Hey guys. Things are getting rough with my girlfriend. I always ask her the same stuff, and whenever we’re together, we always talk about my ocd because I feel like we need to or she’ll be upset, but it just keeps making her more upset. What do I do? I love her and my ocd is about making sure we’re ok but me having that ocd makes us worse

Anonymousfox

170d ago

Hi! I’m sorry your OCD is making things hard for you and your gf. I also talk to my boyfriend about my OCD constantly and I feel guilty for doing so, BUT the more I’ve explained it to him the more understanding he has become. Do you have the book “overcoming unwanted intrusive thoughts”? It’s a great book that my boyfriend and I read together (just the parts that pertain to me) maybe this would help her understand your situation better / why you talk to her about it often? Just a thought!! I hope things get better soon :)

bryer

170d ago

Thank you, it’s got to the point every time I even say” how can I help”, it makes her mad. Even when we’re good she seems like she doesn’t want to be there

eoid

170d ago

@bryer I know that feeling. That exactly feeling of "he/she doesn't want me enough". I get really really triggered when for example my partner doesn't want to call, or answer with short short messages... try to read about anxious attachment! That helped me to relax a bit! I sincerely can't tell you if it is my rocd or the other people that take distances. But I stopped try to answer, and things has been really better since then!