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Do you expect everyone to stay single if someone they love has died? Biologically speaking, that’s not how humans are made; we want to have companionship and reproduce. If you personally want to do that, then that is your choice, but it’s not disrespectful if someone moves on years after a loved one dies. Especially when, let’s say for Mac Miller, he was a drug addict and didn’t want to get better, even for love. So she had to move on or he dragged under with him.
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life simply goes on. if we halted our existence following the passing of someone, we’re going against human nature. we’re social creatures, we crave intimacy. that doesn’t mean the person that had moved on doesn’t love the one that’s passed any more, it just means they’ve learned how to cope
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Well, what do you want them to do? Mourn forever and ever, not be able to move on, and be traumatized for the rest of their lives? Time doesn't stop for anyone and life simply continues. That's just the way it works unfortunately. If we could somehow resurrect him and have them still be together that'd be great! But unfortunately, we can't.
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You cannot mourn and be sad forever. You cannot. And humans especially aren’t made that way. Humans do not mate for life. We are made to move from partner to partner even if they die. Is it hard? Yes. It’s very hard. But also consider they broke up already years before he died. Do you just think she’s supposed to be single forever because of the death of a boyfriend she broke up with years ago? It’s not disrespectful. It’s life.
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I met my boyfriend unexpectedly. Obviously you don’t become boyfriend and girlfriend the day you meet . It takes time to get to know eachother and then you become that . But before I met him I had a little fling with someone & I continued to still talk to him and hangout with him until me and my boyfriend now got serious . Is that wrong ? Am I a cheater ? I cut off the other guy like a week into me and the new boyfriend getting to know eachother . But even when I cut the guy off my boyfriend was still out here flirting and hanging with other girls until we became serious . Which I don’t care about anymore . But does that make me a cheater ?
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My psychologist tells me because my thoughts are based off of facts/ broken boundaries which is why I am having thoughts of am i in love , am I settling , and feeling guilty I should let him go to find someone who wouldn’t doubt him that I do not have rocd. She states rocd is intrusive , irrational thoughts not based off of real facts and I may have ptsd not ocd. He kissed someone else before we were official and he finds a certain type of female attractive that I find disgusting . So I spin about these issues all day long to the point I’m so unhappy with him and had to break up . It’s been over a month now but I’m still severely anxious and depressed The thing is I can’t stop thinking about this 24/7 with severe anxiety and depression and nothing is helping me . Can someone please tell me their thoughts
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I’ve been really struggling the last week and I need some help. I’ve been seeing a guy for about 2 months who checks a lot of my relationship boxes. He’s so kind and we have a lot of fun together. The first few weeks I was totally smitten but had moments of fear about being committed. We talked about it and decided to take things slowly, and then I would have days of feeling like every thing was perfect with some fearful feelings in between. Two weeks ago now my SO-OCD and ROCD started to come back a little as well as my more anxious-avoidant behaviors. I started to get more scared of the future and it was more intense. At the end of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He is exactly the type of person I see myself marrying and has great values and is so secure about me. Until last week, he generally made me feel so safe and secure. Ever since saying yes, I feel so scared and anxious and my SO-OCD and ROCD is on max. I also find myself getting more annoyed and irritated about things that were minor annoyances or non-issues before. I’m having intense physical responses to both OCD themes, and the nagging thought and feeling that I need to end things with him because we aren’t right for each other. It makes me feel so sad and guilty. Sex is becoming harder because of the thoughts too, whereas at first it was perfect. I don’t know who I can talk to about this without them telling me to just break up with him. Everything is so new so I think they’d chalk it up to my intuition. But I do want to be in love and have less fear around relationships, so I don’t want to give into the fear. I think it could help me to set boundaries and have space for myself more often. I think I need some advice or insight. I know I shouldn’t ask for reassurance, but having some around how other people have felt at the beginning of a relationship would help. Why is it that the label is freaking me out so much? How do you guys set boundaries to prioritize yourself when you feel this way?
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