Does anyone else have an ocd theme that is about someone else rather than themselves? My whole theme is my husband. Not in an ROCD way, the opposite in fact! I hang on his every word, take everything literally, create false memories, feel insecure at times for absolutely no reason. Intrusive thoughts changing all the time, but always about him. He’s a wonderful man and been happily married for 35 years. Just don’t get it. Would welcome anyone’s experience of how to deal with this.

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Username: Where’sMySerotonin?Where’sMySer...

Date posted: 4y ago

I also have thoughts about my boyfriend. We’ve been dating for 3.5 years and ever since one of our friends didn’t like him and started accusing him of “trying to act like him” I’ve had thoughts about him :( I worry that he doesn’t make up his own jokes/copies people all because of one person being jealous. My boyfriend never tried to be him, the dude just had this alpha-male complex and didn’t like that someone else could be charismatic. I tend to not have confidence in myself or my judgement and decisions and depend on others for their input and a bad false opinion sent my OCD spiraling. I’ve also been in a terrible absuive relationship so that alone made me way more cautious. It was a bad combination that resulted in my ROCD. I’m honestly not sure how to deal with this either. Reassurance only makes it worse (as usuall). I started out asking him if he made up this or that or got it from a show but then it developed into “well what if he was just bored or tired and it altered his mind and that doesn’t count” or “what if what he did or said was a sin” so I’m at a loss of how to handle it. I send you two love and hope we beat this OCD real soon.

Username: Angel20Angel20

Date posted: 4y ago

Thanks for sharing your experience. You’re right reassurance definitely doesn’t help does it?! So hard to resist the urge to get it though. Yes let’s stay strong and beat this ocd bully.

Username: ocdillustratedocdillustrated

Date posted: 4y ago

OCD can include thoughts about literally anything

Username: atkyffatkyff

Date posted: 4y ago

I’ve had this, but more like I’d projected my own HOCD and POCD on to him. I analyzed and scrutinized his every move, etc., as I did myself when these were active themes for me. This has subsided for me now, but I guess it should be treated as any other OCD theme. Just label the thoughts, recognize the compulsions, etc., and work on them as you would in yourself. (Not that any of this is that easy though!) I hope this gets better for you. ?

Username: Angel20Angel20

Date posted: 4y ago

Thank you for your reply. I wish it would shift to another theme. I know most people say that whatever theme they have but constantly dealing with thoughts about the love of my life is so emotionally draining. Glad yours has subsided now.

Username: savvysavvy

Date posted: 4y ago

So my most current theme has been ROCD. It’s been nagging at me for the last 4 years. OCD makes me INCREDIBLY self critical and I often turn that internal voice on to my partner and can be incredibly critical of him. In essence, I’m almost subconsciously sabotaging my relationship which is the OPPOSITE of what I want. I’m looking for people who experience this same response and patterned behaviour. Share tips, in-the-moment awareness suggestions. Words of encouragement (not reassurance). OCD is such a trip lol

Username: caseyf28

Date posted: 3y ago

Anyone with relationship ocd have thoughts about not being able to trust your partner? I love my husband. He is the most wonderful human being in the world so I hate that I’m having these thoughts. They all feed into my core fear of going crazy one way or another.

Username: Angel20

Date posted: 3y ago

This is a repeating pattern. I’ll have an intrusive thought, always about the past whether that be a few minutes or a few years. I become extremely anxious. I start furiously trying to disprove it. It can’t be true coz of this, it can’t be true,if it was I wouldn’t be doubting it as ocd etc etc. Then feels very very real due to doing self reassurance. Try to carry on with normal stuff but constantly feeling like there’s something important that I’m ignoring and should be paying attention to. To make matters worse the thoughts are always about my wonderful husband so there’s always the temptation to ask him for reassurance as he’s the only one who can reassure me on these thoughts. That’s not fair on him, he doesn’t deserve it. Does this sound familiar to anyone? Anyone recovered from this? People advise living with uncertainty but when it’s about the love of your life that’s very very hard.

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