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- 4y ago
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- 4y ago
family is meant to be a place of support and love. They should want to have your best interests at heart and I also would recommend they learn a bit about ur condition if your speaking about it consistently. They need to understand this is a slow and patient recovery and that you do not need to feel pressured or incapable of being a in better state of mind due to them being impatient. When I was suffering the worst with ocd I didnt really put it on my family and those close to me (only when I broke do) because I thought the repeat of such negativity would tire them. Which is true and I'd reach out just for advice, but didnt really bother them often with this because I could make them sad too. This was my choice and it's a quite hard one but I'm quite independent in general. No matter what you choose, I hope the feeling of being a burden stops because u dont deserve that. All the best
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- 4y ago
Thank you so much for your reply, it really helped! I also hardly talk about it with my family too, for very similar reasons, only when financial stuff gets involved. I just get worried they find me being down very annoying, as they’re generally very happy people. they try their best to learn however I think the stereotypes about ocd cloud their view slightly, as my compulsions are pretty much all mental, so I think they find it hard to understand. I will deffo take your advice tho and maybe step back from talking to them about it, as I do have to be weary or their mental health too, and me being all scared can’t help! :)
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- 4y ago
You no what's best for you if ur therapist isnt helping you can tell the vibe you get
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- 4y ago
Thank you for your advice! I think you’re right, just need to get over the fear of erp haha!
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- 4y ago
i completely empathize with this, because my parents also thought this was something that i could shrug off. they were going through their own shit with a divorce and probably didnt want to deal with my bullshit. however, this isnt bullshit, and is an illness that requires specific treatment. i showed my parents resources and videos that helped them understand the acuity of what i was going through. i urge you to do the same with your family so that they can understand and seek proper treatment for you. hopefully they come around. remember though, that you are NOT a burden.
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I’m feeling kind of sad cause today was not a really good day in terms of my ocd. I was feeling kind of foggy/numb and that send me to spiraling. I’m 21 years old currently studying but my family has been having trouble with money for the last couple years(we’re just me and my mom) and I kinda want to get a job but everything is far from my home and I wouldn’t be able to return back at night, also it’s either way more expensive to move or the schedule wouldn’t let me take my classes. The point is that because of that every time my mom is stress tends to treat me bad, she speaks to me like I’m stupid or she just screams to nothing cursing all life and everything and that actually makes me feel soo bad and guilty for not doing anything, I know it’s hard for me to get a job that actually helps us without quitting school but that doesn’t stop me from feeling like I’m a burden. I want to help, I want to maybe hug her or something but I know she will be angrier and probably will reject it. So that’s it, I just feel like she punishes me for the stress she’s carrying and I get it but one day is happy and it feels like all love and the next is treating me like that, Idk it’s hard (also I feel like I shouldn’t be saying this cause it’s all my fault) 🫤
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