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I agree, you should be careful with how much you are comforting your girlfriend. It’s great that you want to be supportive and caring, but unfortunately the more you provide reassurance for her, the deeper your girlfriend will fall into this cycle. Has she had any therapy yet? What is you and your girlfriends knowledge of OCD in general? We can provide more help here if you give us more info..
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Do she know about this app? It seems to help a lot for me when I’m in sos mode..
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Bravo for reaching out and looking for support.
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That’s great you are supportive, but with ocd, you often want to prevent giving reassurance for people’s obsessions
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It’s considered a compulsion which makes the OCD sometimes worse
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@PetShopBoysRock so there isn’t much anyone can do expect her own self in the path of bettering her OCD?
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Has* not had^
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@LaPink that’s great advice
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No problem!
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@nOCD I wasn’t aware of that, thank you very much that definitely should help a lot
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@Mjs110160 thank you very much, this information helps a ton
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@PetShopBoysrock she has had a couple of sessions of therapy and counselling but she stopped short before like even 5 sessions because they grew too much of a cost for her mom to afford and her dad doesn’t know about her OCD because he doesn’t believe in mental illness. She is clinically diagnosed with OCD by her counsellor and is more compulsive and gets like severe intrusive thoughts, it’s hard to distract and calm her down once she is in an episode... has that laid down more cement to build some answers on top of?
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@LaPink thank you so much, looking at it now and its been great
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@Aiden it’s a shame about the cost being a factor in the continuance of her therapy. It’s a problem for so many people. However, since this is the current status of where we’re at.. Your girlfriend will need to understand that a therapist or clinic isn’t going to cure her OCD. They can maybe teach her more coping skills/techniques, but essentially it is up to her to practice and re-wire her brain to think more rationally.
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There is help she can receive from therapists and clinicians, but my point was more so that they won’t be able to cure OCD for your girlfriend. Is there any chance of her going to another therapist?
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I started talking to this girl a few weeks ago. At first, everything seemed great, she asked questions, planned a date, even rescheduled when she couldn’t make the first one. Then, out of nowhere, she ghosted me for about eight days. When she came back, she apologized and said she’d been going through a tough time and was scared of going back in the dating world but really liked me and didn’t want me to think I did anything wrong. We started texting again, and it felt like we were back on track. But over the past few days, she’s been inconsistent with long gaps between responses. So last night I basically asked her if she was actually interested in talking or not, to which there wasn’t a quick response so I followed up calling myself dramatic and apologizing. When I woke up there still wasn’t a response and I went into an OCD episode where I thought I had messed everything up and felt the need to overly explain myself with a few more texts even mentioning the OCD because I know how double, triple or however many texts come off. My OCD spiraled, and I ended up sending multiple texts trying to explain myself and apologize, which I now regret. I didn’t say anything mean, the gist was trying to explain myself and apologizing. She hasn’t responded to those messages yet, and I’ve managed to calm my nerves a bit but has anybody had their OCD act up in similar ways? I feel really bad for sending multiple texts but in an OCD episode it felt like I had to in order to calm myself; which I know is irrational. Has anyone been through something similar or have strategies for handling this kind of relationship anxiety and overthinking?
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