Hey guys. I’m having a really hard time. Everything feels so hopeless right now. My girlfriend and I just broke up and it was the first time that I felt like I actually saw a future with someone. I hate that my OCD turns me into this insecure person and someone who constantly second guesses myself. I know it’s not the sole reason for the break up, but I hate that I can see the person I want to be, but can’t see to get there. Anyone else struggle with this? I feel like I’m stuck behind a chain link fence, and can see the good on the other side but can’t get there. I just wanna know I’m capable of getting there. Sorry everyone, just venting and looking for some support :/.

I feel like OCD doesn’t let us see how valuable we are as human beings. You prob don’t see all the good and redeem characteristics you have. OCD just concentrates on the bad that we don’t see the good in all of us. You’re going to be alright , I can’t help much with the breakup that heals with time. But with your OCD it’s all in ur head, you’re a great human being. If you can’t see the reasons why you matter no one else will. Chin up man we in this together.

I’m right there with you!

Me and my girlfriend broke up as well, it was a lot for her and the distance was another heavy factor. I don't have the best advice but focusing on yourself right now and controlling or beating or whatever your ocd is key to beating the second guessing and everything else.

You can do it ?

You don’t want to hear this, but, you were in a relationship with your ex for a very specific reason. You will learn something from this experience. Everything happens for a reason. I have had a ton of relationships that failed, but after the breakup, I always gain an understanding of what they gave me, or what I gave them, to help them along the way to their path in life. Ex... I have helped more than one boyfriend become more self assured, and they’ve gained the ability to stand up for themselves as a result. But when my job was done, the relationship ran its course. It’s been heartbreaking, but as time goes on, the pain fills a little. I have a ton of “what if’s” with a few guys, who I thought were “the one”. And I replay in my mind our relationship, and try to picture my life with them. What about me would be different? Would they care for me as well as loving me? It’s a horrible cycle. But eventually, you’ll get to a point of acceptance.

Thank you everyone for all of this. I feel lucky to have found this app and all this amazing support ❤️.