We have a son with OCD. He doesn’t want to get help at this point. My husband and I are desperately trying to find a way to help him and to best relate with him.

Please just be patient with him. My parents got to the point where my anxiety was “too much for them” and I’ve been on my own since then. It’s so hard with OCD to not blame yourself and feel guilt and shame over situations, I’m sure part of him not accepting help is him not accepting that he needs it in the first place

I first showed signs of ocd when I was 12, I'm now in my 20s. I think the best thing my parents did was showing that they were there for me and that I can talk to them no matter what its about. It's important to make sure what the medication he takes and how it is meant to help. I used to hate being on meds but my brother told me that there is nothing wrong with taking medication if it helps. It's also important to let him know that alot of people go through similar situations it's just most of the time people keep it to themselves.

I think it’s great you guys are trying! Some parents don’t go as far as to do that. I’m 16 and my parents are supportive and all, but they’ve never really PROPERLY cared in the way I wanted them to. And maybe I’m just being picky, but it can hurt! I know I just want a little more compassion and understanding, so you could show your son those things? The truth is, unless you have OCD, it’ll be hard to ever properly relate, but your ability to try is very heartwarming. There’s a lot of books or videos you could go through to get a glance into his mind (unless you do have OCD. In that case, you already know). But I think just being patient and kind to him will go a long way as you try to seek help for him. Does he not want therapy?

He’s seen therapists that weren’t really knowledgeable in OCD. That has soured him on getting help. He’s angry a lot of the time. He hates taking meds.

He should want to change first. I want to change and am doing better now.

Thanks to all of you for reaching out with comments!