so i’m not looking for reassurance or anything, just advice. so I have really bad HOCD, and sometimes it cans feel as if I am really gay. I hate that feeling and no matter what I do, I can’t seem to convince myself that it is just OCD trying to trick me. I have liked guys my whole life, but I have never been allowed to date, so a boyfriend seems so scary. I know for a fact that I want a husband in the future, but when I think about being in a relationship, I freak out. does anyone have any advice on how to change my mindset??

Believe in your core values. OCD will throw things at you to doubt yourself. Try to see the intrusive thoughts fired by OCD as a thought like any other thoughts you have. I know it’s hard but when you react and attach emotions that’s when OCD knows it got you.

@Emily I personally know her she’s definitely straight. Saying things like “you’re bi” will definitely trigger someone with hocd as someone who has personally struggled with it. Plz make sure you know about the condition :))

It’s ok you’ll be fine. We all get thoughts from time to time and just agree with what the thoughts are saying and be like yup I’m such a lesbian, yup I’m a go lesbian it up now. Just agree with the thoughts until they go away it’s just a thought process. I feel like that but I just do the same thing I told you and I keep going till I’m no longer bothered by the thoughts.

I know I wasn’t trying to come off rude sorry if I did I was just letting you know. Much love ?

@cat28 no it’s ok thank you for letting me know!

I know I want a husband in the future but when I think of being in a relationship with a guy now my HOCD flips out

Its my main obsession too nothing really else gives me much anxiety but hocd

Ive been in relationships in love a few times and i have a daughter now its horrible i literally just agree with the thoughts until i get bored i was doing so well until i forced the thoughts on me again

Hi I was just reading through, I don’t feel this way so I’m not of much help but what is HOCD, was that a typo?

oh HOCD is homosexuality OCD, or a fear that you might turn gay. it isn’t homophobia, but just a fear that you will become someone you are not

Ohh okay! Thanks for the clarification and I hope you get the answer you are looking for. Much love. Coming from me, maybe it’s just something you have to do and put yourself out there. Maybe your bisexual and your pushing thos thoughts down out of fear.

@cat28 ok I’m so sorry, I was not completely aware or understanding.

Hey if you figure it out let me know I’m in the exact same stage rn

Same boat as you guys i have had hocd since i was 19 and it comes in waves usually only spikes for a fee weeks or two this time around i have had it for mos worst one yet

How did you force the thought? Did you think about something gay and you got afraid of it? Sunshine1

No i just think “oh well i havent had those thoughts in awhile” “i wonder why” & then BOOM. It starts a cycle again

& then boom it hits me and starts the cycle again

And then boom the cycle hits again i think well thats weird

Sorry @bufferthanyou my app wont lemme type full sentences if i use periods lol