- Username
- Berry
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I worry about this myself too. I also worry if they can accept me for all my past mistakes. One time a friend of mine told me that if someone loves you, they will accept you no matter who you are cause they will see the best in you. The light in all that darkness. They will give you a shoulder to lean on and youll grow. You’d do the same for them. Im not giving you reassurance, Im just telling you what someone taught me.
I have had OCD since I was a kid. It reared its ugly head while I was dating my husband. Neither of us knew at the time that it was OCD; we just thought it was anxiety. It was horrible. It was focused on whether I was doing the right thing by being with him (sort of an offshoot of scrupulosity OCD). But my husband stuck with me through it. And we are now married 4 years with a toddler. And then after I gave birth my OCD got triggered so severely again, and I’ve been working on it for the last year and a half. He’s still here with me. In all of this we actually ended up discovering that he has OCD too, though neither of us knew it - maybe that’s why he took it so well? Point is, neither of us knew I had OCD, we just knew I had severe obsessive anxiety and he stuck with me anyway. It’s absolutely possible to find love with OCD.
I have a whole host of mental illnesss and I’m engaged to a great man. He also has OCD but it’s not as bad as mine. He really balances me out and I’m grateful for him and his care but I didn’t get together with him until I was 25. So kind of a late bloomer.
It’s completely possible. I’ve been suffering from R-OCD for 3 months now and It’s been horrendous to say the least however my boyfriend is the most loving, helpful person. If they love you they will see past it and support you. If they are in love with you they will be willing to stick by you whatever happens.
Some people will reject an individual with a disorder, but others will be empathetic and see past the disorder. IMHO, we are pretty cool folks ;-)
Thank u Guys for supportive comments my hope grows 🫀
Should I date someone even though I have OCD? Should I allow myself to like someone? I have a huge crush on someone right now and I don’t know if I have normal crush symptoms or if I’m obsessed with them. Should I even pursue a relationship with someone especially in my mental state? I used to want to stay a celibate for life but now I want a relationship.
How to tell the difference between normal relationship doubts and ROCD? Im going on a rant now: I have avoided relationships for the most part over the last 10 years. as soon as I get past the 2nd or 3rd date I feel like if I dont know that they have the potential to be “the one” then I worry constantly about wasting my life and theirs. I had 2 relationships that lasted about 3 months but the whole time, I just wanted to get out even though they were both good guys. In November, I had my first panic attack and soon discovered what I was dealing with (and still managing it) is SO-OCD. Then I learned of ROCD and wondered if that is something I have struggled with since my teens. As soon as I get into a relationship I have these strong urges to break it off for minor stupid things. Things that honestly make no sense. Like a weird freckle or chin (real examples). Not to mention I am afraid of getting intimate because Im super paranoid of getting pregnant... I started talking to a guy during quarantine and it’s slowly turning into more than friends. I really like him and enjoy spending time with him but I am constantly worried. Being aware of ROCD has helped me be mindful of the present but all my old habits are trying to come back full force and I find myself trying to avoid him. Ive read as much as I can find on ROCD and I can check off almost all the obessions and compulsions that are associated with ROCD. But it doesnt affect me the same way SO-OCD did. Like I felt like I couldnt breathe, and I could barely be in public. I wanted to escape so bad all the time. With this ROCD (if thats what it really is) I dont feel that panic, I just feel worried, stuck, and distracted. Not to mention, if I can manage to stay mindful, how on earth do you even tell someone you just started seeing that you have ocd, let alone so-ocd and rocd. It just adds to me wanting to avoid him. Also, how do you go from being dateless and single for 2 years to starting a relationship in the middle of a quarantine while you’re learning that you have OCD.
On a somewhat related note: has anyone here dated/been in a relationship with a partner that has OCD. I'm starting to realize just how important it is to me (as someone who has never been in a relationship) to eventually be with someone who will understand this condition. Humanity though, being what it is, tells me that I will only find that in someone else who sufferers from the same condition. Is a relationship between two people with mental illness (and a similar one, at that) possible?
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