HOCD I don’t if I have habituated to the thoughts these says but the thought in my head of doing anything gay doesn’t cause me any disgust or dislike or make my stomach turn and feel like it’s the opposite. It doesn’t excite me in terms of arousal or an erection. My therapist says this is called conditioning and habituation but with out that level of dissatisfaction I feel like it’s the opposite yeah I can do it. So ultimately can Hocd people realise they are Gay and just in denial. Can anyone relate. I feel like i don’t do any reassurance that I am straight because all I think of his gay acts 24/7 trying to find some level of dislike. I have been diagnosed with OCD but I thought this meant I wasn’t Gay like people with PoCD and harm ocd mean ls they aren’t killers or P...

“I feel like I don’t do any reassurance that I am straight because al I think of is gay acts 24/7 trying to find some level of dislike”. Sounds like reassurance seeking to me

Yes it probably is but I have lost all desire to be with women and then start questioning whether I was every into them. I thought about kissing my brother earlier and feel no dislike when I thought about it. I just don’t know this is OCD and I feel like I am. I have heard certain stories about people going out and trying it and feel this is the only way I am going to know for sure even though half the time I think I know I am. Does HOcD mean your not gay or could it mean you are?

Hi! I was going through the same thing about a week ago. For me, I had to STOP imagining scenarios with the same sex to see how I “felt” about it. This is called body scanning! It’s where you try to see how you “feel” throughout different areas of your body. I had to realize that sometimes thoughts/feelings (especially because you didn’t have these feelings at first) are NOT reality. This is OCD tricking you. Trying to see how you “feel” about a certain scenario is a compulsion, and then coming on the app to ask I would say is seeking reassurance. You really have to try to just sit with the discomfort, and you will feel better in the long run. You have to sit with the discomfort of saying “maybe I’m gay maybe I’m not”, rather than fighting these thoughts. Hope you feel better soon.

Is this common because I lay on my back imagining what it feels like, kiss walls, I even sucked a cucumber last week. is that what you have to do maybe I am gay maybe I am not. What were you thinking of. I have now split from my partner of 9 years as she can’t take anymore of me saying I know I am gay and I can see myself doing it, telling her all about this graphic thoughts, tell her that i have been out and kissed a guy and enjoyed it.