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Many of her contamination thoughts involve not touching things to avoid going to hell. She made a promise to God that if he would take away her ocd she would not do certain things...touch or use certain things. It was a spur of the moment promise that didn’t make much sense but it’s what her 13 year old mind came up with. Now if she touches/uses certain things she is “breaking her promise to God” and is surely going to hell. :(. Religious OCD is so so difficult.
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this is tricky because you don’t necessarily want to force her because unwilling exposures can have a negative effect. perhaps give her an incentive or reward for going, such as a gift? this would turn unwillingness into willingness while you both get what you want. and she just says she’s comfortabile with the way she is because she’s too scared to stop the compulsions. in time, with patience, this is will pass.
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Thank you. I will try that. I hope you are correct. This is really destroying our family. Her sibs are young and don’t understand why she acts like this or why she gets “rewards” for doing things they do as part of tasks of daily living. It makes them resentful and confused and it’s just a mess!
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- 4y
I would let it be her choice. Dont force her, but also maybe kindly remind her that these moments of spending time with family are precious. You can’t LIVE your life in fear, because years will go by in our heads without us being present in the moment. I have had both types of OCD, OCD is a party pooper for sure. and I wish I could say something that would change her mind but all I know is that I wish I could get some of that time back. Therapy helps for sure, so I hope she participates more actively soon. Best of Luck!
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What do you mean by not be able to eat/or sleep?. And quite frankly you're the adult and can determine her treatment. If you take her to a therapist every week she has no choice but to talk to one. These restrictions cripple her livelihood for sure and yours and its better to get her in a program now while it's young than her deal with the effects of ocd when she's old. Teens are a terrible age, but also the years of so much change. By 16 - 17 shell have a much different mindset than she does now.
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At 14 we don't know what's better for us, yea we can make decisions but we rely on parents at that age to know better, I think you should also seek help and guidance do research on ocd to understand her better, catering to the compulsions won't help her and showing her how fun life can be might work but knkw that logic vs ocd doesn't work, if logic worked we all would be off this app and cured, ocd takes time and effort to control and eventually get rid of, but it needs professional help, seek it. May God bless you and guide you
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She has intrusive thoughts regarding food and germs and refuses to eat for days at a time. Yes, I can and do take her to therapy. But I cannot make her talk to the therapist, honestly admit her fears, and willingly practice erp therapy. We have been to many, many therapists trying to find one that will help her. They all say she “has no insight” into her problem and they do not want to waste our time and money until she agrees to at least try to get better.
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I'm sorry you're going through this, I used to not eat for days or at least not as much as I should nor shower, it became a problem, a year later I'm here trying to help people. Have patience, talk to her about ocd and where this ocd leads to and talk to her about how it makes you feel, I saw you tagged a religious ocd theme why?
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Inpatient hospital might be necessary at some point.
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- 24w
Hi everyone, I’m Cayla. I’m a mom that’s lived with OCD since childhood, but my breaking point came more recently after having my son. I was consumed by terrifying thoughts—What if I hurt him? What if I did something awful without realizing it? I was so afraid of my own mind that I couldn’t be alone with him. The shame and exhaustion were unbearable, and I convinced myself I was broken. In 2024, I finally sought help. ERP therapy at NOCD was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it saved my life. Even now, I have tough days, but I know I don’t have to be ruled by OCD. When my 12 year old daughter began showing signs of OCD, I felt overwhelmed with guilt. I never wanted her to go through what I had, but I knew what to do. I told her that I have OCD too and made sure she knew it wasn’t her fault—and that she wasn’t alone. One of the hardest parts of this journey was trusting someone else with my daughter’s OCD. I knew how vulnerable it feels to share intrusive thoughts, and I wanted her to feel safe. Her NOCD therapist was able to establish trust and genuine empathy from the start, and that relationship gave her the confidence to face ERP head-on. Seeing her build that trust made me certain she was in the right hands. ERP has helped both of us reclaim our lives, and it is beautiful to see my daughter managing her condition and making visible progress. Parenting with OCD while raising a child with OCD isn’t talked about enough, but I know so many parents are struggling with these same challenges. If you have questions about managing OCD while parenting, helping your child through ERP, or breaking cycles of guilt, drop them below—I’d love to share what I’ve learned. I’ll be answering all of the questions I receive in real-time today 4-5pm ET.
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She's been dealing with this for years but I've never seen her like this. She has her first visit with a nocd therapist tomorrow. How can I help her?
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My daughter was just diagnosed with OCD, and is in denial. Her brother is the source of contamination for her. Everything he does, triggers her. She will not be in the same room as him, and it's only getting worse. If you were a child in denial, refusing medication and therapy, what helped you to finally accept help?
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