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I agree, you should be careful with how much you are comforting your girlfriend. It’s great that you want to be supportive and caring, but unfortunately the more you provide reassurance for her, the deeper your girlfriend will fall into this cycle. Has she had any therapy yet? What is you and your girlfriends knowledge of OCD in general? We can provide more help here if you give us more info..
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Do she know about this app? It seems to help a lot for me when I’m in sos mode..
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Bravo for reaching out and looking for support.
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That’s great you are supportive, but with ocd, you often want to prevent giving reassurance for people’s obsessions
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It’s considered a compulsion which makes the OCD sometimes worse
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@PetShopBoysRock so there isn’t much anyone can do expect her own self in the path of bettering her OCD?
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Has* not had^
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@LaPink that’s great advice
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No problem!
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@nOCD I wasn’t aware of that, thank you very much that definitely should help a lot
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@Mjs110160 thank you very much, this information helps a ton
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@PetShopBoysrock she has had a couple of sessions of therapy and counselling but she stopped short before like even 5 sessions because they grew too much of a cost for her mom to afford and her dad doesn’t know about her OCD because he doesn’t believe in mental illness. She is clinically diagnosed with OCD by her counsellor and is more compulsive and gets like severe intrusive thoughts, it’s hard to distract and calm her down once she is in an episode... has that laid down more cement to build some answers on top of?
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@LaPink thank you so much, looking at it now and its been great
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@Aiden it’s a shame about the cost being a factor in the continuance of her therapy. It’s a problem for so many people. However, since this is the current status of where we’re at.. Your girlfriend will need to understand that a therapist or clinic isn’t going to cure her OCD. They can maybe teach her more coping skills/techniques, but essentially it is up to her to practice and re-wire her brain to think more rationally.
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There is help she can receive from therapists and clinicians, but my point was more so that they won’t be able to cure OCD for your girlfriend. Is there any chance of her going to another therapist?
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just wondering if anyone has any advice for this as i’m genuinely going insane. i’ve been in a happy long term relationship but the past few months we’ve gotten incredibly closer and my girlfriend is my everything. as a result, my ocd now revolves around that and her and a million times a day i convince myself she doesn’t like me, she’ll leave, she’s annoyed at me etc. we’re both quite anxious and insecure people so anytime she brings up and insecurity or something she’s worried about relationship wise, i instantly spiral and feel incredibly guilty thinking that it is my fault, have panic attacks and so on. she reassures me a lot but any slight change in behaviour or tone triggers this whole spiral and i think all the good reassuring things she said were not true. this has been going on for a while but it has now been three nights in a row and i don’t know how much more i can take. im also scared its not just ocd and that she actually does hate me, at least in these moments any advice/suggestions are appreciated :)
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I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.
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Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.
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