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To stop analyzing, you have to stop yourself whenever you notice you are doing it. The analyzing is probably a compulsion so when you stop doing it, your anxiety may spike which could cause your OCD to create more worries and thoughts, but stick with it! When you are worried about stuff from the past within your OCD theme, it’s almost always OCD tricking you. Just tell yourself, I don’t know and I don’t care because here i am right now in this moment and nothing is happening except some random OCD thoughts. If it feels really urgent and hard to stop, try saying I’ll analyze this thought later at like 7 pm for one hour. When 7 comes around and you start analyzing, you may not even fill the whole hour and it will show you that you can wait, this is not urgent, and that it ultimately doesn’t truly matter.
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Yes! It basically retrains your brain to react to the thoughts differently, showing it that there is no real fear so there’s no reason to keep thinking up the thoughts. It will be hard at first, so you could try waiting for as long as you feel you can and then bumping up the time you wait after each trigger. You’ll see your anxiety really does go down on its own! It’s ERP and I read once that ERP is a simple concept, but hard to do. It definitely gets easier though.
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PS, I know it’s ridiculous only when I get moments of clarity
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It sounds hard but definitely worth while. Is it normal for OCD to tell you that you don’t even have OCD? Like sometimes I’ll get the thought “it’s all a lie” and that’ll make me more anxious
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So just try to sit with the anxiety without carrying out the compulsions basically?
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Yes I get that all the time. I’ve been told it’s ocd by a therapist yet I doubt whether it is.
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I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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- 18w
This shit has to be one of the most confusing subtypes of ocd because no matter what you will never find clarity. When it started it wasn’t as bad and confusing because it was mostly anxiety. But when it started getting physical that’s when it got extremely confusing because I feel tension and fear when thinking of gay stuff but while testing I get arousal sensations so the big question is “if I am afraid of it how can my body respond as if I’m into it and if I’m into it how does my body respond with fear as if I’m not” and it’s endless. I wish I never started testing my arousal so I never started getting groinals to gay stuff in the first place. But there’s no going back now.
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I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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