I think I would need more background on this, but I think a therapist would be the most qualified person to give you an answer. Don’t know if you have one within the app, but I do suggest one! Or even outside of NOCD, a supportive therapist who helps with day to day life. Sounds like your husband is having a hard time understanding your OCD, which most loved ones do, and it can be very triggering. The most advice I can give is that if he starts to trigger anxiety, instead of trying to avoid him or avoid the anxiety, sit with him and say “hey that made me very anxious, but let’s get through this together” and sit with the anxiety.