- Username
- nanasha
- Date posted
- 3y ago
i admire how you got this app to ask for advice for your daughter, it shows how much you care. i’d say it depends on what kind of ocd she has. personally i don’t know that much on how to help people with ocd but being there for her and letting her know she’s not alone is a huge part. you guys will get through it <3
Don't push her too hard to talk. If she says she doesn't want to talk. Just remind her that you love her and are there for her. If she does open up to you, be supportive. Even if you don't understand what she is experiencing. OCD is not easy to talk about and even harder to explain to someone who doesn't have it. If you have questions ask! But don't take it personally if she doesn't want to answer. Above all, avoid saying things like "I think everyone is a little OCD" or "Just stop thinking about it" Statements like that may be well intended, but they are incredibly hurtful and dismissive towards someone with OCD.
Knowing how my wife puts up with me and my nonsense… just. Be loving and have compassion, whatever it is it’s not her, it’s just a glitch in her mind, God knows the real her and so do you! Just be a listener and give her your shoulder to cry in it just rest on
Absolutely recommend that she get ERP with a therapist who is specialized and medication
The best thing you can do is let her know that you fully support her, believe her and recognize her feelings (validation is VERY important), and listen to her. You can ask her about specifics, try to distract her, maybe send her/give her some calming items (such as bath salts, fidget toys, essential oils, etc.) just to try out. Also, ask her what she would like your help with, what could possibly help her, what she enjoys, etc. I wouldn’t call every day unless she wants you to, but definitely at minimum once a week. For me, I might like if my mom checked in on me maybe 3 times a week? Like Mon, Wed, Fri, or something
Thank you for going out to do your own homework on this! So many people just say "let me know if I can do anything to help" and leave it at that. The blog posts on the NOCD site are some of the best and most comprehensive writing I've ever found about OCD, even about my own subtypes which aren't so typical. So feel confident in the info you find there - the whole Education section in particular is valuable for family members.
Any advice..? My girlfriend had OCD, specifically OCPD. What can I do to comfort her when she’s feeling anxious/ out of control, dealing with intrusive thoughts, wanting to act on her compulsions etc? I can’t physically be there for her when she breaks down, talking to her through texting and calling for comfort doesn’t help too much sometimes. I want to help her and make her feel as loved and safe as possible, but I need help to make sure I can provide her with that
I’m new here and need help, not as someone who suffers from OCD, but as a mother who’s child (I believe) suffers from OCD. We have not had an official diagnosis yet as I am searching for a physician at this time. She has all of the aspects on the subject specifically, so I really wouldn’t be surprised by an OCD diagnosis at all. My question is, do any of you remember a time when the OCD became a problem for you? I meant, did something happen to trigger it or make it much worse or more evident? I’ve always known she was a “perfectionist” and very intellectually minded, so to speak, but several incidents happened last year (she’s almost 14) with some friends that didn’t end well. Since then, it’s as if she can’t focus at all and gets very obsessed by things. Almost like the incidents last year exacerbated the underlying problem. I want to help her however I can until we can get into a Dr, I just don’t know how and it seems she gets mad and irritated with me when I try, which is hurting this Moms heart. Can any of you suggest what I should or shouldn’t do at this point? She literally becomes frozen with certain fears, like being stung by a bee (never been stung before). Honestly, she’s had a fear of going to the bathroom forever (10 years), but medical Drs have never been able to help and now I know why. So, all to say, I’m not in denial but just want to help her. Thanks for any input you can give.
My daughter is really struggling with intrusive thoughts. She is currently in therapy, but she seems to really struggle between sessions. It hurts to see her in so much pain. How can I help her with her thoughts in between sessions?
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