- Date posted
- 3y ago
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Watch "Awaken into Love" on youtube. Her videos are helpful
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I agree!! She also has an Instagram and podcast. :)
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@lindsš Thanks alotš ill surely try
- Date posted
- 3y ago
One thing if you start agreeing on will help is āthoughts arenāt factsā whenever you have rocd thoughts just let it flow because they donāt mean anything this helped meš
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Thank you so muchšI'll try that too
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- Date posted
- 20w ago
Iāve just recently found out that Relationship OCD is a thing. I feel like I relate but it also feels like relationship trauma. Iām in a fairly new relationship and I keep telling myself that things are going great, we are good, he cares for me, but does he? Thereās this unbelievable amount of self doubt that sits in me because of what my ex did to me many months ago. I kept getting told that I do too much, i smother, need constant reassurance, then got told that I donāt care enough, the things I do arenāt enough and that Iām not enough. I feel like I am waiting for the day that I get broken up with because of these āproblemsā just so I can be proven right at the fact that I should be considered unlovable. I go through this every month around my period because I get so emotional and nervous that I stress over the idea that he doesnāt like me. How does someone continue a relationship with Relationship OCD? How do I explain it?
- User type
- Therapist
- Date posted
- 12w ago
Valentineās Day is a day to celebrate love, however if you are living with Relationship OCD (ROCD) this can be a very triggering day. Relationship OCD is essentially, the fear of being in the wrong relationship, not truly loving your partner, or not being loved by your partner. This makes you doubt the true nature of your relationship and makes you believe that your entire relationship is based on lies. It can make you feel like a bad person and not worthy of love. ROCD will make you believe that you need to leave the relationship just to find some peace. When we think about ROCD we often think that this only applies to romantic relationships, however ROCD can impact friendships and family relationships as well. ROCD will attack whatever relationship is most important to you. As an ERP therapist some of the most common obsessions that I have seen include āIs my partner āThe Oneāā? āMaybe I am meant to be with someone elseā. āWhat if my partner cheats on me or worse I cheat on him/herā? āI find X attractive. Should I break up with my partner and be with Xā? āDo I even love my partner? What if they donāt love me?ā This list could go on and on. The basis of all of these intrusive thoughts is fear and doubt. The compulsions associated with ROCD are vast. The most common include checking feelings to make sure you really love your partner, avoidance behaviors, reassurance seeking behaviors both from your partner and from others and ruminating on the relationship in the hopes of figuring out if this is the ārightā relationship for you. ROCD, as in most theses in OCD, wants 100% uncertainty that this relationship will work out with no conflict or compromise. The problem is this is unrealistic. All relationships will have some level of conflict and compromise in them. There is no āperfect relationshipā. Most of us have grown up with fairy tales where one true love will come and sweep up off our feet. Life and relationships can be messy and complicated, but they are worth it and are a key aspect of what makes us human. The fact is ROCD makes you doubt everything and will take the joy, excitement and contentment out of the relationship. The good news is that treatment is available, and it is possible to have a long, happy, fulfilling relationship despite ROCD fears. It does take time, perseverance and patience. Treatment using Exposure Response Prevention has been proven to lessen intrusive thoughts. You will learn to manage your expectations of the relationships while leaning into your fears and learning to accept the uncomfortable feelings. By doing this, you can bring joy and contentment back into you life and your relationships. I'd love to hear about how ROCD is showing up for you. Share your experiences in the comments below or ask your questions about ROCD and I will respond to them.
- Date posted
- 11w ago
I canāt stop thinking to myself āwhat if I donāt love herā but deep down I know I love her and thatās why Iām getting pissed off with these unwanted thoughts because itās putting doubt in my head when in reality I love her what should I do?
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