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- 7y
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I suffer with checking OCD and my husband never wanted me to 'believe I had OCD' (as he put it) he just thought it was anxiety and I'd get over this phase I was going through. We had loads of arguments where I was fed up of him not accepting that I do indeed suffer from OCD. If he didn't understand it just made me feel stupid- as his opinions mean a lot to me. He now gets it finally! ( don't get me wrong he finds it difficult to deal with as some days Are harder than others for me and so he obviously feels that with me too) but I managed to break it down to him that does he ever have times when he massively doubted an action or a decision he made and that he just needs to go back and check and then I asked him to magnify that feeling a lot! And to understand that checking once just doesn't cut it...he seems to understand a bit more now and he tells me that whenever those occasional moments have happened to him he does now think of me and realised how much it must affect me and as he can just check once and feel okay about it.
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- 7y
With my family I share content about what it feels like to go through an OCD episode. There is an example on the treatmyocd website that works well. It’s easier for people to read about what ocd is like then hearing it from someone verbally IMO
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- 7y
Don’t blame yourself for your ocd. Ocd is not you. It’s difficult for people without ocd to understand what’s going on, so I don’t blame them. But I also don’t blame you, and you shouldn’t blame yourself. If you don’t already, I recommend seeing a therapist or a counselor. This app will hopefully help though
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- 7y
@Cjx: it’s in the “Learn About OCD” section I believe
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- 7y
I had a lot of strain on so many close relationships due to OCD and my eating disorder (which I now am in recovery from). I was able to repair the relationship with my parents and build that trust back up that I broke. A lot of relationships healed. Some didn’t. My best friend at the time, we aren’t close anymore. I blame the ocd and my eating disorder. But I guess some people just aren’t supposed to take this journey with us. Some are. It is hard and it sucks. I still think “if only this didn’t happen...if only I didn’t have my ocd and eating disorder, we would still be best friends.” But not everyone is prepared or equipped to go on this journey with us. I hope you can repair the relationships that have suffered! We are here for you ♥️♥️
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- 7y
Mjs110160 where is it on the website?
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- 7y
Thank you everyone for your comments. I’ve tried reaching out and explaining things they just got more frustrated. I don’t know if I got through to them or if I’ve placed even more strain. I guess time will tell. I tried explaining in terms of a contamination obsession I have so that they can see how it goes in your head. “If i valet my car then I’ll get lice.” Ironically they just got frustrated and me to stop “overthinking things” which is the main predicament of my entire existence. If I could I would. I wish people understood that more.
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- 22w
Hi I’ve never posted before but I need to talk with other people that have this too because it’s hard to explain to other people without ocd. I was in a relationship for awhile and we started dating before either of us knew I had ocd. Anyway I have a really bad episode of it that led me to go get on medication and got into therapy. My ocd can have some really taboo themes and thoughts which I have learned is just what comes with the illness. The problem though is when I was really struggling one of my compulsions was confessing and reassurance seeking specifically to the guy I was dating because I trusted him. We both knew at this point that I had ocd and it affected many parts of our relationship particularly our intimacy which he made me feel bad about. He started calling me crazy, just joking, but still. Eventually I start feeling better and we start being intimate again and the day after he breaks up with me. About a month later after I hear he went on a date with another girl (we live together) he tells me he couldn’t be intimate with me because of my intrusive thoughts. We still live together with 2 other roommates so I still see him everyday. We try to be cordial with each other. I still have my moments though I’m still dealing with my ocd and a breakup seemingly caused by it and I cry a lot. Some months go by and he’s dating this other girl and I end up making out with one of my other roommates. I have no idea if my ex knew but the next day when it was only me in the house he starts screaming “THOSE MOTHER FUCKERS” and starts slamming shit. I tell my roommate about this and he and I are both kind of scared of him. He started acting really cold to us after. Then the night before my graduation my two roommates moved out so it’s just me and my ex in the house. In the middle of the night he comes downstairs and in front of my door calls me a horrible name relating to my intrusive thoughts. I open the door and say fuck you and he says you took my fucking friends. I said I didn’t take shit from you and he says yeah and goes upstairs and screams BINGO for some reason. He did it in the middle of the night when we were alone and I had no one to talk to or go to. He blames me because a lot of our friends sided with me in the breakup because they knew what I was going through. He had told me that I could never speak if my intrusive thoughts to anyone including my therapist (I did don’t worry) but he had made me feel so ashamed more than I was already. Also the next day he left a mess for me to clean up since I was the last one to move out. I’m coming to terms with the fact that on top of this awful experience with ocd that I may have been emotionally abused as well.
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- 20w
I’ve been really struggling with Relationship OCD since I got married, and 3 years later, I’m afraid I’ve lost the love of my life. Between the Relationship OCD, the Religious OCD, and the Sexuality OCD, she couldn’t handle it anymore. Now that she left, the fog of doubt has faded, and I’m realizing how much I truly loved her all along. I just don’t understand how our minds can play such sabotaging tricks on us. And why? I don’t know what to do. I hope and pray we eventually get back together, but I know I need help. I want to do whatever I can to return to a place where she can feel loved by me, the way she did before ROCD took over. Is anyone here going through something similar? Has anyone overcome ROCD? Were you able to repair your relationship? I’d really appreciate any insight or advice. Thank you.
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- 8w
I am very new to this app and to accepting that I likely have OCD. I am not diagnosed yet, but I have suspected that I have it for years now. I think ignoring it/feeding the reassurance loop led to my first really bad panic attack a few days ago that put me in the hospital and essentially forced me to stop hiding my struggle from my loved ones. I had another one last night, and out of habit I’m already hiding my feelings from my loved ones. I’m having thoughts that I know are OCD but they’re very hard to get past because they feel so logical? Some examples: -I shouldn’t tell anyone because it wasn’t as bad as the one that hospitalized me -my loved ones are already tired of hearing me talking about it and I feel bad burdening them -I just had the last one and if I tell people about this one I’ll look like I’m attention seeking -I don’t want people to ask what the trigger was so I shouldn’t bring it up if I don’t want to have to answer that question I’m naming them here not for reassurance, but to help myself hopefully label these things as OCD per usual trying to keep me from getting help. The hardest part of this journey so far has been accepting that there are so many things that feel like normal, rational thoughts and feelings that having been hurting me and feeding a vicious cycle for years on end. It feels unreal because these things have become such subtle integrated parts of my life and my routine, and telling myself those things are harmful just feels wrong. It’s like what I have considered my “gut feeling” for years isn’t actually my intuition looking out for me, but is an overactive fear response that has been isolating me from everything and I’ve never questioned it because the isolation, the reassurance, feels good and like the right thing to do. How do I push past these thoughts and be honest with my loved ones about my struggling? How do I rewire my brain to stop the reassurance seeking and compulsions when it’s the only thing that’s made me feel better all these years?
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