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I have so-ocd as well and I also get that same thought of “I can see why people are attracted to women” because well women are beautiful and they’re also taught to take care themselves and always look presentable, but I just can’t imagine myself being with someone so like me or at least I hope that’s my truth. It’s alright to acknowledge that men are attractive and to acknowledge why others may be attracted to men. It doesn’t mean you want that for yourself, we all have those passing thoughts about people outside our orientation at one point, they don’t mean anything unless we want them to. Ocd just makes us latch onto it and obsess.
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yes! I got that same thought and also “how could you not be attracted to women?” and I was just like huh? bc I’ve never experienced attraction to women in my life lol. You are definitely not alone 🖤
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Exactly I had the same thought Too. Omg I thought I was alone . Exactly me too but suddenly after hocd these thoughts started. Thank you for letting me know . It did a great help 💖
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@Hocdtrynaruinmylife You’re never alone!!!! Like srsly. I guarantee there is always someone other there w the same thoughts. And even if there isn’t, everyones experiences and thoughts are different and that does not mean anything ab ur ocd
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@222 Thank u so much. UK wut it is tiring. I can't even look at beautiful girls normally without thinking if I am attracted to them or not. Like it is becoming hard for me to distinguish between attractiveness and good looks. I can't stop this thoughts either and knowing that someone is having same thought as me seems to be of great help :)
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i relate to this a lot somewhat about women i’m confused completely if i’m sexually attracted to girls the only girl that i believe i was sexually attracted to was this one girl a year and a half ago and i mean i was down to do stuff with her but like i never could do it like it just never happened and i was okay with that completely but yes i feel like a completely closeted bisexual and ik you don’t have to do something with the same gender in order to say you’re sexually attracted to them like you can just want to i never fantasized about it either but that’s the only girl i can think about. and ik the past doesn’t matter but past attraction does and it’s just confusing. but trust me it’s completely normal to think that thought. men are hot! women are hot! so don’t think you’re closeted because you think that.
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yeah, i relate to some of that. i have a past experience my ocd likes to latch onto to try to prove to me it meant something when i feel like it didn’t. but then again idk because sometimes i rlly convince myself
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these thoughts are just so hard
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 i totally get that! i know i’m not 100% straight and i’m 100% okay with that i’m just not okay with NOT knowing what i am. i have more homosexual tendencies than most 100% straight-as-a-ruler straight girls and i’m okay with that i just don’t know where i fit i believe it’s somewhere in between straight and bisexual like even that sounds about right to me. we have to stop trying to figure it all out and i know that’s so hard but i know we can do it☺️
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@holley ohhh so r u afraid of being more gay than u though u were? or afraid of being bi? no hate to bi people but yeah i feel the same way u said, i just am afraid of my sexuality changing and in this case meaning it changing to bi or straight. that’s rlly what my fear lies in
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 i just hate change and i don’t want to become someone i don’t feel like i am
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 i don’t think it’s a fear of being bisexual because before ocd i didn’t give a fuck what i was. i was so carefree. it’s this obsessive thought pattern 24/7 that i MUST be bisexual. i don’t like it. i don’t wanna constantly think i’m bisexual. OCD isn’t about labels. it doesn’t care. OCD is all about the control our thoughts hold over one idea and i’m so tired of this shit.
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Has anyone experienced where you love woman everything about them, even to the point where you still can get erections watching normal porn, lesbian porn etc. but you find your self still admiring a good looking man. I’ve went through the groinal responses when seeing a man but honestly after watching porn and realizing it’s not about sex it went away. On the other hand even when there’s a male and a female in a picture I can’t stop looking at the male and judging, but the minute they’re naked I’m fine and looking at the woman. I started watching porn at a very young age so I’m wondering do I only sexualize woman and admire the man so in everyday life I don’t see her as beautiful because she’s not naked ? I understand as a straight male I can still think guys are attractive but why do I constantly notice them more than women? I also can admire and see when a girl is beautiful in the face but then if a dude that’s more attractive than me pops up in staring at him. Has anyone experience this?
