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Many of her contamination thoughts involve not touching things to avoid going to hell. She made a promise to God that if he would take away her ocd she would not do certain things...touch or use certain things. It was a spur of the moment promise that didn’t make much sense but it’s what her 13 year old mind came up with. Now if she touches/uses certain things she is “breaking her promise to God” and is surely going to hell. :(. Religious OCD is so so difficult.
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this is tricky because you don’t necessarily want to force her because unwilling exposures can have a negative effect. perhaps give her an incentive or reward for going, such as a gift? this would turn unwillingness into willingness while you both get what you want. and she just says she’s comfortabile with the way she is because she’s too scared to stop the compulsions. in time, with patience, this is will pass.
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Thank you. I will try that. I hope you are correct. This is really destroying our family. Her sibs are young and don’t understand why she acts like this or why she gets “rewards” for doing things they do as part of tasks of daily living. It makes them resentful and confused and it’s just a mess!
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- 4y
I would let it be her choice. Dont force her, but also maybe kindly remind her that these moments of spending time with family are precious. You can’t LIVE your life in fear, because years will go by in our heads without us being present in the moment. I have had both types of OCD, OCD is a party pooper for sure. and I wish I could say something that would change her mind but all I know is that I wish I could get some of that time back. Therapy helps for sure, so I hope she participates more actively soon. Best of Luck!
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What do you mean by not be able to eat/or sleep?. And quite frankly you're the adult and can determine her treatment. If you take her to a therapist every week she has no choice but to talk to one. These restrictions cripple her livelihood for sure and yours and its better to get her in a program now while it's young than her deal with the effects of ocd when she's old. Teens are a terrible age, but also the years of so much change. By 16 - 17 shell have a much different mindset than she does now.
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At 14 we don't know what's better for us, yea we can make decisions but we rely on parents at that age to know better, I think you should also seek help and guidance do research on ocd to understand her better, catering to the compulsions won't help her and showing her how fun life can be might work but knkw that logic vs ocd doesn't work, if logic worked we all would be off this app and cured, ocd takes time and effort to control and eventually get rid of, but it needs professional help, seek it. May God bless you and guide you
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She has intrusive thoughts regarding food and germs and refuses to eat for days at a time. Yes, I can and do take her to therapy. But I cannot make her talk to the therapist, honestly admit her fears, and willingly practice erp therapy. We have been to many, many therapists trying to find one that will help her. They all say she “has no insight” into her problem and they do not want to waste our time and money until she agrees to at least try to get better.
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I'm sorry you're going through this, I used to not eat for days or at least not as much as I should nor shower, it became a problem, a year later I'm here trying to help people. Have patience, talk to her about ocd and where this ocd leads to and talk to her about how it makes you feel, I saw you tagged a religious ocd theme why?
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Inpatient hospital might be necessary at some point.
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- 23w
Last night I was staying at my boyfriend’s house and couldn’t sleep. I felt like i desperately needed to go back to my parents and clean and organize my room. This has happened a few times before when I was staying at his place. Since then he’s been very upset with me. Does anyone else’s partner do this? Any advice? It’s been hard. He’s made me feel so shameful for having OCD. As if it’s not tough enough /:
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My mom will sit and listen to me for quite a while, but she interrupts a lot and gets angry/upset. While I appreciate her passion, it's often stressful. Every time I come to her, if I even *mention* OCD, she gets frustrated and says, "Everyone deals with these issues, you know. It doesn't mean it's OCD." And I repeat, "I'm not saying my issues are unique — I'm saying the way I respond to them is a problem." But she just shakes her head and says, "Okay, I need to get back to my day." Full context, I'm an adult, and I live with my boyfriend, but I'm staying at my mom's for the next month. After living away from home for years, I went back to living with her during the pandemic, and I only recently left to live with him. Honestly, I think living with her for so long in my adulthood really messed with me and made me feel like a teenager all over again. I feel like my mental growth is stunted, and that's part of why my OCD is so bad lately. Not blaming, just noticing. She doesn't seem to understand how relieving the OCD diagnosis has been for me, because it explains so so so many things I've struggled with for years, and it's exciting to have more resources that can help me. But I think she sees it as me finding an excuse to *not* work on myself, which is just untrue. I'm not going to let OCD hold me back or use it as an excuse, but I'm also not going to pretend it's not a problem when I know it is — I was even diagnosed through NOCD. The whole point being to fix it, not use it as a crutch. When I have an issue, it's unbearable. Any issue, big or small, feels just the same. I feel a sinking feeling, my mind races, my heart beats out of my chest. I end up running to my support systems, crying, ruminating for days on end. Then, months later, the same exact issue can feel like nothing anymore, because it's no longer an obsession. I'm sure everyone deals with issues in a similar way, but I *know* there is something specific and debilitating going on with me. This is reassurance seeking, but in the face of being told I'm making a big deal out of nothing, can someone diagnosed with OCD tell me if they relate to the specific intensity of these feelings??
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