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“I feel like I don’t do any reassurance that I am straight because al I think of is gay acts 24/7 trying to find some level of dislike”. Sounds like reassurance seeking to me
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Yes it probably is but I have lost all desire to be with women and then start questioning whether I was every into them. I thought about kissing my brother earlier and feel no dislike when I thought about it. I just don’t know this is OCD and I feel like I am. I have heard certain stories about people going out and trying it and feel this is the only way I am going to know for sure even though half the time I think I know I am. Does HOcD mean your not gay or could it mean you are?
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Hi! I was going through the same thing about a week ago. For me, I had to STOP imagining scenarios with the same sex to see how I “felt” about it. This is called body scanning! It’s where you try to see how you “feel” throughout different areas of your body. I had to realize that sometimes thoughts/feelings (especially because you didn’t have these feelings at first) are NOT reality. This is OCD tricking you. Trying to see how you “feel” about a certain scenario is a compulsion, and then coming on the app to ask I would say is seeking reassurance. You really have to try to just sit with the discomfort, and you will feel better in the long run. You have to sit with the discomfort of saying “maybe I’m gay maybe I’m not”, rather than fighting these thoughts. Hope you feel better soon.
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Is this common because I lay on my back imagining what it feels like, kiss walls, I even sucked a cucumber last week. is that what you have to do maybe I am gay maybe I am not. What were you thinking of. I have now split from my partner of 9 years as she can’t take anymore of me saying I know I am gay and I can see myself doing it, telling her all about this graphic thoughts, tell her that i have been out and kissed a guy and enjoyed it.
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Sadly I cannot give you reassurance because that will make your situation worse. Just breath. Maybe you are gay maybe you’re not, and you just have to accept that right now until you are in a calm state of mind.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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I can't look at 18+ videos, comics, etc. I am straight, but SO-OCD tries to make me think I am not And the thoughts turns to feelings, and makes me scared, uncomfortable, sad, because I know this is not me. And when I try to imagine myself being with the woman on adult videos, and comics, my OCD gives gronal response not at the girl, and it fills me with fear, and anxiety, I always loved, and was attracted to women but I can't and it caused me to be depressed, and I keep ruminating I keep trying to focus on her, but it's so bad that I avoid those all the time now. I am wondering has anyone gone through something like this, or currently is, and wondering how you have done to combat this!
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Hey guys so I have been suffering with sexual ocd due to the fact that I don’t feel that romantic spark with him anymore, I love him and I know I do but I get to much in my thoughts thinking about why can’t I feel that anymore what has changed what if I don’t wanna be with anymore I’ve been with him for 4 years and at first I think it was ROCD but now I started thinking what if I’m into girls now I’ve always been the type to say oh a girl is so pretty or I like this about her but now I feel like every time I see a girl I’m like do I see myself in a relationship with her oh she’s pretty oh I like her voice do I find it attractive and sometimes I do !!! Which is killing me I feel disgust thinking about because what if I secretly am no shame to people who are my sister herself is but I just feel wierd because I wanna be with my husband and feel happy there not with a girl and feel like a man because I see myself in the mirrior and I’m like do I myself being a man do I look lesbian? Do I act lesbian or bi? What if secretly I wanna be a man or I imagine myself being a man in a relationship with a pretty girl and idk what to think
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