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family is meant to be a place of support and love. They should want to have your best interests at heart and I also would recommend they learn a bit about ur condition if your speaking about it consistently. They need to understand this is a slow and patient recovery and that you do not need to feel pressured or incapable of being a in better state of mind due to them being impatient. When I was suffering the worst with ocd I didnt really put it on my family and those close to me (only when I broke do) because I thought the repeat of such negativity would tire them. Which is true and I'd reach out just for advice, but didnt really bother them often with this because I could make them sad too. This was my choice and it's a quite hard one but I'm quite independent in general. No matter what you choose, I hope the feeling of being a burden stops because u dont deserve that. All the best
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Thank you so much for your reply, it really helped! I also hardly talk about it with my family too, for very similar reasons, only when financial stuff gets involved. I just get worried they find me being down very annoying, as they’re generally very happy people. they try their best to learn however I think the stereotypes about ocd cloud their view slightly, as my compulsions are pretty much all mental, so I think they find it hard to understand. I will deffo take your advice tho and maybe step back from talking to them about it, as I do have to be weary or their mental health too, and me being all scared can’t help! :)
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You no what's best for you if ur therapist isnt helping you can tell the vibe you get
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Thank you for your advice! I think you’re right, just need to get over the fear of erp haha!
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i completely empathize with this, because my parents also thought this was something that i could shrug off. they were going through their own shit with a divorce and probably didnt want to deal with my bullshit. however, this isnt bullshit, and is an illness that requires specific treatment. i showed my parents resources and videos that helped them understand the acuity of what i was going through. i urge you to do the same with your family so that they can understand and seek proper treatment for you. hopefully they come around. remember though, that you are NOT a burden.
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LONG VENT POST: This is my second post of the day. Seriously, I am SO sorry. I have therapy tomorrow, I promise I will shut up after this lmao. Anyway, for Memorial Day weekend, I spent it at my aunt/uncles vacation house. Fortunately it wasn’t a big crowd - just my mom, grandmother, aunt, uncle and I. For context, I come from a pretty big family, and I am the youngest of 7 cousins and a younger sister to two brothers. All my cousins are in their early to mid 20’s, each very successful in school and their careers. My half brother is 29, and absolutely crushing it. My full brother is turning 23, he’s also doing amazing with school. I just turned 20 in April, I feel very lost. I know I want to be a forensic psychiatrist one day, and that I want my PhD. I want to be the best therapist I can be, but the fact that I barely get by with ocd/adhd has been discouraging me, so I currently feel like a flop. Anyway though, spending time with my aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents triggers my ocd the most, as majority of them can be on the judgmental side. ESPECIALLY my aunt, she’s on my moms side, and she and my mom are total opposites. My aunts a very calculated, straightforward, logical, stern, sassy buisnesswoman. She’s successful, but lacks a lot of understanding and can be so cold and just mean. My moms a kindergarten teacher in a struggling community, and she’s always thinking about others before herself, extremely emotional, caring, but neglects her own needs a lot. They’re sisters, and they bump heads a ton. My aunt and all of her kids aren’t neurodivergent. They simply don’t understand mental health. My mom does, thank god. My aunt and uncle think that if a kid is having a psychotic break, then that kid should be kicked out of the house and not helped at all. My mom and I entirely disagree with this idea, and that someone clearly mentally suffering NEEDS mental health help asap, and they need to be home. The streets are the last place someone suffering should be. While we were vacationing at the house, my mom argued about this with my uncle. I was asleep, thank god, but I seriously hate having people in my family like this. I can never tell them about me having ocd, they’ll think it’s just an “excuse” for not getting things done, or just me trying to feel special. The reality is, they don’t get it. My full brother went through the worst psychotic break a few years ago. It lasted two years on and off due to bipolar disorder, but thank god he got himself help and he’s doing absolutely amazing now. He’s frustrated and embarassed with himself but now he’s on track, and as I said, crushing it with school. But the entire time he was going through this, my aunt and uncle just didn’t understand. To keep it short, they thought his mental problems were behavioral, and that he’s a “crazy” kid. The reality is, he was coping with the loss of his childhood best friend and our other uncle who was like a second father figure to us. He had manic episodes from the grief and self medicating with drugs and alcohol. This was all the while Covid was happening and he was a freshman at a college states away. He was so vunerable. I’m saying all this because, well, how am I to seriously be forward about my mental struggles when they couldn’t even show the slightest amount of empathy to my brother, who was struggling, so much more intensely than me? I’m quiet at family gatherings when they’re around for this exact reason. I have so much resentment toward them for it. I try to avoid them when I can, because I love them, I just hate their actions/views. What do you guys do with these kinds of people?
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