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I also have thoughts about my boyfriend. We’ve been dating for 3.5 years and ever since one of our friends didn’t like him and started accusing him of “trying to act like him” I’ve had thoughts about him :( I worry that he doesn’t make up his own jokes/copies people all because of one person being jealous. My boyfriend never tried to be him, the dude just had this alpha-male complex and didn’t like that someone else could be charismatic. I tend to not have confidence in myself or my judgement and decisions and depend on others for their input and a bad false opinion sent my OCD spiraling. I’ve also been in a terrible absuive relationship so that alone made me way more cautious. It was a bad combination that resulted in my ROCD. I’m honestly not sure how to deal with this either. Reassurance only makes it worse (as usuall). I started out asking him if he made up this or that or got it from a show but then it developed into “well what if he was just bored or tired and it altered his mind and that doesn’t count” or “what if what he did or said was a sin” so I’m at a loss of how to handle it. I send you two love and hope we beat this OCD real soon.
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Thanks for sharing your experience. You’re right reassurance definitely doesn’t help does it?! So hard to resist the urge to get it though. Yes let’s stay strong and beat this ocd bully.
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OCD can include thoughts about literally anything
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I’ve had this, but more like I’d projected my own HOCD and POCD on to him. I analyzed and scrutinized his every move, etc., as I did myself when these were active themes for me. This has subsided for me now, but I guess it should be treated as any other OCD theme. Just label the thoughts, recognize the compulsions, etc., and work on them as you would in yourself. (Not that any of this is that easy though!) I hope this gets better for you. ?
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Thank you for your reply. I wish it would shift to another theme. I know most people say that whatever theme they have but constantly dealing with thoughts about the love of my life is so emotionally draining. Glad yours has subsided now.
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Currently I have several different OCD fears that pop up throughout the week depending on the situation. I've noticed a commonality between all of them are the fears relating to memory/false memory. Today is the ROCD struggle I've been dealing with. I know OCD has been trying this on me lately because of how much I love my spouse. They are my absolute best friend and she's my world. I value our marriage and friendship more than anything. OCD has latched onto one specific female coworker. And I don't even know why because even if I were single I wouldn't be into her. Even still, OCD makes me think I've cheated on my wife every time I'm alone with this coworker at work. Always starts as a what if, followed by imagery, followed by feelings that I must've actually done something and can't remember it. Usually fearing I've kissed her. It hurts because I know I'd never do that to my wife and I love her so much...the idea of losing her kills me, especially if it were the result of something I did. Just wanted to vent. Feel free to share your experiences or vents as well
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Does anyone else struggle with object permanence in relationships? Like whenever my partner is out of the house I immediately think negatively or I find things wrong with the relationship or him… For background my partner and I always fight over chores (I know it’s common but it’s annoying) I definitely pull more weight than him and I think he has ADHD, which makes him struggle to help and be aware of helping. Lately we’ve been somewhat good with splitting meals and dishes whatever, I know it can change with work stress, fatigue whatever. But last week my partner was out of the house watching his uncle’s dog so he was barely home. He was sleeping over at his uncles house and would come home for meals sometimes and stuff like that. I started becoming super fixated on him not helping with the dishes before he left and would constantly feel urges to yell about it. Even though the week prior everything was good when it came to that (sometimes with my ROCD I’ll even question myself and be like was it?) so I have started 4 separate fights arguing about dishes and chores and mentioning that he doesn’t help enough and if this continues I’ll have to leave… it’s so hard for me to snap out of it and just realize that he was going back and forth and didn’t think to help because he was busy with helping his uncle. And then I get such a negative view of him in my head that I nitpick his appearance, I make comments, etc, because my underlying fear is he doesn’t care to help, he will never change, and we will fail. So it’s almost like I’m looking to have a reason to run before I actually need to? It’s a constant cycle for me and I’m truly so exhausted by myself. But also relationships are so hard for me because I struggled SO much with trying to depend on others that I almost don’t let myself depend on others…. Any advice is appreciated but also just like do you also experience this? Thank you & pls be kind 🥺🥺🥺
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