My OCD has latched onto my partner and I can’t stop thinking he’s lying to me. I’m convinced he has had feelings for another girl even thought he says he hasn’t. My therapist believes my ocd has latched onto this but everyday I feel like something’s wrong. We’ve been together for five years and since this episode he’s broken up with me because of the obsessions but got back with me. About a year ago I told him something I was keeping to myself because I felt so guilty We were not doing to good due to recently moving in together and general arguments (not cause of ocd) and I was scared and wanted him to know this thing. I was in the wrong and after a break he forgave me, but because he had become friends with this girl at work over the past few months we were bad, I became obsessed he has something was going on. For context she has a partner and they mainly went out in a group. After what I told him he was very upset and we broke up, we decided to get back together after a short while, having been together for four years we really wanted to make it work. Since then I became obsessed with this girl from work and he has become increasingly annoyed that I was questioning him about this girl, saying it’s unfair and he trusts me and he’s done nothing wrong. Originally after I told him my secret and accused him, he deleted some texts from her to avoid an argument. He apologised and said it was because he was scared of causing another argument. It’s been a year now and he maintains his innocence but my ocd will not stop. I was cheated on in the past and now I’m terrified my partner is lying to me. We had never had any issues before this, never broken up and I’d not been worried about his fidelity. My ocd just won’t let go. I constantly want to ask stuff about last year and analyse specific texts. I feel like I’m fighting myself everyday but ocd is not intuition and I’m so confused. I know him and I know and believe him but another part of me thinks He’s lying and I shouldn’t trust him. It’s tearing my life apart. I’ve asked him for months and he’s even spoken to my therapist

user1838

Date posted: 5y

OCD sends these thoughts. Listen, ocd tried its best to break your trust for your partner. OCD wants that. You can’t let ocd win. You need to trust yourself and your partner. Don’t focus on the ocd. You know how he is, and you know yourself, you’ve been with him for so long, all you need to do is start trusting yourself. OCD is an intruder in your life, trust me the same thing happened to me ocd broke my life almost. You have to stop it from tearing you life. OCD just is an intruder, it’s your enemy, and wants to make everyone your enemy. Start ignoring those thoughts. I know, it’s so disturbing and difficult to ignore them. I know I know it is. But I got help from this app and the person who spoke to me told me to ignore the thoughts, because it’s not my fault the thoughts are coming in my mind. It’s hard, and that was what I thought that made me decide no I’m not ignoring. But then I had no choice left, I needed to ignore. I realized, it’s hard but it’s better to ignore, than to let my life tear apart. Build up trust and finish the thoughts. Trust is what builds up a relationship, it’s the rope that makes to people attached together. Start ignoring the thoughts, by doing something else. Doing something fun. I know it’s hard, but try. Please try for your boyfriend, try for yourself and your life. It’s not your fault your getting those thoughts, so why do u have to be sad. You know you know him, and if you trust him then you trust him. Spend some time with him, go out for dinner. Try to trust yourself. I know, everyone might have those thoughts when they have a boyfriend or girlfriend but it’s the trust that keeps you together. Trust him and yourself, then ocd can’t even tear you.Try to remove your focus and do other things.

user1838

Date posted: 5y

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