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I don't have that specific theme, but pms makes everything worse in my experience. I get really emotional the last 4-5 days. š¤·āāļø
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- 3y
Yeah I'm having a hard time. The PMS triggers the ocd even more and then everything becomes so confusing!
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@sherweird I know! I always think "okay, I'm gonna think about this next week instead!" You'll have a different perspective when you get out of the PMS bubble :)
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Yep! Hormones can really trigger an OCD spike with me. However, knowing this about yourself can help you prepare in the future and help take the anxiety away.
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- 22w
For the past 3 months ish Iāve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I canāt imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and Iām scared itās going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and itās so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. Weāve been together for a while so i know thereās periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. Itās just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. Heās very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / Iām also just starting new meds as well ..
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- 19w
Valentineās Day is a day to celebrate love, however if you are living with Relationship OCD (ROCD) this can be a very triggering day. Relationship OCD is essentially, the fear of being in the wrong relationship, not truly loving your partner, or not being loved by your partner. This makes you doubt the true nature of your relationship and makes you believe that your entire relationship is based on lies. It can make you feel like a bad person and not worthy of love. ROCD will make you believe that you need to leave the relationship just to find some peace. When we think about ROCD we often think that this only applies to romantic relationships, however ROCD can impact friendships and family relationships as well. ROCD will attack whatever relationship is most important to you. As an ERP therapist some of the most common obsessions that I have seen include āIs my partner āThe Oneāā? āMaybe I am meant to be with someone elseā. āWhat if my partner cheats on me or worse I cheat on him/herā? āI find X attractive. Should I break up with my partner and be with Xā? āDo I even love my partner? What if they donāt love me?ā This list could go on and on. The basis of all of these intrusive thoughts is fear and doubt. The compulsions associated with ROCD are vast. The most common include checking feelings to make sure you really love your partner, avoidance behaviors, reassurance seeking behaviors both from your partner and from others and ruminating on the relationship in the hopes of figuring out if this is the ārightā relationship for you. ROCD, as in most theses in OCD, wants 100% uncertainty that this relationship will work out with no conflict or compromise. The problem is this is unrealistic. All relationships will have some level of conflict and compromise in them. There is no āperfect relationshipā. Most of us have grown up with fairy tales where one true love will come and sweep up off our feet. Life and relationships can be messy and complicated, but they are worth it and are a key aspect of what makes us human. The fact is ROCD makes you doubt everything and will take the joy, excitement and contentment out of the relationship. The good news is that treatment is available, and it is possible to have a long, happy, fulfilling relationship despite ROCD fears. It does take time, perseverance and patience. Treatment using Exposure Response Prevention has been proven to lessen intrusive thoughts. You will learn to manage your expectations of the relationships while leaning into your fears and learning to accept the uncomfortable feelings. By doing this, you can bring joy and contentment back into you life and your relationships. I'd love to hear about how ROCD is showing up for you. Share your experiences in the comments below or ask your questions about ROCD and I will respond to them.
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- 16w
Does anyone else struggle with object permanence in relationships? Like whenever my partner is out of the house I immediately think negatively or I find things wrong with the relationship or him⦠For background my partner and I always fight over chores (I know itās common but itās annoying) I definitely pull more weight than him and I think he has ADHD, which makes him struggle to help and be aware of helping. Lately weāve been somewhat good with splitting meals and dishes whatever, I know it can change with work stress, fatigue whatever. But last week my partner was out of the house watching his uncleās dog so he was barely home. He was sleeping over at his uncles house and would come home for meals sometimes and stuff like that. I started becoming super fixated on him not helping with the dishes before he left and would constantly feel urges to yell about it. Even though the week prior everything was good when it came to that (sometimes with my ROCD Iāll even question myself and be like was it?) so I have started 4 separate fights arguing about dishes and chores and mentioning that he doesnāt help enough and if this continues Iāll have to leave⦠itās so hard for me to snap out of it and just realize that he was going back and forth and didnāt think to help because he was busy with helping his uncle. And then I get such a negative view of him in my head that I nitpick his appearance, I make comments, etc, because my underlying fear is he doesnāt care to help, he will never change, and we will fail. So itās almost like Iām looking to have a reason to run before I actually need to? Itās a constant cycle for me and Iām truly so exhausted by myself. But also relationships are so hard for me because I struggled SO much with trying to depend on others that I almost donāt let myself depend on othersā¦. Any advice is appreciated but also just like do you also experience this? Thank you & pls be kind š„ŗš„ŗš„ŗ
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