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family is meant to be a place of support and love. They should want to have your best interests at heart and I also would recommend they learn a bit about ur condition if your speaking about it consistently. They need to understand this is a slow and patient recovery and that you do not need to feel pressured or incapable of being a in better state of mind due to them being impatient. When I was suffering the worst with ocd I didnt really put it on my family and those close to me (only when I broke do) because I thought the repeat of such negativity would tire them. Which is true and I'd reach out just for advice, but didnt really bother them often with this because I could make them sad too. This was my choice and it's a quite hard one but I'm quite independent in general. No matter what you choose, I hope the feeling of being a burden stops because u dont deserve that. All the best
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Thank you so much for your reply, it really helped! I also hardly talk about it with my family too, for very similar reasons, only when financial stuff gets involved. I just get worried they find me being down very annoying, as they’re generally very happy people. they try their best to learn however I think the stereotypes about ocd cloud their view slightly, as my compulsions are pretty much all mental, so I think they find it hard to understand. I will deffo take your advice tho and maybe step back from talking to them about it, as I do have to be weary or their mental health too, and me being all scared can’t help! :)
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- 4y
You no what's best for you if ur therapist isnt helping you can tell the vibe you get
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- 4y
Thank you for your advice! I think you’re right, just need to get over the fear of erp haha!
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i completely empathize with this, because my parents also thought this was something that i could shrug off. they were going through their own shit with a divorce and probably didnt want to deal with my bullshit. however, this isnt bullshit, and is an illness that requires specific treatment. i showed my parents resources and videos that helped them understand the acuity of what i was going through. i urge you to do the same with your family so that they can understand and seek proper treatment for you. hopefully they come around. remember though, that you are NOT a burden.
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