anyone with ROCD, pls help me i don’t want re assurance but anyone who has recovered from this theme please help me. i’m so scared i don’t love my boyfriend. like when i look at him all i feel is anxiety and i don’t feel the love i should. but like i know love is a choice not a feeling and it’s normal to get into ruts but this is consistent. we have been together for 4 years. and now when i think about him i just get anxious.

I can really relate, especially at the beginning of March I was exactly where you are. It does get easier and can become better. But a lot of it is work that you have to consistently work on, I’m currently having what’s called a “back door spike” and it really blows. I’ve overcome the ROCD before tho and I believe I can overcome it again. Just stick with your erps and do your best not to give your ocd thoughts the attention they want. Unfortunately, ocd just has a habit of picking on the things we care about most it seems like. I wish you success and happiness in your ocd recovery

You need to do ERP for this, you will feel soooo much better!

In the begining love is a choice then it becomes a feeling and a choice. I am going through the same thing. Its only been 6 months for me with him but ive had bad pasts with men so this gives me anxiety.