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- 6y ago
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Do you feel a lot of guilt? Feel like you need to be punished? Even if what you did wasn't the major
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I completely understand, what about a need to confess? You feel that by your carelessness and not learning from your mistakes that something horrible could happen and it would be your fault
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Definitely have the need to confess. In someways I confess on this app because I don’t really have anyone to confess to. I also write things down but I’m scared that I’ll accidentally erase what I wrote and lose my thoughts. Fear of forgetting things and losing are so strong that what OCD tells me to do to prevent from happening makes sense.
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Definitely OCD related. I have the same confessing feeling. Even with small things. Sounds like you have responsibility ocd
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That if you forget something, do something, or don't do something that it will be your fair and responsibility if something bad hapoens
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And sometimes you have to be honest and tell people about your illness and feel the fear but just tell them. I did that with my pocd and some people distances themselves where others stepped forward and should their love for me. It’s a great way of finding exactly who’s a friend and who isn’t. You’ve nothing to feel shame or guilt about. You’re a human being trying to get on in life, taking each day at a time!!! Keep your head high and be honest. Most people walk around as aliens and not humans. But one day it comes to us all in one guise or another and then they’ll need you there!! Xx
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I do feel extreme amount of guilt but as far as needing to be punished, I’m not certain. Maybe subconsciously I do? But it’s mainly the overwhelming amount of guilt and not wanting to repeat it. I feel that I don’t learn from my mistakes and that caused many unnecessary unfortunate happenings that definitely could have been avoided. Also because of my fear of my carelessness that my dirty laundry caused by OCD will be exposed to the world.
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My checking compulsion (my biggest problem) started after losing pets, family and sentimental items. One less sentimental item but was still a “part of me” was a phone that was stolen that had my ideas, thoughts and embarrassing pictures. So because if my carelessness in the past, I have to check. But I started doubting my checking that I started having to take pictures/videos which are on my SD cards. I’m so scared that one day because of my carelessness that I lose it and will end up in the wrong set of hands and the world will see my embarrassing ocd rituals. I’m trying hard to stop taking pictures but what was already taken I can not get rid of. Even if I did, I don’t know how many SD cards I went through because at the time I was more concerned about having those pictures. See how my past is haunting me now? If I was more careful and thought over about the situation I wouldn’t be afraid of it now.
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The only way around it is to expose yourself to possibly losing and forgetting things
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You have to be careless with minor things and realize nothing bad will happen
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I’m extremely scared that people will find out about my embarrassing pictures of me performing my rituals, have no clue about why I had to take those pictures and ridicule me and think I’m a crazy person. Especially since mental illnesses are so misunderstood.
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@socks23 I have told people. “Friends” and people I’ve just met. I’m not scared of telling them. I’m scared of a complete stranger finding my photos/videos. To give you an idea of how embarrassing they are, I take pictures of garbages just in case I didn’t miss seeing something important that I shouldn’t have thrown out, or videos of me doing my rituals so I know I did it right or did it at all because I sometimes forget if I did something but MOST embarrassing is of me doing my rituals naked. I didn’t want to say this because it’s extremely embarrassing but I wanted you to know the gravity of how scary this is. In a compromising, vulnerable state, a stranger who went through my pictures, who don’t know me, how would I then explain myself?
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You don’t have to explain it. You didn’t mean to lose the memory card/phone- it was taken from you. Embrace it!! We all have our quirks. The likelihood of it being linked back to you is slim and would have happened by now. X
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@socks23 the problem is I have more of those SD cards and because I’ve gone through so many, I lost count. I’m scared I’ll drop and lose them someday. And so if I lose one too many, there’s a good chance my feared outcome would happen. I’m so ashamed of how I’ve been subjected to my OCD.
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Please don’t feel ashamed. There’s far worse out there for all to see all over the media and internet. You have an illness and you don’t want to do what you do. There’s people out there who choose to do things that others may disapprove of. You don’t have a choice as it’s a compulsion. Sometimes with ocd you have to give in to the thought that yes it may get out but you’ll deal with it if it does!! Do u have supportive family and friends? Xx
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- 25w ago
I can't tell if this is OCD to be honest, but with how much I'm focusing on it, it has to be some form or another. My mom and I have never had the best relationship. Ever since I was 6 years old, my OCD has always made me feel like I need to confess my own guilts to her. Our relationship has gotten infinitely better ever since I started therapy a few years ago. Her and I have been able to talk about a lot of things in the past and she's apologized for a lot of things. Recently I've been remembering more real events that make me want to cry. I don't want to keep bringing up things to her that she's done wrong. Especially this current memory, as it was years ago and I know she didn't mean any ill-intent. I don't want to hurt her by bringing this up, because I don't want her to think I'm blaming her or make her feel like a bad mom. I can't tell if this is something I need to talk about with her to get closure, or if this is my OCD disguising itself so I can "confess" to get relief. I'm so tired, I can't stop thinking about it. I'm not even sure if I'm remembering things right anymore. Sorry if this isn't OCD or I sound crazy.
