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“I feel like I don’t do any reassurance that I am straight because al I think of is gay acts 24/7 trying to find some level of dislike”. Sounds like reassurance seeking to me
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Yes it probably is but I have lost all desire to be with women and then start questioning whether I was every into them. I thought about kissing my brother earlier and feel no dislike when I thought about it. I just don’t know this is OCD and I feel like I am. I have heard certain stories about people going out and trying it and feel this is the only way I am going to know for sure even though half the time I think I know I am. Does HOcD mean your not gay or could it mean you are?
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Hi! I was going through the same thing about a week ago. For me, I had to STOP imagining scenarios with the same sex to see how I “felt” about it. This is called body scanning! It’s where you try to see how you “feel” throughout different areas of your body. I had to realize that sometimes thoughts/feelings (especially because you didn’t have these feelings at first) are NOT reality. This is OCD tricking you. Trying to see how you “feel” about a certain scenario is a compulsion, and then coming on the app to ask I would say is seeking reassurance. You really have to try to just sit with the discomfort, and you will feel better in the long run. You have to sit with the discomfort of saying “maybe I’m gay maybe I’m not”, rather than fighting these thoughts. Hope you feel better soon.
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Is this common because I lay on my back imagining what it feels like, kiss walls, I even sucked a cucumber last week. is that what you have to do maybe I am gay maybe I am not. What were you thinking of. I have now split from my partner of 9 years as she can’t take anymore of me saying I know I am gay and I can see myself doing it, telling her all about this graphic thoughts, tell her that i have been out and kissed a guy and enjoyed it.
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Sadly I cannot give you reassurance because that will make your situation worse. Just breath. Maybe you are gay maybe you’re not, and you just have to accept that right now until you are in a calm state of mind.
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.
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