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Hey! I haven't experienced this with OCD people on the outside world, as I don't know anyone with it. But I totally get it with general problems! It's like a pure panic feeling of : "Oh no, what's the right thing to say to them??? How do I make it better?? I don't know what's the perfect thing they need in this moment from me. And maybe what I want to say to them ISN'T the perfect right thing to say." so I get really uncomfortable and usually quiet (busy doing compulsions in my head) and hoping for the conversation topic to switch. It could be down to an incorrect belief of responsibility for others. At least for me..
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Thanks for your message ❤️ yess I think a lot of it does come down to the responsibility towards others that I put on myself...
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@Teee123 ❤️Are you in therapy? 😊
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@ButterflyStar No I'm not, are you?
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@Teee123 Yes I am.. For 2 years now this month. Would you like to start therapy? It would be so great for your recovery 😊
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@ButterflyStar I don't think I can afford therapy rn 😩 I wanted to try NOCDs therapy sessions but they don't do it in the country I'm living in
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@ButterflyStar How are you finding therapy?
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I’m exactly the same x
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Aww I'm sorry it's not available. It's not available in my country either. Where do you live? I'm in the UK so I have thankfully been able to get therapy for free through the NHS. Yes its been absolutely crucial. OCD really wiped me out, I wasn't functioning and was very suicidal for a number of long months. But slowly, surely, very very slowly, with this great therapist she has guided me in recovery. I'm still on my journey of recovery but I have came a long way 😊👍
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Awhh that's difficult, im glad you're doing better than before 💕💕 I'm also from UK but I moved to Qatar a year ago and healthcare is expensive here 😭
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@Teee123 Thank you! Aw gosh wow!! What's that like living in Qatar? 😊
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Sometimes when you’re dealing with a mental illness, you can’t be there for others. That’s okay. You’re allowed to ask your friends to talk to someone else about their symptoms, and just talk about friend things with you for a while.
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I totally get this too! I also think it’s feeling like I’m responsable for others. Not really with OCD stuff, but with other people’s general Troubles or worries. People often come to me as I’m kind and caring, but sometimes it’s just too much for my brain! But of course I just stay, listen and panic and become overwhelmed with their/my emotions! I suck them all in like a sponge! Afterwards I just obsess over how to fix people’s problems, or wonder how I could be partially responsible, and what I can do to help! I’ve worn myself out trying to help my best friend with her job.. e.t.c.... e.tc. It’s hard and I feel ya! X I’m also in the UK and have just finally got my first NHS appointmrnt coming up!
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Everything you described is definitely how I am too!! It's so distressing 😔😔 So glad you are getting your help from the NHS yay!! Some things that helped me- Was to ask the therapist, "Have you worked with OCD patients before?" "a lot or just a few?" "what's your method for treating OCD? Would you be eventually taking me through ERP?" depending on how severe your OCD is, and how much this affects your life--you can ask how many sessions you will be given. For me, i was completely not functioning and suicidal because of the OCD and I had to state at the start, look I can't just be given '6 sessions from the NHS' or something like that, I really really need long term help because I cannot survive like this. And thankfully, she has kept to her word and we are in long term treatment. It's been 2 years. And I won't always be in treatment forever😂! But until I can get a hold of OCD and understand how to manage it better. Hope some of that helps and I wish you the very best on your recovery journey 😁😁❤️
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@ButterflyStar Thank you so much for your comment! I feel less alone! I will definitely be asking my therapist the questions you shared! so helpful. It’s really tricky to make sure your getting the right help.. as in the past Nothing has worked long term! I’m sorry you’ve experienced this its really distressing and overwhelming,😞 but I’m so glad your in a better place and on the road to recovery, got what you needed out of therapy, And are in a place to help others! Good luck! X
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@Aheatherb Yes your pains and worries are definitely shared by others, and we will support you!! 😊👍 Aw thank you so much your comment was really lovely! Yes it's hard isn't it when nothing else works. But you did the best thing which is ask for help and enter treatment 😊👍 there are surprisingly a lot of people who do not want to start therapy even with the means to. So well done! 😁😊X
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TW: suicidal Constantly fixated on the fact of helping people. I’m always doing compulsions like checking social medias to see if people need help etc, it’s exhausting cause I’m so sad I’m unable to help everyone. I just don’t know what to do and if I’m being entirely honest it’s making me not wanna be here anymore. I’m afraid that if i walk away from my phone for even 5 minutes someone will be in need and in danger and I want be there to help therefore it’s my fault etc. how can i cope with this? Obviously I want to help people but I wanna do it in different ways
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So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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I started dealing with OCD when I became fixated on health issues, particularly the fear of contracting a life-threatening disease. If I experienced any kind of medical symptom, no matter how small, that even remotely hinted at something potentially fatal, it would drive me crazy, and I couldn’t stop obsessing over it. Then one day, I started having intrusive thoughts about accidentally hitting someone with my car, and I would end up driving in circles to check if I had. Eventually, I found myself overwhelmed by a flood of new obsessive thoughts and compulsions. One day, while I was at the park, a squirrel came near me, and for some reason, I felt like it attacked me. I Googled it and learned that squirrels could carry rabies, which spiraled me into a deep fear of rabies. I became consumed with the thought I received a bite from a squirrel, raccoon, or bat any time I’m in areas that trigger me. It started off only being inside then transferred to even being in my own home. This made me obsess over every physical sensation in my body, compulsively checking to make sure nothing was wrong. One compulsion that I hated the most would to be putting rubbing alcohol on me to make sure that I had no open wounds. Every day feels like I’m walking around in a fog of anxiety, constantly worrying that I won’t even make it to old age. Sometimes, it gets so overwhelming that I just want it all to end. It stresses me so bad at times to where my brain feels like I’ve been studying all day.
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