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- c444tmommy
- Date posted
- 4y ago
- Username
- Jazmine_LeighJazmine_Leigh
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Oh my finally someone I can relate to!! I like can’t let go of things from months ago that he already apologized for but my ocd latches on to how he acted and how he said sorry and wants it a certain way and is like he didn’t really seem that sorry and he didn’t necessarily but stilllll!! I never know if things are in my head or if the relationship is over and he’s a jerk
- Username
- c444tmommyc444tmommy
- Date posted
- 4y ago
YES OMG ....... i literally relate to this SO HARD. if it’s okay with you, my instagram is urfairiegf i would love to talk to u about this!!
- Username
- Jazmine_LeighJazmine_Leigh
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@zoya ACAB IM DOWN!
- Username
- shhshh
- Date posted
- 4y ago
100%
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- Kat790Kat790
- Date posted
- 4y ago
If your partner does something that’s considered a serious mistake, (for example: cheating or hiding/lying about something they know would hurt you), you should leave. Obsessing over the incident is your brain telling you what to do. You stay because your heart says to. “Serious Mistakes” don’t happen with someone who truly loves/wants to be with you. I held on to a guy who was oh so very sorry many times for different mistakes. He always appeared to be sincere and ashamed while apologizing. I eventually even married him. Wasted 13 years because I allowed myself to foolishly believe things would improve. It was extremely difficult and painful when I left him, but now (almost 2 years since the divorce was finalized) I am finally putting myself first and realize I should have listened to my brain and not my heart. All relationships have problems. All bicker/argue. There is no “perfect” relationship. There is a time to know when to leave though! Don’t waste yourself on someone that doesn’t return your feelings and does unforgivable actions!
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- Jazmine_LeighJazmine_Leigh
- Date posted
- 4y ago
The thing is, he doesn’t fully show his emotions when he says sorry and so I can never tell and he doesn’t lie and he says he is sorry but I’ve seen him when we were broken up and he sincerely seemed sorry because he would send paragraphs of how sorry he was I mean it was bigger and we were broken up. But he is not a very emotional guy and me having rocd im very very emotional. Sometimes I just wanna feel loved and stuff but I don’t and Idek if that’s a symptom or not. Like I don’t know if it’s in my head or not that he’s not putting effort but I told him my love language and he every now and then compliments me and stuff but never like tells me how he feels about me as if He’s in his feels cuz he isn’t a “phone type of guy” as he told me, he’s more in person and I haven’t seen him for a month. Idk if it’s my ocd playing tricks on me. I just don’t know how to forgive him for past mistakes until he actually seems sorry so I’m waiting it out to see him again.
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- c444tmommyc444tmommy
- Date posted
- 4y ago
this triggered me really badly. i purposely left out the serious mistake bc it wasn’t as bad as cheating or lying. he called me a name that was rude (for the first time, this wasn’t repeat behavior) and then told me it was a serious mistake and would never happen again. his way of apologizing to me is acknowledging what he did wrong and then promising to never do it again, which is exactly what he does. there are no “should”’s in a relationship (excluding the obvious like abuse). no offense but telling me to “listen to my brain” isn’t very smart considering i have ocd.......please put a tw next time.
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- shhshh
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Please put a 'tw' before posting something like this. All relationships are different and some issues due to rocd are just that. You have to resolve the ocd before you can make that kind of distinction.
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- Jazmine_LeighJazmine_Leigh
- Date posted
- 4y ago
This comment does cause a lot of anxiety because it is different with rocd, it’s hard to see the trueness of your relationship so to leave isn’t the best advice
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- K-DizzleK-Dizzle
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Don't give relationship advice to someone you don't know. I know you're just trying to help but this is not helpful on an app about the disorder that is proclaimed the "doubting disorder".
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- Kat790Kat790
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I’m 30 years old and have been diagnosed with numerous OCDs including ROCD. My years of struggling to leave my relationship was because it was hard to see the trueness. I wouldn’t listen to anyone and I always defended him. I posted my comment hoping to help someone not make the same mistake I did. Sorry for being honest about it. Everyone’s relationship is different but there’s never reason to harm someone you love by what you do. I said to leave if the problem was unforgivable, not just leave no matter what.
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- Jazmine_LeighJazmine_Leigh
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I’m so sorry I didn’t mean to diss your feelings because they matter. I’m so sorry that happened to you. I am hoping it is my rocd but I haven’t seen him for a month and I am hoping that he works on it and maybe once I do erp for once, that i can see clearly.
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- Kat790Kat790
- Date posted
- 4y ago
And the guy I was with didn’t show emotions often either but would act very genuine when telling me sorry...every time... Just hoping others don’t allow a repeat offender to cause the pain I endured.
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- ineedhelplolol
- Date posted
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