What would would happen if we follow our doubts and change our will? (instead of following our morality and suffering because of our ocd) I am wondering (Probably just another ocd doubt) All the toughs that let us scared, take us that way because our will is "against" the toughs, right? I meant, obviously only for those thoughts that doesn't harm anyone! For example I have the doubt "maby my man don't like me anymore/ maby I don't like him enough" what if instead of struggling with anxiety, stress and my own body I just broke up with him? That's not what I want; yeah, but I don't want to be always questioning and stressing myself either! What if we follow ocd instead of our will?

Jeanie12

Date posted: 3y ago

It would just latch on to something else. It would be a compulsion. Everything we did would be a compulsion. I know my husband is incredible and worth every bit of fight I am giving OCD. We deserve to have healthy relationships. I guess it depends on how important your relationship is to you! Or was to you before OCD took over!

Saraa

Date posted: 3y ago

Yeah; i understand that... but my rocd; even If I am in therapy, gets stronger and stronger all the times that I see my boyfriend... and each time is worse! Even if I learned to throw away doubts, now bad feelings stay, and I have to choose between cry for like an half hour ( I think it release all the stress; because that way I actually enjoy the other times of the date) or stay anxious for all the time! Also, sometimes I feel guilty thinking that he deserve someone better than me! Furthermore, I start to forget about all the really good moments we had! It is like if wen ocd strikes, I connect to my boyfriend all the bed emotions, and the only chance I have to "survive" is to run away! I know it is wrong, and I really don't want it, but it is getting worse and harder in those time restist to the urge of breaking up! How do you "get out" from those moments? (Hoping that you don't have, but in case haha)

Redyroo

Date posted: 3y ago

I’ve already tried it and broke up with my bf SEVERAL times because of these exact thoughts and instantly whenever I did it I’d regret it because like you, I also didn’t want it but was also really sick of it and just wanted an escape. When you do break up, your ocd now starts saying “see they never really liked me, they aren’t even chasing after me” or “now he’s going to go with someone else and kiss/ have sex with another woman because he can, he’s single now”. Trust me, breaking up is not the answer, it’s another compulsion and another means to escape/avoid the feelings of anxiety/pain that the thoughts bring. Remember that ocd thoughts aren’t real, the solution is nothing, the more serious you take them, the more power they have over your life. Call them out, laugh at them but whatever you do, do not believe them. Once you believe them, you’re in serious danger

Saraa

Date posted: 3y ago

Thank you again. I reached the point that even if I see my him, the second after he go away I start to cry. Everything is going well, but with all the anxiety accumulated, and all the bad moments and memories caused by ocd; I feel like I can't be myself anymore and I don't know if it is still worth fighting or not... but you gave me some hope!

crc_1394

Date posted: 3y ago

I feel this. My thoughts about leaving or breaking up and finally being “free” have honestly been making my anxiety decrease and go away. So that makes the whole idea more alluring and makes it seem better to break up rather than stay together. We’re all tried of these cycles and deserve to live our relationships thru. All while working on ourselves. Compulsions and ocd are tricky. Especially when mixed with our fatigue of ocd in general and the separate problems it creates in our lives/relationships. Best of luck to all of you.

Saraa

Date posted: 3y ago

YES; EXACTLY. I know that if I break up with him, things will return to "normal" and I would regain myself. It happened with my ex, I had the exact same doubts, and I (before therapy) acted in the same way. I really want to change things, but I don't know it it is possible, or is better to be single forever haha... and the fact that now it has been a couple of months that I am mostly without good feelings (or maybe the ocd make me think this way, I dunno) make me keep question about "is all af this worth it? If you are alone you would immediately feel better!". Probably another "intrusive think" but it is kind of true, and i'm scared that one of these days I will fall and listen to this! Thank you btw; you made me feel so understood! Sorry I'm Italian; still have some problems with English haha

Redyroo

Date posted: 3y ago

Think about this right, if you were to be with someone new, do you think that the same thoughts will come up? Will you be able to trust them or will the same doubts crop up? That’s when you know it’s your ocd talking

Saraa

Date posted: 3y ago

I never saw it this way, maybe this could be a really good game changer. It is a very good point of view actually!! Thank you soooo much!!!!

Secretidentity

Date posted: 21w ago

Does any one ever question if their ocd isn’t ocd?

That’s kinda my question. All my thoughts feel so realistic and so now I doubt if they are ocd and if I just can’t make my mind up about something and I’m using ocd as an excuse or something idc I feel like this post is word vomit.

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 16w ago

Pls I need advice

I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now

Mika05

Date posted: 14w ago

Worried about not being anxious?

These past few days I was fine. Minimal intrusive thoughts ,no anxiety etc(to add I'm on medication so maybe it's starting to work although it barely is 2 weeks) and today I got a sudden wave of anxiety and it started latching on some thoughts like" what if I'm in denial and I wanna break up with my bf? And what if erp doesn't work for me because I actually wanna break up with my bf?" But they didn't really stay long usually those thoughts would make me spiral for days or so, now they lasted for some hours. And now I'm trying to trigger myself into being anxious again because if I don't it means I don't have ocd and if I don't have ocd it means I don't love my bf and if I don't love my bf it means I have to break up. Idk if it makes sense but the lack of anxiety makes me wonder if I actually have ocd or not.

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