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I have so-ocd as well and I also get that same thought of “I can see why people are attracted to women” because well women are beautiful and they’re also taught to take care themselves and always look presentable, but I just can’t imagine myself being with someone so like me or at least I hope that’s my truth. It’s alright to acknowledge that men are attractive and to acknowledge why others may be attracted to men. It doesn’t mean you want that for yourself, we all have those passing thoughts about people outside our orientation at one point, they don’t mean anything unless we want them to. Ocd just makes us latch onto it and obsess.
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yes! I got that same thought and also “how could you not be attracted to women?” and I was just like huh? bc I’ve never experienced attraction to women in my life lol. You are definitely not alone 🖤
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Exactly I had the same thought Too. Omg I thought I was alone . Exactly me too but suddenly after hocd these thoughts started. Thank you for letting me know . It did a great help 💖
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@Hocdtrynaruinmylife You’re never alone!!!! Like srsly. I guarantee there is always someone other there w the same thoughts. And even if there isn’t, everyones experiences and thoughts are different and that does not mean anything ab ur ocd
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@222 Thank u so much. UK wut it is tiring. I can't even look at beautiful girls normally without thinking if I am attracted to them or not. Like it is becoming hard for me to distinguish between attractiveness and good looks. I can't stop this thoughts either and knowing that someone is having same thought as me seems to be of great help :)
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i relate to this a lot somewhat about women i’m confused completely if i’m sexually attracted to girls the only girl that i believe i was sexually attracted to was this one girl a year and a half ago and i mean i was down to do stuff with her but like i never could do it like it just never happened and i was okay with that completely but yes i feel like a completely closeted bisexual and ik you don’t have to do something with the same gender in order to say you’re sexually attracted to them like you can just want to i never fantasized about it either but that’s the only girl i can think about. and ik the past doesn’t matter but past attraction does and it’s just confusing. but trust me it’s completely normal to think that thought. men are hot! women are hot! so don’t think you’re closeted because you think that.
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yeah, i relate to some of that. i have a past experience my ocd likes to latch onto to try to prove to me it meant something when i feel like it didn’t. but then again idk because sometimes i rlly convince myself
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these thoughts are just so hard
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 i totally get that! i know i’m not 100% straight and i’m 100% okay with that i’m just not okay with NOT knowing what i am. i have more homosexual tendencies than most 100% straight-as-a-ruler straight girls and i’m okay with that i just don’t know where i fit i believe it’s somewhere in between straight and bisexual like even that sounds about right to me. we have to stop trying to figure it all out and i know that’s so hard but i know we can do it☺️
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@holley ohhh so r u afraid of being more gay than u though u were? or afraid of being bi? no hate to bi people but yeah i feel the same way u said, i just am afraid of my sexuality changing and in this case meaning it changing to bi or straight. that’s rlly what my fear lies in
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 i just hate change and i don’t want to become someone i don’t feel like i am
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 i don’t think it’s a fear of being bisexual because before ocd i didn’t give a fuck what i was. i was so carefree. it’s this obsessive thought pattern 24/7 that i MUST be bisexual. i don’t like it. i don’t wanna constantly think i’m bisexual. OCD isn’t about labels. it doesn’t care. OCD is all about the control our thoughts hold over one idea and i’m so tired of this shit.
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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hey guys, i am really really struggling and i feel like crying. evry day i get this feeling of sexual attraction to the same gender, and i get those feelings even just thinking about it now. i hste them and want them to go away but they simply won’t and it has me thinking that this is just how my life is gonna be like. when i was fully healed or atleast thought i was healed from the false attraction and soocd, i still sometimes got that attraction feeling, and i would force my body not to feel it. i hated it and was scared of liking it so i would like stop breathing and make it stop. it was only ever occasional but this is making me concerned now too, because i still sometimes felt that feeling when i was healed. now currently my main trigger is masculine girls, but when my soocd first started i had no false attraction or attraction like this towards girls, and it was all just in my mind like saying, “don’t look at that girl or you’re gay.” there was one point in my soocd where i was worried about being attracted to my friends, but i am greatful in the sense of i know that that is not true and my main issue is the false attraction watching videos and i have experienced it once in real life too and i hated it. please lmk what i should do or even if you can relate. i am sick of feeling th is way, and i am a christian too so this makes it harder. i’ve tried everything like accepting it, or trying to even say to myself yes u do like it but it always just leads to me being scared.
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