I know it isn't properly rocd, but I want to ask, do you have tips to switch to a safe attachment style?? Someone told me about attachment styles (avoidant, anxious etc) and I am so thankful!!! You made me understand better my situation ❤❤ I have a really insecure-anxious attachment style! And I am sure that a lot of my beliefs/bad habits make my rocd worse (and my relationship harder)! Do you have some advices/experiences/apps/ books/ everything that maybe could help me??

Absolutely! My attachment style is avoidant and dismissive. It took a LOT of work to rearrange the neural connectivity in my brain due to my attachment style, but I've made a lot of progress. The good news is that our brains have a lot of plasticity which means that we can change our behaviors over time. I want to warn you that it takes a very long time. You will have a lot of slip ups into old habits. Maybe you like to run away, or be defensive, or maybe you cling. Whenever these emotions pop up, your job is to realize that they surfaced and to see what triggered it. The trigger is always going to be an unmet need that you had as a young person or child. Attachment styles definitely fuel rocd. For me, it made me want to flee or to judge my partner. This made the rocd much worse because deep inside, I was very hurt and wounded from my childhood. I'm really glad that you're taking this on. It's a very difficult task but it is well worth it. If you need a peer supporter, I'm here. Good luck :) Here is an article I like to read to remind me of some of the things I just mentioned: https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.mindbodygreen.com/articles/understanding-attachment-theory-and-how-styles-form-in-childhood#cobssid=s

An amazing book is called “Attached” by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

There is also a woman on Instagram called Charisse Cook, I think that’s how you spell her name and she makes videos on the anxious/avoidant dance.