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I suffer with checking OCD and my husband never wanted me to 'believe I had OCD' (as he put it) he just thought it was anxiety and I'd get over this phase I was going through. We had loads of arguments where I was fed up of him not accepting that I do indeed suffer from OCD. If he didn't understand it just made me feel stupid- as his opinions mean a lot to me. He now gets it finally! ( don't get me wrong he finds it difficult to deal with as some days Are harder than others for me and so he obviously feels that with me too) but I managed to break it down to him that does he ever have times when he massively doubted an action or a decision he made and that he just needs to go back and check and then I asked him to magnify that feeling a lot! And to understand that checking once just doesn't cut it...he seems to understand a bit more now and he tells me that whenever those occasional moments have happened to him he does now think of me and realised how much it must affect me and as he can just check once and feel okay about it.
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With my family I share content about what it feels like to go through an OCD episode. There is an example on the treatmyocd website that works well. It’s easier for people to read about what ocd is like then hearing it from someone verbally IMO
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Don’t blame yourself for your ocd. Ocd is not you. It’s difficult for people without ocd to understand what’s going on, so I don’t blame them. But I also don’t blame you, and you shouldn’t blame yourself. If you don’t already, I recommend seeing a therapist or a counselor. This app will hopefully help though
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@Cjx: it’s in the “Learn About OCD” section I believe
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I had a lot of strain on so many close relationships due to OCD and my eating disorder (which I now am in recovery from). I was able to repair the relationship with my parents and build that trust back up that I broke. A lot of relationships healed. Some didn’t. My best friend at the time, we aren’t close anymore. I blame the ocd and my eating disorder. But I guess some people just aren’t supposed to take this journey with us. Some are. It is hard and it sucks. I still think “if only this didn’t happen...if only I didn’t have my ocd and eating disorder, we would still be best friends.” But not everyone is prepared or equipped to go on this journey with us. I hope you can repair the relationships that have suffered! We are here for you ♥️♥️
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Mjs110160 where is it on the website?
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Thank you everyone for your comments. I’ve tried reaching out and explaining things they just got more frustrated. I don’t know if I got through to them or if I’ve placed even more strain. I guess time will tell. I tried explaining in terms of a contamination obsession I have so that they can see how it goes in your head. “If i valet my car then I’ll get lice.” Ironically they just got frustrated and me to stop “overthinking things” which is the main predicament of my entire existence. If I could I would. I wish people understood that more.
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Hello, I unknowingly have lived with ROCD or OCD (not sure what one. I’m new to this). It has ruined so many amazing romantic and platonic relationships and I am so sad that just now I am finding out what the hell is wrong with me. Maybe life would be different if I have known. My OCD and anxiety is at an all time high (ATH) due to some horrible events that have happened in the recent months. I am at the point where paranoia has taken over my life now. I had my first panic attack a few weeks ago where I fainted. My anxiety attacks are so extreme I go thought cognitive distortion that has lasted days. My girlfriend of 3 years is my emotional guardian and she no long has the energy to be that and honestly it’s not her responsibility to be that. She is bi and wanted to have an open relationship and for someone who has OCD this has not been good for me. She also was assaulted in my own home by a good friend of ours when I was out of town but it’s not a clear situation because it sounded consensual at first. I just left my very high paying job. I am financially secure but the job was emotionally abusive and looking back made my OCD worse. I am taking some time off to get my head right…but now, all I have to do during the day is live in my OCD. I’m very happy I finally figured out why I act the way I do but I don’t know if I can get better quick enough to save my relationship. I have never been so worried about myself (M 28 years old). I am a confident young professional and never thought I would be writing on a page like this. Anyway…I hope it gets better.
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I’m new to the app and wanting to know who else experiences this form of ocd. Some background I was a therapist for over 10 years now I am out of the clinical space. So I have background knowledge of ocd but never knew much about relationship ocd. I realized over the last several years with my now fiancé, that I have a hard time just letting go in general, whether that’s an argument or statement or feeling. I want to be able to just accept things at face value and move on (and talk later if my partner is ready as needed). But when conflict arises I can’t disengage till there is a clear resolution. It’s causing serious strife as he can feel trapped and it escalates the argument. I am reading more and this sounds like relationship OCD. Anyone else experience this? Curious on what others have done to work on this for themselves. I do have a therapist but we are not doing work in this area yet as I am realizing this is an actual concern.
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Hey everyone, First time posting here! Wanted to share my story for some support but also to hopefully make others feel less alone. In short - my ROCD has made such a mess of my personal life. I was in a great relationship until spring of last year, at which point we separated mainly due to my ROCD. I struggled heavily with OCD about 10 years ago (harm based intrusive thoughts, sexual orientation ocd, etc). It took a lot of work but I was able to mostly overcome my struggles and truthfully, hadn’t given ocd much thought since then. I thought I was cured. And then 10 years later I am in a very fulfilling relationship with a girl I really love, but at about the year mark in my relationship things really changed. She wanted to have a conversation about next steps (moving in, marriage, kids, etc) and at that point my brain just went into panic mode and the ocd took over. From that point on, I was constantly scanning for red flags, felt very reserved when it came to any sort of statement or commitment and tended to avoid anything that would indicate I was committed to a long term future. It was not that I didn’t love it was just that my ocd was doing anything to keep me from making a big commitment. It eventually got a point where we had a big conversation about breaking up or staying together and my OCD convinced me that it was safer and that I would do less harm to her if we ended things, which was incredibly devastating to me. At the time I felt like my obsessing over small red flags were normal and that I needed to protect myself. I just had no clue it was ROCD. I spent the next 8 months missing her and kicking myself for my mistakes, and I eventually got the courage to reach out and see if she’d be willing to talk again, which she was. But the problem is, at this point I still didn’t know it was ocd. So when we talked again I was still plagued by ROCD as all the same thoughts and feelings came flooding back. We tried to talk through things but once again I was unable to make any sort of commitment to the future so it went nowhere. Once again, I am feeling very sad and angry at myself for not being able to handle ROCD. I feel like I let it control me twice and has robbed me of a lot of happiness and hurt someone I care very much about. I understand it’s probably not best to just look at ourselves with anger and guilt all the time but it’s hard not to when you feel like you just caused so much harm. Anyone feel like they can relate? Or if anyone is going through something similar I am happy to chat as ROCD can really be tricky. Thanks
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