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- 4y ago
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- 4y ago
My advice is try and find a specialized OCD therapist. Even some that say they treat OCD are really not trained and it can unfortunately make OCD worse as they reassure people's uncertainty unknowingly (which makes the anxiety grow). It can be very difficult and potentially expensive. Depending on your insurance, and since few people are in person at the moment, I would highly suggest finding a therapist through this site- everybody's trained on OCD, and on the methods that work the best and are research-based.
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- 4y ago
By the way she is lucky to have a mom like you! Most of us are not so lucky
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- 4y ago
@MaraNOCD Thank you for saying that.
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- 4y ago
Thank you so much for this. We are actually on the waiting list right now to find a therapist. I’m very skeptical because with kids some just want to pump them with drugs. Right now she is so embarrassed and is afraid to talk to anyone about what she’s going through . She just tells me to leave her alone when she’s having a melt down.
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- 4y ago
It's truly really hard to get thoughts together during a meltdown. I'm 32 and cant get my point across effectively with I'm struggling. My brain just goes 100 miles a minute. A therapist cant prescribe drugs which is a good option. Therapists also cant diagnose but many work on ocd behaviours. I see a therapist and she helps me. I got medication from my family doctor of my own asking. Maybe it would be good to give her a journal if she doesnt have one. It's such a good place to.organize thoughts. The only trouble is touching it some times. I cant bring my journal to certain places of the house or I'll feel I cant touch it later. So it stays by my bed and I use it when I cant get my thoughts together. I just free write for ages and once i get myself, it's easier to talk to others about it. If it is ocd, her brain is likely just running like crazy. It's so hard to form coherent thoughts that make sense to others in those moments. It all makes sense in my head but I cant make it make sense to others in the moment.
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- 4y ago
NOCD has therapists the website is treatmyocd.com they can screen her for ocd
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- 4y ago
I'm so so sorry to hear. Contamination ocd is very lonely. I struggle with it and cant even sleep on the same bed as my husband at times. I cant cuddle my cats or hug and kiss my man. Or hold hands. Its very very lonely. But on the plus side, it's very treatable and the treatment is very easy to learn. Before tossing this her way though, it's likely best to get a diagnosis. Dont concern her by diagnosing on your own as it could be scary for her and then it may not even be the case. Do you have access to therapy for her?
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- 18w ago
Since I developed ocd as postpartum my ocd has mostly always targeted my kids. It started as harm and then switched to pocd. Both are equally very painful. For years I was mostly able to keep my ocd at bay but when it comes back it’s so bad. I have a son and a daughter and my ocd switches back and forth from kid to kid with horrible intrusive thoughts and now even intrusive ocd dreams. With each thought I get past and start to feel relief another one pops right up. The thoughts feel so real and true even though I know it’s just the ocd and not how I think or feel, the ocd always makes me doubt myself and question everything I think or do. I know other moms/dads go through this too. Please anyone who has or is going through this please tell me how you deal with this. 😪
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- 10w ago
Hi everyone, I’m Cayla. I’m a mom that’s lived with OCD since childhood, but my breaking point came more recently after having my son. I was consumed by terrifying thoughts—What if I hurt him? What if I did something awful without realizing it? I was so afraid of my own mind that I couldn’t be alone with him. The shame and exhaustion were unbearable, and I convinced myself I was broken. In 2024, I finally sought help. ERP therapy at NOCD was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it saved my life. Even now, I have tough days, but I know I don’t have to be ruled by OCD. When my 12 year old daughter began showing signs of OCD, I felt overwhelmed with guilt. I never wanted her to go through what I had, but I knew what to do. I told her that I have OCD too and made sure she knew it wasn’t her fault—and that she wasn’t alone. One of the hardest parts of this journey was trusting someone else with my daughter’s OCD. I knew how vulnerable it feels to share intrusive thoughts, and I wanted her to feel safe. Her NOCD therapist was able to establish trust and genuine empathy from the start, and that relationship gave her the confidence to face ERP head-on. Seeing her build that trust made me certain she was in the right hands. ERP has helped both of us reclaim our lives, and it is beautiful to see my daughter managing her condition and making visible progress. Parenting with OCD while raising a child with OCD isn’t talked about enough, but I know so many parents are struggling with these same challenges. If you have questions about managing OCD while parenting, helping your child through ERP, or breaking cycles of guilt, drop them below—I’d love to share what I’ve learned. I’ll be answering all of the questions I receive in real-time today 4-5pm ET.
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- 9w ago
I’ve shared on here before that I don’t have the best relationship with my parents but I still care for them a lot. I love them. This disorder has been so debilitating for the last 4 months. It keeps getting worse. It’s been attacking any physical contact with my parents. Any touches, hugs, playful jabs, caresses, anything. Anything that’s supposed to be pure and loving. My brain jumps to it being inappropriate, or weird or just comparing it to something sexual. Then I just feel so uncomfortable. I don’t know if I’m just hyperaware of how I feel, I tense up badly or if I’m checking how I feel. I don’t know. It breaks my heart. It genuinely hurts so bad. I feel like a child who just wants to cry in her parents’ arms but OCD is trying to take them away. This feels so painful, I’ve been dealing with so many themes but this specific situation hurts the most. I feel devastated and scared. If anyone else has been through this or has any advice, I’d really appreciate it. And if not, just knowing that someone heard me would mean a lot. I feel so deeply sad.
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