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I have so-ocd as well and I also get that same thought of “I can see why people are attracted to women” because well women are beautiful and they’re also taught to take care themselves and always look presentable, but I just can’t imagine myself being with someone so like me or at least I hope that’s my truth. It’s alright to acknowledge that men are attractive and to acknowledge why others may be attracted to men. It doesn’t mean you want that for yourself, we all have those passing thoughts about people outside our orientation at one point, they don’t mean anything unless we want them to. Ocd just makes us latch onto it and obsess.
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yes! I got that same thought and also “how could you not be attracted to women?” and I was just like huh? bc I’ve never experienced attraction to women in my life lol. You are definitely not alone 🖤
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Exactly I had the same thought Too. Omg I thought I was alone . Exactly me too but suddenly after hocd these thoughts started. Thank you for letting me know . It did a great help 💖
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@Hocdtrynaruinmylife You’re never alone!!!! Like srsly. I guarantee there is always someone other there w the same thoughts. And even if there isn’t, everyones experiences and thoughts are different and that does not mean anything ab ur ocd
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@222 Thank u so much. UK wut it is tiring. I can't even look at beautiful girls normally without thinking if I am attracted to them or not. Like it is becoming hard for me to distinguish between attractiveness and good looks. I can't stop this thoughts either and knowing that someone is having same thought as me seems to be of great help :)
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i relate to this a lot somewhat about women i’m confused completely if i’m sexually attracted to girls the only girl that i believe i was sexually attracted to was this one girl a year and a half ago and i mean i was down to do stuff with her but like i never could do it like it just never happened and i was okay with that completely but yes i feel like a completely closeted bisexual and ik you don’t have to do something with the same gender in order to say you’re sexually attracted to them like you can just want to i never fantasized about it either but that’s the only girl i can think about. and ik the past doesn’t matter but past attraction does and it’s just confusing. but trust me it’s completely normal to think that thought. men are hot! women are hot! so don’t think you’re closeted because you think that.
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yeah, i relate to some of that. i have a past experience my ocd likes to latch onto to try to prove to me it meant something when i feel like it didn’t. but then again idk because sometimes i rlly convince myself
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these thoughts are just so hard
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 i totally get that! i know i’m not 100% straight and i’m 100% okay with that i’m just not okay with NOT knowing what i am. i have more homosexual tendencies than most 100% straight-as-a-ruler straight girls and i’m okay with that i just don’t know where i fit i believe it’s somewhere in between straight and bisexual like even that sounds about right to me. we have to stop trying to figure it all out and i know that’s so hard but i know we can do it☺️
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@holley ohhh so r u afraid of being more gay than u though u were? or afraid of being bi? no hate to bi people but yeah i feel the same way u said, i just am afraid of my sexuality changing and in this case meaning it changing to bi or straight. that’s rlly what my fear lies in
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 i just hate change and i don’t want to become someone i don’t feel like i am
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 i don’t think it’s a fear of being bisexual because before ocd i didn’t give a fuck what i was. i was so carefree. it’s this obsessive thought pattern 24/7 that i MUST be bisexual. i don’t like it. i don’t wanna constantly think i’m bisexual. OCD isn’t about labels. it doesn’t care. OCD is all about the control our thoughts hold over one idea and i’m so tired of this shit.
