- Username
- Anna:)
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Tell them to stop giving in to you. I used to do this with my wife. Now she refuses and I feel stronger.
When family or friends "help" by doing compulsions, it's called "accommodation". Accommodation let's OCD keep getting worse. For recovery to happen, accommodation needs to be gradually decreased until it is eliminated. I'm attaching two links. One is a list of different ways loved ones accommodate OCD. Scroll down to page 4 and 5.https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.dmertlich.com/assets/FAS.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwiIjO7tt6LqAhWglnIEHRYvAhsQFjABegQIBhAB&usg=AOvVaw1jedLB42Z6xtn5_jAlnHCl The other is an article about how to create a family contract to reduce accommodation.https://iocdf.org/expert-opinions/expert-opinion-family-guidelines/
My daughter avoids lots of things due to contamination ocd and also asks us to wash hands wipe Face / hair if she thinks nose has touched anything as this is her trigger ?? Aski v is not to Itch nose or touch nose etc. Reassurance mostly from us , which I really need to stop giving as this is a compulsion carries out by someone else and for us not to go In her room or turn away when I Put food down. Really need to stop but her sisters Levels are so highly
Mine got so bad, I have too always ask my bf if I can check his phone too make sure he deleted photos off us. And I know it hard too ignore the thoughts, they just make me feel so sick and stressed and I just cry all the time.
I assume you live your daughter and want her to get better. In order to do the best thing for her the reassurance has to stop immediately. Yes it will be painful for all parties at first. Tolerate the pain to see the success.
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what are some of your mental compulsions? I have relationship OCD but I can’t think of many compulsions I have, so does that mean I have pure O?
How do you resist compulsions?
Does anyone else here struggle with mental compulsions? I have harm ocd and I have been doing ERP for a while now and I have given up all of my compulsions (on good days) but notice my mental compulsions are almost instant.. so hard to stop. I would say I am about 80% better than when I was in the thick of it (worst ocd spike I’ve ever had in my life). I KNOW I would be in remission by giving them up. Can anyone share some of their mental compulsions and how they stop them? I notice mine are comparing myself to other people saying they don’t have this issue, what would they do if they were alone, thinking my way out of a situation as soon as I am triggered (my biggest compulsion is avoidance), thinking of different safety precautions.. etc. I would love any feedback 🤍
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