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I suffer with checking OCD and my husband never wanted me to 'believe I had OCD' (as he put it) he just thought it was anxiety and I'd get over this phase I was going through. We had loads of arguments where I was fed up of him not accepting that I do indeed suffer from OCD. If he didn't understand it just made me feel stupid- as his opinions mean a lot to me. He now gets it finally! ( don't get me wrong he finds it difficult to deal with as some days Are harder than others for me and so he obviously feels that with me too) but I managed to break it down to him that does he ever have times when he massively doubted an action or a decision he made and that he just needs to go back and check and then I asked him to magnify that feeling a lot! And to understand that checking once just doesn't cut it...he seems to understand a bit more now and he tells me that whenever those occasional moments have happened to him he does now think of me and realised how much it must affect me and as he can just check once and feel okay about it.
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- 7y
With my family I share content about what it feels like to go through an OCD episode. There is an example on the treatmyocd website that works well. It’s easier for people to read about what ocd is like then hearing it from someone verbally IMO
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- 7y
Don’t blame yourself for your ocd. Ocd is not you. It’s difficult for people without ocd to understand what’s going on, so I don’t blame them. But I also don’t blame you, and you shouldn’t blame yourself. If you don’t already, I recommend seeing a therapist or a counselor. This app will hopefully help though
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- 7y
@Cjx: it’s in the “Learn About OCD” section I believe
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- 7y
I had a lot of strain on so many close relationships due to OCD and my eating disorder (which I now am in recovery from). I was able to repair the relationship with my parents and build that trust back up that I broke. A lot of relationships healed. Some didn’t. My best friend at the time, we aren’t close anymore. I blame the ocd and my eating disorder. But I guess some people just aren’t supposed to take this journey with us. Some are. It is hard and it sucks. I still think “if only this didn’t happen...if only I didn’t have my ocd and eating disorder, we would still be best friends.” But not everyone is prepared or equipped to go on this journey with us. I hope you can repair the relationships that have suffered! We are here for you ♥️♥️
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- 7y
Mjs110160 where is it on the website?
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- 7y
Thank you everyone for your comments. I’ve tried reaching out and explaining things they just got more frustrated. I don’t know if I got through to them or if I’ve placed even more strain. I guess time will tell. I tried explaining in terms of a contamination obsession I have so that they can see how it goes in your head. “If i valet my car then I’ll get lice.” Ironically they just got frustrated and me to stop “overthinking things” which is the main predicament of my entire existence. If I could I would. I wish people understood that more.
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Hi this my first time ever hearing about this app n i downloaded it because lately my ocd been really bad and I feel I can’t have control over it it scares me because I sometimes hurt people around me when I don’t mean to for example my bf everytime something goes well my head just starts spinning in circles with bad thoughts n wanting to ruin stuff with him lowkey I messed up big times bc I let this time my thoughts win me over n took everything off on him without thinking n realizing how bad I had affected him it kills me because everytime I think im jus a weak person bc I always let everything get to me I’m jus so scared because now my head jus tells me your not good enough your gonna lose him this literally jus happens when something positive comes in my head or something good happens always jus wanna ruin it I hate it because I always believe my thoughts instead of him not because I don’t want to but because also of my past n trauma jus fucks it even more from the deep of my heart i believe him but my head reacts differently n lets it out n now am in the situation of knowing I can lose him any minute now even tho am putting my faith in god n trying my hardest to think positive n be better everyday I’m really trying but w ocd it’s so hard n jus get scared n let my thoughts get to me😞 idk what to do anymore
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- 21w
I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.
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- 20w
Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.
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