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Everyone’s romantic journey is different! I think media constantly protrays these events to happen during high school and we think that if it didn’t happen to us then too that there’s something wrong with us, when in reality that’s not the case. I personally didn’t get into all that until my 20s! We can’t change the choices and outcomes of the past, so all we can do it accept that high school didn’t involve it and look forward to the future 🙂
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I feel much better now I didn’t know I was alone! Ty sm for the insight!
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It’s not stupid at all. No need to feel guilty. It’s normal to wish to have that experience everyone else has. I get it. You can feel really lonely and left behind when compared to your peers. Best thing I can tell you is to remember that you’re on your own path. It’s okay if you didn’t get to have those experiences. It doesn’t make you any less than. You’re just taking a different path. It’s okay.
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Ty☺️
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Nothing is stupid about not having any romance or Intimacy with anyone. I'm 19 and I'm still a virgin. For some odd reason society makes that an oddity when it's really not. Back when I was in high school, I had stupid flings online with girls that were around my age. I sexted with them, exchanged pictures, roleplayed, etc. To be honest I regret all of those times because not only did they not get me anywhere, but I can't take any of it back. I haven't had a girlfriend yet, and to be honest I really don't care for any of that right now. You go for these things whenever you feel ready. Comparing yourself for others is a setup for failure because you're you. it doesn't help to do such a thing. Go at your own pace. Besides, there's so much more to life than just sex.
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As someone who has never been in a relationship it’s hard for me to envision myself in one and know what it will feel like. I feel like being 21 I’ve protected myself a lot due to insecurity. I want a boyfriend and yet I don’t it’s just all really scary for me. I never had the stupid relationship to break the ice and now I’m putting so much pressure and emphasis on things and finding the RIGHT person. Also have hocd definitely doesn’t help. I’m working on myself and doing my best. But my current feelings are: I don’t like the way I look, I can’t imagine myself with someone, and I’m never going to find someone I click with and feel good with. Any advice??????
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18+ people with this thread please. I just want some advice from people who have experienced this. Its been almost 2 years since my real event and i can confidently say that i feel a bit better about that and my thoughts. (We still have bad moments but we recover.) but, ever since then and before, i feel nasty and gross whenever i engage or interact with adult content. Like this nasty guilt or feeling like i cant interact with it because then my ocd says “this proves that your thoughts are true and your perverse” and after i always feel empty and disgusting. Besides things like that, i read adult fan fiction sometimes or even write stories for my original characters. And yesterday i shared these stories with a close in person friend of mine. (Were both in college) and they were fine about it we laughed about it but then after i felt guilty-my brain was telling me “you traumatized her she just doesn’t wanna tell you” obliviously this isn’t true but im having a hard time believing it and this morning i woke up with a deep dread that i hurt a friend and im horrible. I can say that they’re more positive about these things then me and i think thats why we got into the conversation and i felt comfortable to share these stories but i just can’t get over it. I have a strong urge to ask for reassurance but i know it wont help. I literally have no one else to talk to about this. Ive spoken to my therapist about this guilt with adult content and we have yet to expand on it especially how it goes hand in hand with my asexuality. My therapist tells me its human to feel things like this and its ok to perform self care like that and again-im a human person its usually normal for 19 year olds to be like this especially for someone my age but i dont feel normal. I feel nasty. Does anyone else feel this way? How did you confront this guilt and how did you feel comfortable again interacting with these feelings and actions again? I dont really have a desire to do s*xual things often (im on the asexual spectrum) but when i do i dont want to feel like this. Especially when my ocd types effect it. Advice is needed and appreciated thank you for your help.
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Why are things so real the first time they’re in my mind and then when I think about it later it’s easier for me to be like wtf?? I was watching a movie earlier and the young girl had developed more in the chest area than the last movie and I felt the desire to check her out so I did. Then later I let myself imagine her having sex and I liked it. But now looking back I’m like ew. The boys in the movie have also developed as the movie went on and I couldn’t help but think that in their real life they’ve probably woken up to boners and s*men and stuff. And looking back it’s just ugh. Idk if it’s sexual relevance but I genuinely let myself indulge in these thoughts and groinal responses and I remember thinking to myself I don’t want to be attracted to little kids and how do I stop myself (everyone has attractive qualities so in younger boys I see man like qualities). Idk I need help. I wouldn’t type this out if I truly believe I was messed up but I’m still scared
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