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sharjehausen
8d ago

I've read where change, adjustment is hard for those with OCD. Boy, is it!! I lived at my daughter's apt for 3 months and now back at home which is a good thing other than difficulties with my husband. I'm glad to be home but I feel like I'm losing my mind. I can't think. Any suggestions other than give myself grace?

Jesse Miller
7d ago
what difficulties are you having with living with your husband? does he trigger your OCD?
sharjehausen
7d ago
It's certainly not all his fault. I have an OCD brain. He gets angry Very easily. I get the eye rolls and disgusted looks from him. So yes, a trigger but not the only one
Jesse Miller
6d ago
I think I would need more background on this, but I think a therapist would be the most qualified person to give you an answer. Don’t know if you have one within the app, but I do suggest one! Or even outside of NOCD, a supportive therapist who helps with day to day life. Sounds like your husband is having a hard time understanding your OCD, which most loved ones do, and it can be very triggering. The most advice I can give is that if he starts to trigger anxiety, instead of trying to avoid him or avoid the anxiety, sit with him and say “hey that made me very anxious, but let’s get through this together” and sit with the anxiety.
kaylanicole01
6d ago
Hi there! Thank you so much for your willingness to share on here. I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing such distress during your transition time. I know that I really struggle with transitions, and then putting OCD on top of it does not make anything easier. A NOCD therapist would have some tools for you and your husband to work on this together. OCD is certainly not a journey that one can take on their own, and having the support of family members is so valuable! Maybe talk to your therapist about having your husband sit in on a session so you can discuss tools that the both of you can use together. I’m attaching a link on how to talk about OCD with your parents, but it might have some useful tips about talking about it with your husband! I hope it helps. https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/how-to-talk-with-your-parents-about-ocd