Does anyone else have an ocd theme that is about someone else rather than themselves? My whole theme is my husband. Not in an ROCD way, the opposite in fact! I hang on his every word, take everything literally, create false memories, feel insecure at times for absolutely no reason. Intrusive thoughts changing all the time, but always about him. He’s a wonderful man and been happily married for 35 years. Just don’t get it. Would welcome anyone’s experience of how to deal with this.

I also have thoughts about my boyfriend. We’ve been dating for 3.5 years and ever since one of our friends didn’t like him and started accusing him of “trying to act like him” I’ve had thoughts about him :( I worry that he doesn’t make up his own jokes/copies people all because of one person being jealous. My boyfriend never tried to be him, the dude just had this alpha-male complex and didn’t like that someone else could be charismatic. I tend to not have confidence in myself or my judgement and decisions and depend on others for their input and a bad false opinion sent my OCD spiraling. I’ve also been in a terrible absuive relationship so that alone made me way more cautious. It was a bad combination that resulted in my ROCD. I’m honestly not sure how to deal with this either. Reassurance only makes it worse (as usuall). I started out asking him if he made up this or that or got it from a show but then it developed into “well what if he was just bored or tired and it altered his mind and that doesn’t count” or “what if what he did or said was a sin” so I’m at a loss of how to handle it. I send you two love and hope we beat this OCD real soon.

OCD can include thoughts about literally anything

I’ve had this, but more like I’d projected my own HOCD and POCD on to him. I analyzed and scrutinized his every move, etc., as I did myself when these were active themes for me. This has subsided for me now, but I guess it should be treated as any other OCD theme. Just label the thoughts, recognize the compulsions, etc., and work on them as you would in yourself. (Not that any of this is that easy though!) I hope this gets better for you. ?