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hi guys i added to list. i’m freaking out i just need some help. signs of comphet (comphet is when lesbians who don’t know it and just follow norms and believe there straight) ive felt: “I never felt anything when kissing boys and totally thought that was normal… I talk to men, go on dates, but I think it’s to keep my life ‘interesting’ and have something to talk about with friends.” • lack of deep, natural emotional connection • • talking about my boyfriend to other people made me feel “cool”, “worthy”, “interesting” and felt like a way to prove myself • being able to clearly articulate all the reasons I liked a guy crush/my boyfriend (he’s smart, funny, kind, handsome, etc) whereas with a girl crush I can’t exactly put my finger on why I like them but I’m just naturally drawn to them • never missing my exes or feeling heartbroken about them (i would feel sad from being lonely and no longer having that daily routine of having someone to talk to, but didn’t necessarily miss that specific person) • i was always very hesitant about “becoming official” with a guy i would be seeing and would make him wait before deciding to date because i “didn’t know if i really liked him or not” only being aroused by their the man’s desire for me • Thinking I was cooler than other girls because I didn't spend any time thinking about how cute boys were or being "boy-crazy". I was under the impression for a while that I must just be less shallow than other people because I didn't really take looks into account when I had a crush on a boy, I only factored in their personality. chasing the ego boost more than emotional closeness agreed with friends or mom about someone being attractive even if you didn’t feel it—another big flag being bored, ditching serious commitment, chasing the drama again it also feels like i’m acting a lot of the time to make it more romantic cause i cringe When you fantasize about men, it is mostly just enacting a kind of narrative. More focused on movement than features- the men in your fantasies might be faceless or blank-featured or their bodies might symbolize some emotion. you might not even be in the in the fantasy, but instead another faceless woman might be. You might even imagine yourself as the man. The narrative follows the sexual script, but the details are more vague and abstract and might even shift and change throughout the fantasy. i dont care about like what guys looks like. like my sister saw a video of a guy working out and was like got damn omg gotta like that. if i saw that i would prob be like damn to try and prove something to myself but i don’t really understand what i should feel it feels like i relate to so much comphet after i read it on reddit and it doesn’t even make me want to cry and die anymore. it feels like i tolerate men or have done it for attention or because i thought it was going to happen at some point cause it was what was happening around me like sister and friends. i’m scared ill never find someone i want to marry that’s a man it feels like it’s all just comphet and i don’t want to actually be with a man the more my meds work and anxiety lessens the more the fear feels real because i can’t get myself anxious about it anymore. i can about other stuff but not this. i always told myself i don’t chase i attract. maybe thats cause i never wanted a big badly enough. maybe what im missing is a girl what if that ends up feeling more real Straight people don’t need to talk themselves into what’s hot. like during the hocd break i would try and like see what was “hot” and and be like yeah that’s hot. i also i refused to masturbate to women and not think about it because i didn’t want it to prove that i still liked it but i mean idk if that was left over hocd
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So I haven’t been on this app in a while. But I just want advice on how to overcome this. I’m now 18 and I’ve been trying out dating apps. I’m not gonna lie I’m kinda picky when it comes to dating only because I plan on dating to marry…so I take it a bit more seriously. But for some reason it’s so hard to click with people on these dating apps. So my friend was helping me through this dating apps process. I told her that I wasn’t interested in this guy I was texting anymore because of the way he was responding to my messages. And she says maybe you’re gay…this is honestly the sixth time (I’m definitely over exaggeration but this isn’t the first time someone had said this to me) someone has ask/said this. Every time someone says this it literally sends me down this spiral of are they seeing something I’m not seeing. Despite never having a crush on a girl my mind goes down this loop of overthinking. And when I say I don’t want that lifestyle or I don’t really find pleasure in being apart of the lgbtq community my mind is like in denial. I just wanted to have a fun teenage dating experience and now every time I open the app I always think what if I really am gay and I’m just in denial…or what if the reason why I’m not connecting with anyone is because I’m really into girls. Since i’m also religious, my mom wants to go what you’re denying who we are because of your religion. And I tried to reassure myself by saying I would know if that was the case like I would feel deep down who I’m truly attracted to and know that I’m trying to cover it up by dating men. This whole thing is so mentally taxing because I was going through this all throughout my senior year of high school and I’m not going into my freshman year of college so. Like I literally felt so much anxiety next to one of my classmates who was gay and a masculine presenting. I feel like if I would’ve told this to anyone, they’d say of course you’re in denial. But ig reply if you can relate
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