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- JodyASch
- Date posted
- 4y ago
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- sillybilly sillybilly
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Hey, what happened already happened. It’s in the past, and you can’t change that. Time is only moving forward, and not backwards so don’t worry about what you did or what you may have done because it’s already over. Instead, focus on the present or the future and learn from your past mistakes. Learn to love yourself and to accept that you are human and we all make mistakes. Don’t beat yourself up.
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- ocdillustratedocdillustrated
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Can you say more about your goal of "stopping the thought" and what your therapist suggested?
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- JodyASchJodyASch
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Hi, She hadn’t really suggested anything about thought stopping. She really listens to me and suggests I stop all contact with him and suggests that he has issues of his own. My goal is too wake up and not be anxious about him not being in my life or constantly living in the past. I’m not doing well at all. My life is just passing me by. I don’t enjoy anything anymore it’s destroying me. ?
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- ocdillustratedocdillustrated
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Are you avoiding or putting off regular activities and new relationships to make time to think about your ex?
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- JodyASchJodyASch
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Hi Katie thanks for your questions I answered more below.
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- JodyASchJodyASch
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@JodyASch I try to do my regular activities but my thought always goes to “ if he was still in my life “ I would be happy doing these activities” I basically feel anxious and scared, scared I’m going to be like this forever since it’s already been two years since we broke up....As far as new relationships I’ve made some new friendships but o find myself thinking these are not the people I want to be with. It’s like I have put him on a pedestal. I feel like when I was with him life wasn’t as “ scary” or like I always had someone to come home too literally and figuratively. I feel so foolish I’m not getting better.
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- JodyASchJodyASch
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I try to do my regular activities but my thought always goes to “ if he was still in my life “ I would be happy doing these activities” I basically feel anxious and scared, scared I’m going to be like this forever since it’s already been two years since we broke up....As far as new relationships I’ve made some new friendships but o find myself thinking these are not the people I want to be with. It’s like I have put him on a pedestal. I feel like when I was with him life wasn’t as “ scary” or like I always had someone to come home too literally and figuratively. I feel so foolish I’m not getting better.
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- ocdillustratedocdillustrated
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Did the break up come as a shock? Maybe that's why it had such a huge impact
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- JodyASchJodyASch
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@NOCD Advocate - Katie Yes it was a shock and I had just but a house that I thought would eventually move into. My ex contacted me two months after we broke up just as I was starting to feel normal again I then went back into an anxious state But continued to see him because he started to help me with home remodels I was also on limited duty for a bad back injury. My brother committed suicide a few months later while he was on duty as a veteran police detective. So basically a lot happened in the year of 2018. 2019 I was determined to get my life back together. My back was getting better and I began eating better and losing weight and started exercising again. (Sorry I’m ranting) needless to say I was starting to feel hopeful. However the thoughts came back and I started feeling sad, guilty, and alone. I feel stupid writing this. Thanks for lisrening.
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- ocdillustratedocdillustrated
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@JodyASch So it's not just the break up that you're grieving
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- JodyASchJodyASch
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@NOCD Advocate - Katie I guess not. ?
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- DakotaRose
- Date posted
- 6y ago
does anyone else get obsessive thoughts about their ex while they’re with their current partner? i was in an emotionally abusive relationship for almost 4 years (also my first relationship EVER) and i definitely have PTSD from a lot of it. he broke up with me and i’m so glad that he did, because i don’t know how much longer i would have continued to be in that relationship. the thing is, even though he’s done a lot of fucked up things to me, i don’t have hate for him in my heart. i have these thoughts like “oh if you don’t hate him you must still be in love with him” and they make me panic. i’ve been dating my current boyfriend for almost 2 years. i love him so much, he’s so supportive of me and great. i get these awful thoughts that my ex was “the one” for me, i will never feel the way i did about my ex with my current boyfriend, constantly comparing them, etc. i’ve been to therapy for years now, and have come to the realization that i am self-sabotaging. i’m lost, depressed, and scared. any advice would be appreciated ❤️
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- Rosieposie
- Date posted
- 6y ago
It’s been a month since the breakup, and all I can think about still is my ex. While I walk, eat, sleep. It feels like it’s interrupting my life. The breakup triggered my depression to come back after a few months. I’m not on any medication but I feel like I need it now. Any go through the same thing?
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- SunsetAquari...
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Hi everyone, I’ve been struggling lately and been reading up on all the different types of OCD and reading others posts have been comforting to me that I’m not the only one. Here’s what’s been going on lately: My boyfriend and I were together for 5 years consistently. Broke up for 2 years but we’re still on and off but remained single. We are now back together and suddenly I have been obsessing over the things I have done in those 2 years that may have been disrespectful to my boyfriend. My boyfriend forgives me for everything but I can’t stop obsessing over every detail. I am trying/forcing myself to remember every bad thing I’ve done in 2019. And once I think of something I obsess over - why would I do that? What was I thinking back then? We’re those my true feelings 2 years ago? Is that how I feel now? And when I think of something I feel the need to confess to my boyfriend. These thoughts and questions make me have tremendous guilt and feel like I don’t deserve the relationship we have currently. I’m new to all this and have an appointment with a psychologist next week. Any advice until then?
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