JodyASch
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sillybilly sillybilly
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Hey, what happened already happened. It’s in the past, and you can’t change that. Time is only moving forward, and not backwards so don’t worry about what you did or what you may have done because it’s already over. Instead, focus on the present or the future and learn from your past mistakes. Learn to love yourself and to accept that you are human and we all make mistakes. Don’t beat yourself up.
ocdillustratedocdillustrated
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Can you say more about your goal of "stopping the thought" and what your therapist suggested?
JodyASchJodyASch
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Hi, She hadn’t really suggested anything about thought stopping. She really listens to me and suggests I stop all contact with him and suggests that he has issues of his own. My goal is too wake up and not be anxious about him not being in my life or constantly living in the past. I’m not doing well at all. My life is just passing me by. I don’t enjoy anything anymore it’s destroying me. ?
ocdillustratedocdillustrated
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Are you avoiding or putting off regular activities and new relationships to make time to think about your ex?
JodyASchJodyASch
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Hi Katie thanks for your questions I answered more below.
JodyASchJodyASch
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@JodyASch I try to do my regular activities but my thought always goes to “ if he was still in my life “ I would be happy doing these activities” I basically feel anxious and scared, scared I’m going to be like this forever since it’s already been two years since we broke up....As far as new relationships I’ve made some new friendships but o find myself thinking these are not the people I want to be with. It’s like I have put him on a pedestal. I feel like when I was with him life wasn’t as “ scary” or like I always had someone to come home too literally and figuratively. I feel so foolish I’m not getting better.
JodyASchJodyASch
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I try to do my regular activities but my thought always goes to “ if he was still in my life “ I would be happy doing these activities” I basically feel anxious and scared, scared I’m going to be like this forever since it’s already been two years since we broke up....As far as new relationships I’ve made some new friendships but o find myself thinking these are not the people I want to be with. It’s like I have put him on a pedestal. I feel like when I was with him life wasn’t as “ scary” or like I always had someone to come home too literally and figuratively. I feel so foolish I’m not getting better.
ocdillustratedocdillustrated
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Did the break up come as a shock? Maybe that's why it had such a huge impact
JodyASchJodyASch
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@NOCD Advocate - Katie Yes it was a shock and I had just but a house that I thought would eventually move into. My ex contacted me two months after we broke up just as I was starting to feel normal again I then went back into an anxious state But continued to see him because he started to help me with home remodels I was also on limited duty for a bad back injury. My brother committed suicide a few months later while he was on duty as a veteran police detective. So basically a lot happened in the year of 2018. 2019 I was determined to get my life back together. My back was getting better and I began eating better and losing weight and started exercising again. (Sorry I’m ranting) needless to say I was starting to feel hopeful. However the thoughts came back and I started feeling sad, guilty, and alone. I feel stupid writing this. Thanks for lisrening.
ocdillustratedocdillustrated
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@JodyASch So it's not just the break up that you're grieving
JodyASchJodyASch
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@NOCD Advocate - Katie I guess not. ?
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