Does anyone else have rocd pertaining to a future relationship? I want to get treatment but everything I have seen so far about rocd talks about current relationships. I want to get treatment so that hopefully I can be in a relationship in the future without rocd.

I don't know If it is possible or not. But surely; if you have anxiety/doubts/fears about a future relationship, therapy will help you understand better whatever it is, and most important how to manage everything!! I think it is a beautiful idea start already the healing journey!! Good luck!!

I don't know if it answers you or not, but at this point I don't think I can date ever again. I'm a hopeless romantic but the moment I'm faced with someone I like possibly liking me back I am so anxious I can't function. I don't have a specific fear, I just despise romance in real life despite wanting it so badly in daydreams. I've basically resigned myself to being lonely. I'm too scared of anything else

You know, maby it is because you fantasticise it too much, and you fear that it will not be like in your expectations...

@eoid Sorry I'm not a psychologist or anything, didn't mean to judge!

I had a similar problem with touch, with people I like. Especially with my first bf, I used get too anxious, not even panicking but I was litterally blocked! It was strange and I don't know why I had it. I know that the first thing that helped me was talking about my "problem" to the other person, so he could not take it personally and think that I don't liked him. And the other thing was going really really slow; little steps every time. I remember that the first dates I gave him a number of hug.. like today you can hug me 5 time! Haha

@eoid Interesting. My ex was never understanding. But even just being in his vicinity made all my nerves on high alert

@Kaylaaaa Well... it sounds like a really good erp to me!

@eoid Joking obviously! Maby you can try a pyramid system! Like get used for example to text him sometimes, when you stop feeling so anxious, maby some calls, and goes that way! For me worked well also get used to the person and be able to trust him! But also the "living in the moment" kind of mentality! Do something without programs before with him! I am not a professional, and everyone Is different... but for me all of that worked!

@eoid Last Wednesday I went to a Christmas market with the girl I like... now I'm convinced I had zero feelings whatsoever and also am a bag of anciery and never want to date again 😢

@Kaylaaaa Uhh sorry I assumed it was a him :( Hey you should know that feeling aren't everything! Like, you can love someone, even if in that moments you can feel nothing! Maby you can find something that help you let the stress out! Like a sport... or an hobby!

Yes this was me for the longest time. It's actually harder than in a relationship cause you can't do behaviour experiments and exposures as easily

Any advice for me? 😅 what did you do? Did you just wait to address it until you were in a relationship? I feel it’s probably not the best idea to just forget about it until then. Any tips are appreciated. 🥴

@mangoflavoredocd You know you can do imaginal exposures and such right? There are people with harm OCD or pedophilia OCD for whom actual full exposures make no sense to do.

@arunb Oh I never really thought about that. You think that’ll be enough?