which would probably involve visualizing the terrifying scenarios and sitting with them until the emotions subside. ERP is one of the most fiendishly difficult therapies but it is just so effective. I'm sorry you're going through this, it sounds incredibly painful.
I’m trying not to talk about it too much with her but she knows I have these worries. We talk every day. And I know logically odds are very small it’ll actually happen. She’s combat-trained, doesn’t party, doesn’t drink heavily with people she doesn’t trust, borderline too cautious, but still...I work in forensics. My work is literally the people who had odds stacked against them. I’m thinking ERP therapy might work but I’m not exactly psyched about spending hours at a time imagining my girlfriend being kidnapped or tortured or raped.
ERP (under the guidance of a qualified therapist) is scientifically proven to work. It's super effective. But it is incredibly uncomfortable. It's a bitter pill but it will help if done correctly.
I’m low-key pretty sure I’m treatment-resistant
Looking for opinions please. Suffer from Intrusive Thoughts related to speed (not the drug) due to past trauma as a child. However, experienced something different and peculiar. I have been with my girlfriend for 10 + years, she's funny, beautiful and very sweet. I admit that I plan to get engaged end of the year. I recently returned from a trip abroad with my family, then soon took my girlfriend on a trip that involved a long arduous drive. On the day we returned we sat with her family having a nice time (even if I was a little tired) and suddenly a thought hit me from nowhere (paraphrasing) "you're laugh is annoying" or "you're not likeable". I was so taken aback that I even thought this. I love this girl, so where did that even come from?! Because of these kind of thoughts, I started to have an anxiety attack that I attempted to conceal from those around me. I felt sick to my stomach, sweating and even moderately shaking. I'm sure you all know anxiety, so I won't detail it further. But the idea of these thoughts still churns my stomach. Whenever I see her now I feel guilty, I feel anxious that I'll think something like that again. It's a vicious circle of course, the more you try to avoid these things they seemingly get worse. Is this even something related to OCD or Intrusive Thoughts? Usually such thoughts are images, not this. I have been looking up online what it could be, even considering whether it's voices in my head, afterall I don't know what that would even be like. I feel dreadful about it, I want to propose to her but she deserves better surely. Really confused and ashamed. My other intrusive thoughts are not like this, nor related to anyone. Would appreciate your thoughts. Thank you.
Guys I'm really scared to talk about this but it's taken over my life at this point. Occasionally, I would get an intrusive thought that would be kind of racist and I'd be scared or I'll sit and think for like an hour of past situations where I may have been racist. It's terrifying because I talked to my mom about it and she laughed because she said I'm like the opposite of racist which I'd like to believe, but these thoughts are so triggering especially because I am also in a biracial relationship. I would never want to hurt him or make him feel lesser than me. I wanna show him off to the world but there's this put feeling in me like, what if you're only doing all this for him not to be perceived as racist? What if you don't actually believe in being with him and you're scared to show him off? Are you afraid what others think? And then I try to prove the thoughts wrong by disagreeing with them in my head and thinking about the past situation. I try not to compulse while with my bf because the last thing I want him believing is that these thoughts are real and are gonna make me treat him differently. Someone pls help like I can't keep thinking of the only person I love like this.
Hi guys. So idk who all has read about the Lindsay Clancy case, but ever since it’s been brought out, my harm ocd has sky rocketed. With thoughts towards my fiancé and even my dog 😞 I don’t have any kids, but the idea of losing control one day and acting on these thoughts is really getting to me. My biggest theme for years was harm, then went to suicidal for 2 years, and now I’m right back to harm and it’s freaking me out 😞
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