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- 3y ago
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- 3y ago
i admire how you got this app to ask for advice for your daughter, it shows how much you care. i’d say it depends on what kind of ocd she has. personally i don’t know that much on how to help people with ocd but being there for her and letting her know she’s not alone is a huge part. you guys will get through it <3
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- 3y ago
Don't push her too hard to talk. If she says she doesn't want to talk. Just remind her that you love her and are there for her. If she does open up to you, be supportive. Even if you don't understand what she is experiencing. OCD is not easy to talk about and even harder to explain to someone who doesn't have it. If you have questions ask! But don't take it personally if she doesn't want to answer. Above all, avoid saying things like "I think everyone is a little OCD" or "Just stop thinking about it" Statements like that may be well intended, but they are incredibly hurtful and dismissive towards someone with OCD.
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- 3y ago
Knowing how my wife puts up with me and my nonsense… just. Be loving and have compassion, whatever it is it’s not her, it’s just a glitch in her mind, God knows the real her and so do you! Just be a listener and give her your shoulder to cry in it just rest on
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- 3y ago
Absolutely recommend that she get ERP with a therapist who is specialized and medication
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- 3y ago
The best thing you can do is let her know that you fully support her, believe her and recognize her feelings (validation is VERY important), and listen to her. You can ask her about specifics, try to distract her, maybe send her/give her some calming items (such as bath salts, fidget toys, essential oils, etc.) just to try out. Also, ask her what she would like your help with, what could possibly help her, what she enjoys, etc. I wouldn’t call every day unless she wants you to, but definitely at minimum once a week. For me, I might like if my mom checked in on me maybe 3 times a week? Like Mon, Wed, Fri, or something
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- 3y ago
Thank you for going out to do your own homework on this! So many people just say "let me know if I can do anything to help" and leave it at that. The blog posts on the NOCD site are some of the best and most comprehensive writing I've ever found about OCD, even about my own subtypes which aren't so typical. So feel confident in the info you find there - the whole Education section in particular is valuable for family members.
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- 21w ago
Hey guys! So I struggle with OCD, especially harm, relationship and moral stuff and I am somewhat recovered now. However, my current girlfriend has started showing signs of OCD but it’s abou5 something I don’t know much about so I wanted to see if anyone on here had thoughts about it. She is constantly thinking about food (when to eat it, what is healthy, what is too much, what is too little) and controls the thoughts by giving in and controlling her entire day around food. She don’t really know the feeling of being full. She never starved herself and always eats, but then she feels extremely guilty afterwards. Her thoughts do have to do a lot with her body image and not gaining weight but also not losing any either. Does this sound like ocd or an eating disorder?
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- 15w ago
I’m having a big OCD relapse and would like to hear anyone’s tips on how to be present and healthily deal with these intrusive thoughts and the “need” to preform compulsions. Thank you!!
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- 12w ago
Hi everyone, I’m Cayla. I’m a mom that’s lived with OCD since childhood, but my breaking point came more recently after having my son. I was consumed by terrifying thoughts—What if I hurt him? What if I did something awful without realizing it? I was so afraid of my own mind that I couldn’t be alone with him. The shame and exhaustion were unbearable, and I convinced myself I was broken. In 2024, I finally sought help. ERP therapy at NOCD was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it saved my life. Even now, I have tough days, but I know I don’t have to be ruled by OCD. When my 12 year old daughter began showing signs of OCD, I felt overwhelmed with guilt. I never wanted her to go through what I had, but I knew what to do. I told her that I have OCD too and made sure she knew it wasn’t her fault—and that she wasn’t alone. One of the hardest parts of this journey was trusting someone else with my daughter’s OCD. I knew how vulnerable it feels to share intrusive thoughts, and I wanted her to feel safe. Her NOCD therapist was able to establish trust and genuine empathy from the start, and that relationship gave her the confidence to face ERP head-on. Seeing her build that trust made me certain she was in the right hands. ERP has helped both of us reclaim our lives, and it is beautiful to see my daughter managing her condition and making visible progress. Parenting with OCD while raising a child with OCD isn’t talked about enough, but I know so many parents are struggling with these same challenges. If you have questions about managing OCD while parenting, helping your child through ERP, or breaking cycles of guilt, drop them below—I’d love to share what I’ve learned. I’ll be answering all of the questions I receive in real-time today 4-5pm ET.
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