the worst thought i get is “i can see why people are attracted to men” when i see a picture of an attractive man. to me that just sounds like i’m a closeted person who doesn’t know herself . like that’s exactly what i would say to myself before i realized my attraction to women. does anyone relate to thinking something similar like i can see why people are attracted to a certain gender? also i love u all but if ur straight please don’t comment on this asking me to tell u if ur gay. i can’t do that. i often don’t post on here using male specific terms because i’m afraid of that happening.

Sexual Orientation OCD

Hocd_sufferer

Date posted: 4y

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PinkLotus

Date posted: 4y

I have so-ocd as well and I also get that same thought of “I can see why people are attracted to women” because well women are beautiful and they’re also taught to take care themselves and always look presentable, but I just can’t imagine myself being with someone so like me or at least I hope that’s my truth. It’s alright to acknowledge that men are attractive and to acknowledge why others may be attracted to men. It doesn’t mean you want that for yourself, we all have those passing thoughts about people outside our orientation at one point, they don’t mean anything unless we want them to. Ocd just makes us latch onto it and obsess.

222

Date posted: 4y

yes! I got that same thought and also “how could you not be attracted to women?” and I was just like huh? bc I’ve never experienced attraction to women in my life lol. You are definitely not alone 🖤

Hocdtrynarui...

Date posted: 4y

Exactly I had the same thought Too. Omg I thought I was alone . Exactly me too but suddenly after hocd these thoughts started. Thank you for letting me know . It did a great help 💖

222

Date posted: 4y

@Hocdtrynaruinmylife You’re never alone!!!! Like srsly. I guarantee there is always someone other there w the same thoughts. And even if there isn’t, everyones experiences and thoughts are different and that does not mean anything ab ur ocd

Hocdtrynarui...

Date posted: 4y

@222 Thank u so much. UK wut it is tiring. I can't even look at beautiful girls normally without thinking if I am attracted to them or not. Like it is becoming hard for me to distinguish between attractiveness and good looks. I can't stop this thoughts either and knowing that someone is having same thought as me seems to be of great help :)

holley

Date posted: 4y

i relate to this a lot somewhat about women i’m confused completely if i’m sexually attracted to girls the only girl that i believe i was sexually attracted to was this one girl a year and a half ago and i mean i was down to do stuff with her but like i never could do it like it just never happened and i was okay with that completely but yes i feel like a completely closeted bisexual and ik you don’t have to do something with the same gender in order to say you’re sexually attracted to them like you can just want to i never fantasized about it either but that’s the only girl i can think about. and ik the past doesn’t matter but past attraction does and it’s just confusing. but trust me it’s completely normal to think that thought. men are hot! women are hot! so don’t think you’re closeted because you think that.

lmaocd🍓🥰

Date posted: 4y

yeah, i relate to some of that. i have a past experience my ocd likes to latch onto to try to prove to me it meant something when i feel like it didn’t. but then again idk because sometimes i rlly convince myself

lmaocd🍓🥰

Date posted: 4y

these thoughts are just so hard

holley

Date posted: 4y

@lmaocd🍓🥰 i totally get that! i know i’m not 100% straight and i’m 100% okay with that i’m just not okay with NOT knowing what i am. i have more homosexual tendencies than most 100% straight-as-a-ruler straight girls and i’m okay with that i just don’t know where i fit i believe it’s somewhere in between straight and bisexual like even that sounds about right to me. we have to stop trying to figure it all out and i know that’s so hard but i know we can do it☺️

lmaocd🍓🥰

Date posted: 4y

@holley ohhh so r u afraid of being more gay than u though u were? or afraid of being bi? no hate to bi people but yeah i feel the same way u said, i just am afraid of my sexuality changing and in this case meaning it changing to bi or straight. that’s rlly what my fear lies in

lmaocd🍓🥰

Date posted: 4y

@lmaocd🍓🥰 i just hate change and i don’t want to become someone i don’t feel like i am

holley

Date posted: 4y

@lmaocd🍓🥰 i don’t think it’s a fear of being bisexual because before ocd i didn’t give a fuck what i was. i was so carefree. it’s this obsessive thought pattern 24/7 that i MUST be bisexual. i don’t like it. i don’t wanna constantly think i’m bisexual. OCD isn’t about labels. it doesn’t care. OCD is all about the control our thoughts hold over one idea and i’m so tired of this shit.

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