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- 3y
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- 3y
i admire how you got this app to ask for advice for your daughter, it shows how much you care. i’d say it depends on what kind of ocd she has. personally i don’t know that much on how to help people with ocd but being there for her and letting her know she’s not alone is a huge part. you guys will get through it <3
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- 3y
Don't push her too hard to talk. If she says she doesn't want to talk. Just remind her that you love her and are there for her. If she does open up to you, be supportive. Even if you don't understand what she is experiencing. OCD is not easy to talk about and even harder to explain to someone who doesn't have it. If you have questions ask! But don't take it personally if she doesn't want to answer. Above all, avoid saying things like "I think everyone is a little OCD" or "Just stop thinking about it" Statements like that may be well intended, but they are incredibly hurtful and dismissive towards someone with OCD.
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- 3y
Knowing how my wife puts up with me and my nonsense… just. Be loving and have compassion, whatever it is it’s not her, it’s just a glitch in her mind, God knows the real her and so do you! Just be a listener and give her your shoulder to cry in it just rest on
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- 3y
Absolutely recommend that she get ERP with a therapist who is specialized and medication
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- 3y
The best thing you can do is let her know that you fully support her, believe her and recognize her feelings (validation is VERY important), and listen to her. You can ask her about specifics, try to distract her, maybe send her/give her some calming items (such as bath salts, fidget toys, essential oils, etc.) just to try out. Also, ask her what she would like your help with, what could possibly help her, what she enjoys, etc. I wouldn’t call every day unless she wants you to, but definitely at minimum once a week. For me, I might like if my mom checked in on me maybe 3 times a week? Like Mon, Wed, Fri, or something
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- 3y
Thank you for going out to do your own homework on this! So many people just say "let me know if I can do anything to help" and leave it at that. The blog posts on the NOCD site are some of the best and most comprehensive writing I've ever found about OCD, even about my own subtypes which aren't so typical. So feel confident in the info you find there - the whole Education section in particular is valuable for family members.
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- 24w
Please comment. Just say if follows along the OCD pattern or not. I don't need reassurance per se! My daughter was laying across me and every time I breathed a certain way I was getting a groinal sensation. I kept breathing like that anyways (ugh idk why), and then my mind told me I had hurt/a**aulted her that I might as well do something else to hurt because what's more. So idk why or what overcame me other than the thought of doing it because my mind told me I had hurt her already ("my mind literally made me question what to do and I guess the only thing I could come up with was using my elbow) and causing another feeling but it came across my mind to elbow her, and I elbowed her crotch or side/thigh area. Which caused another very unwanted groinal sensation. Then I began FREAKING smooth out. And I've been stressing since. I feel like as a mom I don't deserve to be hers anymore. Idk what overcame me but my therapist says it's all OCD. I was doing SO well! Is this really OCD? This has all caused me a great amount of anxiety. I feel like a terrible person and mom. I just need help knowing if this is OCD. Not wanting reassurance. Just wanting to know if this lines up with the POCD I've been diagnosed with by my current therapist.
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- 15w
My son has Pure O religious/scrupulosity with GAD and Bipolar. My son was diagnosed with Pure O religious OCD two years ago. He has to complete a task so that God doesn’t send him to hell if he doesn’t do it. These tasks are dangerous like doing multiple back flips on concrete, or jumping off balconies three times, doing MMA slams on his back three times. The thoughts are telling him if he doesn’t do this he will go to hell. Or he is so worried about blaspheming the holy spirt and loose his salvation. He knows this is his OCD. He knows the scripture and that God is one of peace and love. Been there and done that on quoting scripture and reminding him he is saved. I can see the torture he is going through and it is painful to watch. He also needs to be stuck next to me at all times cuz it makes him feel safe. This is impeding on my life as I feel I have a toddler again, he is 24 and a former 4 star football player. He wants this to stop, he is in therapy and working on it. He was free from these thoughts from November 2023 till April 2025. He is dealing with narcissistic trauma with his father and this triggers the OCD. My question is what can I do to support and help him through these episodes and not agitate him and to help him heal?
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- 12w
My little sister is 13 we’ve taken her to a child psychologist and she was diagnosed with OCD and social anxiety and I believe germaphobia. The psychologist said that he can’t properly diagnose her with autism until her anxiety symptoms are treated. But I am very positive that she is also autistic as I am autistic and know the symptoms vary well. She was given a medication at a low dose, I don’t remember what kind, she had been taking it even tho she did not want to for a couple of months. It seemed to be helping her anxiety immensely but I believe she is scared of how the medication changes how she feels and she doesn’t like the taste. So they switched medications and that one was even worse because the taste was too strong she didn’t even try it for more than a day so there’s no way of knowing if that one was better for her or not. These are both liquid medications btw we used juice for her to drink it. Since then she hasn’t taken any medication and she has said that she doesn’t want to. We can’t force her to take the medication as that would obviously be counter productive. But since then her ocd and germaphobia have gotten progressively worse. On top of not wanting medication she doesn’t like the idea of using any coping skills like deep breaths or breathing exercises to calm down and doesn’t like the idea when I talk about ERP or therapy or any kind of treatment that could help. It seems all the ideas either make her uncomfortable or scare her. I fear somewhat that my own ocd compulsions have made her think that this is normal and doesn’t need treatment and I don’t know what to do to help understand that treatment and change isn’t scary. I also fear that I’m not approaching this right and my mom doesn’t understand ocd like I do so I feel like it falls on me to help her through this and help my mom understand what we need to do to help her. I’m sorry this is so long. thank you for reading this. She’s really struggling and it’s affecting my own mental health too and I don’t know what to do. If anyone has any tips or advice please that’s all I’m asking for.
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