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Idk what else to title this. I was watching a film cooper video cuz why not and he mentioned smthn about wall paper customization and icons and stuff and I just kinda had a groinal response followed by the memory of me having my first crush on a woman (my friend at the time) that helped me figure out that I’m bi and I felt kinda intensely for her but that’s cuz a) it was new and b) we were kinda on again off again friends who haven’t spoken in a few years now and I’m over her entirely. It was toxic I think. She was too much like the person who bullied me in elementary school (they were friends as well so my mom made me cut her off which is. Fair. Made me really sad but eh that’s life) I saw her at prom cuz someone brought her. It was nice to see her but yeah that was it. And now I’m mentally comparing what I felt for women in the past (idk intense crush, listening to a lot of gay songs (think she by dodie) dressing semi masc cuz funky, we had nicknames for each other despite not dating or anything) to men (less intense crush but still big crush, I’ve only dated and kissed men so sparks rhere) and now I’m just slightly nauseous and worried that I don’t like men as much as I like women but I think that’s normal for any bi person? To have different levels of attraction to different genders? Idk I feel gross and icky now like I shouldn’t even be thinking about it or her cuz I have a bf. And I do look fondly upon it, now I’m nervous cuz I got more excited about her calling me a specific nickname than I do from my bf calling me honey even at the beginning? Honey felt more traditional and I love it but we do switch around nicknames and it’s always nice, not many butterflies anymore, and sometimes I get anxious when he does lately, if it’s a nickname in Portuguese. Or if he called me a shortened version of my name. What does that mean? I’m nervous now. I was doing half decently today now I’m nauseous again. I’m worried that cuz I liked the nicknames she and I had that means I don’t like the ones my bf and I have and that I just don’t like him or men cuz I’ve been feeling off around him. But I love when he calls me honey, it still feels good when he does it now but no butterflies. Idk what’s wrong with me. Is it even ocd at this point. Even if I do like women slightly more it doesn’t erase that I love my bf. I’m worried I’m leaning too much towards women tho and I’m a lesbian. Idk if my bi cycle is cycling or if I’m just a lesbian entirely cuz I don’t feel much when my bf takes off his shirt, sex feels different, and things feel stale and slow. But maybe that’s cuz I’m checking and comparing. Now I’m anxious fuck. I’m trying not to think about her idk why. I’m worried I still find her attractive or am attracted to her or smthn. She’s in my city. I didn’t care before but now I do. Or if I think about her I’ll think about other women and will only want to have sec with women which not really tbh. I wanna be able to enjoy sec with my bf. It just hasn’t felt right lately cuz I’ve been so depressed and obsessive. I wasn’t obsessing much last night when we had sex but it still didn’t feel passionate. It didn’t feel uncomfortable but I thought it’d be more? Idk. I know it’s normal to not feel him inside me cuz the vagina isn’t very nerved up compared to the clitoris but it felt like more the motions. But tbh. I needed it. Idk I wanted to have sex and it was a nice stress relief. I just didn’t feel butterflies which kinda bummed me out but we’ve been having sex since august so that’s normal. Idk. I haven’t been able to fantasize about sex. The fact that I’m bi makes all of this so confusing. Cuz yes hypothetically I can enjoy the thought of sex with a woman. But I don’t want to rn cuz I’m dating a man. And I can’t fantasize about sex with him cuz I’m getting intrusive thoughts about my friends and I having sex. I have this urge to watch porn cuz it’s been a while but I’m not going to. I’ve cut down a lot on masturbation. Partially cuz this partially cuz I wanna do things with my bf (when I’m mentally ok) but jow my brain is saying “Oo you think all these women are so hot you’re gonna go feral blah blah blah” and yes women are hot but I don’t wanna have sex with a woman. Idk saying women are hot doesn’t bring me anxiety but the thought of sex with one or leaving my bf and saying I’m a lesbian bother me. Cuz I know it’s not true. I love him I know that. I’d be happy if we stayed together. I wouldn’t regret a thing honestly. I like having sex with him. Idc if it’s not like porn or the movies. As long as I’m being pleasured and he’s being pleasured we’re good. That’s what sex is about. I think the loss of butterflies is normal cuz the excitement of like (sorry tmi) fingering and oral eventually wears off right? But still feels good. I don’t feel as excited about intimacy anymore cuz we have done it so often but it still feels nice. But my brain perceives that as me not liking sex with men and therefore I’m gay. No I just don’t feel the need to jump his bones every single time I see him?? Idk the friend thing is bothering me. Idk if I feel any joy behind it. The groinal response really really throws my perception off
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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Ughhhhhh it feels like I can’t tell between false attraction or attractive 😭 :/ idk I just saw some pics of joji and artist that makes music when he was younger (it was a post on insta) and on one of them I thought oh he looks cute here, but no I’m like omg but idk in what way tho but it felt like not false attraction like I thought or meant it in another way and I. Felt that and then kinda freaked out bc idk if it’s weird and then I felt groinals and *sigh*
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