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I worry about this myself too. I also worry if they can accept me for all my past mistakes. One time a friend of mine told me that if someone loves you, they will accept you no matter who you are cause they will see the best in you. The light in all that darkness. They will give you a shoulder to lean on and youll grow. You’d do the same for them. Im not giving you reassurance, Im just telling you what someone taught me.
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I have had OCD since I was a kid. It reared its ugly head while I was dating my husband. Neither of us knew at the time that it was OCD; we just thought it was anxiety. It was horrible. It was focused on whether I was doing the right thing by being with him (sort of an offshoot of scrupulosity OCD). But my husband stuck with me through it. And we are now married 4 years with a toddler. And then after I gave birth my OCD got triggered so severely again, and I’ve been working on it for the last year and a half. He’s still here with me. In all of this we actually ended up discovering that he has OCD too, though neither of us knew it - maybe that’s why he took it so well? Point is, neither of us knew I had OCD, we just knew I had severe obsessive anxiety and he stuck with me anyway. It’s absolutely possible to find love with OCD.
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I have a whole host of mental illnesss and I’m engaged to a great man. He also has OCD but it’s not as bad as mine. He really balances me out and I’m grateful for him and his care but I didn’t get together with him until I was 25. So kind of a late bloomer.
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It’s completely possible. I’ve been suffering from R-OCD for 3 months now and It’s been horrendous to say the least however my boyfriend is the most loving, helpful person. If they love you they will see past it and support you. If they are in love with you they will be willing to stick by you whatever happens.
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Some people will reject an individual with a disorder, but others will be empathetic and see past the disorder. IMHO, we are pretty cool folks ;-)
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Thank u Guys for supportive comments my hope grows 🫀
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Looking back, my introverted nature and struggles to find belonging in high school may have set the stage for how OCD would later impact my relationships. I had my first relationship in high school, but OCD wasn’t a major factor then. It wasn’t until my longest relationship—six years from age 18 to 24—that OCD really took hold. The relationship itself wasn’t the issue; it was what happened after. When it ended, I became obsessed with confessing past mistakes, convinced I had to be completely transparent. Even when my partner was willing to work past them, I couldn’t let go of the intrusive thoughts, and that obsession landed me in the hospital. From there, my struggle with ROCD (Relationship OCD) fully emerged. For years, every time I tried to move forward in dating, doubts consumed me. I would start seeing someone and feel fine, but then the questions would creep in: Do I really like her? Do I find her attractive? Is she getting on my nerves? What if I’m with the wrong person? I’d break things off, thinking I was following my true feelings. But then I’d question: Was that really how I felt, or was it just OCD? I tried again and again, each time hoping I could “withstand it this time,” only to fall back into the same cycle. The back and forth hurt both me and the person I was with. By the time I realized it was ROCD, the damage had been done, and I still hadn’t built the tools to manage it. Now, at 28, I know I need to approach dating differently. I recently talked to someone from a dating app, and my OCD still showed up—questioning my every move, making me doubt my own decisions. I haven’t yet done ERP specifically for ROCD, but I know that’s my next step. Just like I’ve learned tools for managing my other OCD subtypes, I need a set of strategies for when intrusive doubts hit in relationships. My goal this year is to stop letting uncertainty control me—to learn how to sit with doubt instead of trying to “figure it out.” I want to break the cycle and be able to build something healthy without my OCD sabotaging it. I know I’m not alone in this, and I know healing is possible. I’m hopeful that working with a therapist will help me develop exposures and thought loops to practice. I don’t expect to eliminate doubt entirely—after all, doubt is a part of every relationship—but I want to reach a place where it doesn’t paralyze me. Where I can move forward without constantly questioning whether I should. And where I can be in a relationship without feeling like OCD is pulling the strings. I would appreciate hearing about your experiences with ROCD. Please share your thoughts or any questions in the comments below. I’d love to connect and offer my perspective. Thanks!
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So I’m really struggling to believe that anyone will want to be in a relationship with me and still love me when they find out about my pocd and intrusive thoughts. I am holding a belief no one can love me with this condition and they will be repulsed by me when they find out. I just don’t know how to shake that feeling and be brave enough to try and share with anyone I’m dating.
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Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.
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