- Date posted
- 3y ago
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yes, not doing compulsions is the correct course of action and will lead to success; but, just as we're not either blissfully happy or devastatingly down all the time, simply not doing compulsions isn't always going to make you feel like the problem is gone. It's going to take practice but you're off to a good start, so keep it going! Think of it this way: It took a lot of time getting to the point where OCD became a near-dabilitating factor in our lives and much like gaining weight over time is going to take time to lose, managing OCD is also going to take time. I spent most of last year and the first part of this year barely able to function. But the help I'm getting here has calmed things down considerably. However, there are times where it still feels like something's not right. It is definitely normal. Simply be with where you are and go easy on yourself. All is well.
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- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Great advice and glad to hear things have calmed down a great deal for you recently. Stay strong and keep up your positivity and determination. Take care.
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I’m gonna need an answer to this too :/
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- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Hi Halgal88*, sounds like the OCD bully is trying to ratchet up your anxiety levels because you aren’t letting your intrusive thoughts get to make you do your compulsions. First of all, congrats on doing ERP and being able to sit with your thoughts and not react to them. As Anonymous said, not giving into your compulsions is definitely key to making progress and it will take some time. And I wholeheartedly agree that you should be easy on yourself as you progress, especially if/when a slip up occurs as well as celebrate and be proud of every step you take towards taking your time and your life back from the OCD bully. Your feelings are perfectly normal and just means you are progressing, and depending on outside stressors or the particular compulsion you are trying to not give in to, that feeling of something not being right or off may be greater or lesser. Either way it means you are taking the food away from the OCD bully and that is a good thing and another reason to be proud of yourself. Keep up the good work, stay strong and best wishes.
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- 23w ago
Feel guilty for not giving into compulsions like rumination and confessing? I feel guilt for having an intrusive thought, trying to shrug it off or just giving it a few seconds of thought and moving along. This sounds like improvement but I still struggle with the anxiety and the guilt. The shame. I’ll be okay and then I’ll remember I have OCD and my stomach will drop and I just want to curl up and cry.
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- Date posted
- 16w ago
I’ve noticed that I’m somewhat happier also ignoring my thoughts than I am instead of doing compulsions (I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired atp) but I’ve heard you’re technically supposed to do erp rather than pushing under the rug. But idk if I have a thought I just refuse to think about it again and im fine even if I want to do compulsions
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- 12w ago
OK, this might sound really dumb, but when you guys get intrusive thoughts, do they just come once and then go away? I’ve heard that repeatedly thinking about an intrusive thought is considered ‘checking,’ but it doesn’t feel like I have any control over how many times it comes up in my head. It’s not like I’m trying to check anything—it just keeps showing up, almost like it’s terrorizing me every time. I can’t seem to stop it from looping, stop remembering it, or prevent it from coming up. Every time it does, I feel horrified, and I already know it’s going to horrify me. I don’t think I’m actively trying to see if my feelings have changed, so is this still considered checking? How do other people get an intrusive thought and just move on? Doesn’t it pop up a million times for them too? I always thought that was normal, but now I’m hearing this could be a compulsion, and I feel really confused, scared, and lost. Is this why my OCD feels so extreme? Because I really don’t feel like I can control how many times the thought pops up.
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