hate_ocd.123
- Date posted
- 3y
AnonymousAnonymous
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
I saw that too. It really sucked to read. Let’s use it as exposure and not perform mental compulsions like checking and testing. Just say, “ok. I read this triggering post. It made me afraid and uncomfortable, but I’m not going to pay attention or assign meaning to my intrusive thoughts.” That’s what I’m going to try to do.
strawberry ice creamstrawberry i...
- Date posted
- 3y
yeah I think it’s the best we can do. But still, this made me question everything. Like, so even if I have hocd I can turn out to be gay? I’m so scared
AnonymousAnonymous
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
@strawberry ice cream I know. I feel the same way. I like to focus on the fact that I’m in control of what kind of life I live and that thoughts are just thoughts and can’t control my life.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
hey! i know that was super triggering for some people but we have to remember we don’t know them at all. there could be so much behind all of that, that we don’t know about. also, it’s all about uncertainty you never know what can happen which again i know is super triggering but it’s the truth. and you can’t really just turn gay if you identified as straight before you knew you had ocd then that never changes.
Ocd Warrior Ocd Warrior
- Date posted
- 3y
If who your talking about is blade, then don’t listen to him at all, he’s says he’s gay one day, and then he says that he’s just confused, and then he keeps repeating this off and on, he’s had multiple people get mad at him for this and quite honestly it’s annoying, so don’t take what he says as serious
DOCDDOCD
- Date posted
- 3y
@Ope Was it this blade guy? I’m sure I seen him do similar things on other boards..
Ocd Warrior Ocd Warrior
- Date posted
- 3y
@Ope He’s annoying, he’s notorious for saying he’s gay one day, and then saying how he doesn’t know and needs help, again plz don’t believe anything he says, he’s really annoying
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 3y
@Ope my advice would be to not read trigger warning posts or maybe not have the app to read what other people say. i can see it really triggered you and i would stop looking at what people say because it’s just going to get you more stuck and confused.
DOCDDOCD
- Date posted
- 3y
@Ope Who was is that posted?
Minde Minde
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- Staff
- Date posted
- 3y
@Hocd Warrior Yes, I have seen him do this as well. This might be a compulsion for him.
Anonymous Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
Was he the same guy who did this a few weeks ago and started pushing some really sketchy form of therapy?
JustmesadlyJustmesadly
- Date posted
- 3y
His name was listed at Anonymous, he just said he was told hocd means you can’t be gay and after 15 years he realized that the therapist made him in denial. Extremely extremely triggering
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
- Date posted
- 3y
@Justmesadly I'd say that if he's posting a lot then that's probably a compulsion and good evidence that he's still very uncertain and looking for uncertainty lol
Susan4444Susan4444
- Date posted
- 3y
Use it as exposure. Ruminating on “is it hocd or am I gay?” is such a huge compulsion. So this is great exposure to the idea that “maybe I have hocd and I am also gay!” Just make sure you don’t ruminate on it. Avoid compulsions and avoid the urge to need to know everything about this person’s situation and avoid making it mean something about you!
Brad2517Brad2517
- Date posted
- 3y
It could be fake too, some people are trolls and could just try to trigger you
RememberWhoYouAre. RememberWhoY...
- Date posted
- 3y
That's true too. I seen a few people say stupid shit like thay
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
- Date posted
- 3y
Thats just their experience, their experience is personal to them, has nothing to do with you. But use what you read as an exposure, its literally the perfect exposure because it has caused you a tremendous amount of anxiety. Say to yourself "that sucks that he suffered so long, but it is good that he found his true self." Be happy for him, and maybe even add in "maybe that would be me after ERP, maybe I'd find out I was a lesbian after all of this time. and it'd be okay." Once you show your OCD youre not afraid of the thoughts, you'll feel so much more in control. Not trying to trigger you more, but yes, you can end up being the thing you fear. But use that as an exposure! If something causes you fear, lean into it. Its the only way to overcome your stuff. Good luck!:)
strawberry ice creamstrawberry i...
- Date posted
- 3y
I saw it. I’m so scared. I don’t wanna be gay too but what if I am?? Does it mean my obsession can be true?
strawberry ice creamstrawberry i...
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- 3y
@Ope I think the person deleted it
strawberry ice creamstrawberry i...
- Date posted
- 3y
@Ope it was someone saying they realized they were gay after therapy and they were mad bc the therapists said that they couldn’t be gay with hocd. But since he found out he is, he is now mad ab the position he was in
RememberWhoYouAre. RememberWhoY...
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- 3y
@strawberry ice cream Theres not a lot of context on that person. So i would disregard that
hate_ocd.123hate_ocd.123
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- 3y
@PaperTigerOCD What do you mean a lot of context?
strawberry ice creamstrawberry i...
- Date posted
- 3y
@PaperTigerOCD that’s true. But the fact that they said they have hocd and discovered they are gay is rlly triggering. What if all I’m obsessing and fearing is actually true?
AnonymousAnonymous
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
@strawberry ice cream I think if you were really gay you wouldn’t be obsessing over it. It’s literally on my mind all the time, which is how I know it’s intrusive thoughts and ocd. This is reassurance though so we have to stay away from dwelling on this.
Ocd Warrior Ocd Warrior
- Date posted
- 3y
@strawberry ice cream No that man isn’t gay, I know who your talking about it’s blade, he’s refused to accept the uncertainty and keeps saying he’s confused, and then the next day that he’s gay, and then says he’s confused again, don’t listen to him
RememberWhoYouAre. RememberWhoY...
- Date posted
- 3y
Was it on NOCD? Not everyone going thru OCD means all of a sudden they are gay.
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