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A good life, success, healing, beautiful things? ⚠️ Important: please don’t read if this is triggering. No one should think this way about themselves, of course you deserve it all. I struggle with real events and harm OCD. My worst fear is being a bad person, causing harm or doing the wrong thing. These thoughts haunt me all the time and cause me to essentially throw my life away. I don’t go out, pursue opportunities, etc. because what if I don’t deserve them? I think of the worst things I’ve ever done all the time. The things that I’m most ashamed of. Like a broken record that’s all I replay in my head. Doesn’t matter if it was 5 or 10 years ago. And I beat myself up for not doing better. And I just don’t know how to move past it. I’ve read a lot of quotes and books about self help and love and acceptance (e.g. once you know better, do better). But for me I feel like I have to hate myself forever. I won’t ever get a clean slate, there’s a permanent stain on my record. I just can’t forgive myself, whether other people know it or not, I can’t allow myself to move forward. It’s about integrity for me. Does anyone relate? How do you do it? I’m so sorry if you’re also struggling. I don’t wish this for anyone. Please keep fighting, you’re not alone. ❤️
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I remembered something I did a couple of months ago that has changed me completely from trusting myself it was a conversation I had with my cousin and something they said unrelated made me remember this happening, I went into a full blown identity crisis i couldn’t walk out of my room or get out of my bed for months paranoid and scared of everything I’m still scared and feel like I don’t even deserve to shower I’m working on it slowly each day but I knew I had to get a therapist and I was diagnosed with ocd because of this event I remembered, and I just don’t know what to do…. I read online that it doesn’t matter how little or bad the event is it’s still ocd regardless when diagnosed but I know I have a compulsion to see others real events and it is nothing compared to mine which I shouldn’t compare but it’s difficult because no matter what I have to come to terms that it’s undeniably bad legally and morally what I did and it’s just so confusing how it’s something I JUST learned about months ago I’m literally in my mid 20s, and I went years without even realizing how troubled my childhood was and yes my real event happened during that time but I was still a teen and old enough to know better but I didn’t understand the magnitude of what I did at the time still no excuse though, this is where I don’t know what To do because 1. I already know what I did was awful and there’s no excuse for it 2. I can’t apologize in my situation that I don’t feel comfortable sharing specifics yet3. Yes I know I changed so much obviously I’m a grown adult now I know what’s appropriate and what’s not that’s why I’m so troubled over this and I never did anything like that again, I’m literally in the happiest relationship and seeing a therapist to also help me understand all this trauma, this event involved my cousin but even they are cool with me and very close as well hasn’t said anything I don’t know if they remember or not but it’s not something I can talk about with them at least not yet (again just don’t want to go in to specifics) but this is why is so confusing and has caused me to have intrusive thoughts about everything EVERYTHING the what ifs what if they remember what if I go to jail what if they hate me what if I’m denying who I have been and I’m this horrible person this whole time without even realizing and everything is a lie my relationship my joy for things what if I’m a ped, what if I can’t love or care what if I’m a person who just harms others manipulates I even spiraled thinking I was going to physically harm someone… it’s very bizarre to me because before my OCD my biggest anxiety was just having to learn how to drive…I’m in my 20s just to mention that again😭 I have probably almost all intrusive ocd categories, These thoughts never existed in my head until I remembered my event it has completely traumatized me but do I even deserve to feel better do I deserve to get help if I did something unforgivable do I move on or don’t? Should I even be living life I just feel guilty even breathing stepping outside I know for a fact if people knew they would never trust me they would feel like I probably should go to jail but do I go on to what others feel or myself? I know I wouldn’t harm anyone regardless of what my ocd tells me I never did anything like that again and wouldn’t but if it’s something that even legally I could be punished for does all of that not matter? I’m sorry I’m just trying to figure out what the right thing to do is , I’m continuing therapy and getting the help but obviously my therapist cannot say if I should be punished legally but even my boyfriend said that if I turned myself in they wouldn’t even take me seriously because I don’t even remember everything fully it was so long ago, but from what I do remember it’s still bad enough mainly just of me being a teen, I don’t want to make that event my identity but I just am so freaked out I feel awful what if I caused trauma to another person and all these years I didn’t even know, this event only happened once that I remember, there were things that happened to me as a child that would explain why it happened but it’s still not an excuse, I did a compulsion and googled what would it be called or the charges for it and the words that popped up triggered me to my core as anyone would feel if they were as stupid as me those words I googled are what monsters are so it’s hard not to think of myself as that it’s hard to not make that my identity if that IS what happened, is living with this guilt my punishment?I don’t want to give up on life I want to love and care and just love life I know this is complicated and a lot not much I can do but I’m just so lost.
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