Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
I’m here for you I feel exactly the way you feel. It’s super hard to sit with the uncertainty but you’ve got it. We’ve got it. I’m trying to stay calm rn too.
WitchyKotaWitchyKota
- Date posted
- 3y
I would recommend Awaken into live on YouTube. It helps to make you realize love is a choice and it is good ERP to say maybe you don't feel love today, but you choose to love today and you don't need the answer right now. You've got this! ❤
lexi1347lexi1347
- Date posted
- 3y
You won’t always be happy in a relationship you have to work for happiness togeteht find out what makes u unhappy and work together
WitchyKotaWitchyKota
- Date posted
- 3y
I agree, hello dear. Love is a choice, and takes work. A few people on YouTube or tiktok to check out would be awaken into Love, and anxiouslovecoach. You've got this, and know ypu are not alone.
lexi1347lexi1347
- Date posted
- 3y
@WitchyKota I’m having a spiral right now “do I love him” “am I better off without him “ but I know deep deep in my heart I love him truly and I care so much but then my head thinks “do I love him for the wrong reasons “ when I’m in a spirals I just want to cuddle and get a kiss from him because he comforts me and supports me tells me not to try to put too much thought into the negative or replace with positive . is it bad I want to be comfort by him is that a bad reason to love him .
WitchyKotaWitchyKota
- Date posted
- 3y
@lexi1347 No I don't think so, someone loving you right and you loving that about them isn't bad. Remember love is a choice, we choose it everyday. If you need someone to DM in between normal life I am here. I go into these spirals too, I am sorry these happen. I sometimes get the calm intrusive thoughts. Those are scary too, know that you are fighting this and you are so strong
lexi1347lexi1347
- Date posted
- 3y
@WitchyKota I know I love him I know I do I wouldn’t be so upset about the fact that maybe I didn’t love him . my mother always tells me if u truly don’t love someone you can get up and walk away without any problems. But it hurts to think about and it hurts to think I’ll be away from him . We broke up before and it killed me it felt like I lost half my soul , my best friend . Yeah dm would Be nice
lexi1347lexi1347
- Date posted
- 3y
@WitchyKota I want to love him I want to know I do so is that me choosing to love him . I mean I don’t wanna give up I do not want to give up on him he makes me feel warm and safe and comfort and when we go out I feel excited and happy
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
@lexi1347 i read when you said you knew super deep deep down you love him, what if i’m doubting that too?!? i’ve been really good at resisting compulsions but this is hard
WitchyKotaWitchyKota
- Date posted
- 3y
@lexi1347 I am here my Instagram is: witchy.bun.bun
WitchyKotaWitchyKota
- Date posted
- 3y
@Anonymous Ya it is rough, it can be very difficult. Tell yourself: okay so what, if I don't I don't, but right now I am with him and that's all that matters.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
I feel this way right now
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
You can talk to me
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
i am scared i don’t love him and i’m getting annoyed with him and the stuff he does i used to feel that way abt my ex….. i don’t wanna loose him at all and i just feel like i’m lying to him.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
This is exactly how I’m feeling rn…I feel a flare up coming on. I’ve been staying with my bf for about two weeks now because my family got covid. And I’ve been feeling more irritated with him and I’m kinda sad so my rocd is being triggered. We can’t let this take over us though. You need to use erp. You should say things like “yeah maybe I don’t want to be with him anymore”. You have to accept it. “Yeah maybe I don’t love him” “maybe we will break up” but rn you’re together and that’s all that matters. My therapist tells me that unless there’s absolutely nothing you like about your partner anymore then you shouldn’t break up.
HopeforhappyHopeforhappy
- Date posted
- 3y
Yep once you have problems you seem to always have them I think you are realizing he’s not your person or more should be a friend or in between friends and dating not everyone you date will work out almost every one usually does not I think people are lucky or not lucky I was never lucky and never found my soulmate and I can’t be near the two people who I think should be my soulmate or I would really enjoy being with them and wish I was with them but that’s sll just in my dreams but that’s ok
HopeforhappyHopeforhappy
- Date posted
- 3y
Don’t stay with the wrong person especially if all you do is get horribly upset and angry and hurt constantly I did it for years and I wish I didn’t I wasted my life on two people who I should not been serious with in my life and now it’s mistakes and regret and nothing but bs
lexi1347lexi1347
- Date posted
- 3y
but how do you ever know if it’s not the right person or if it’s just your intrusive thoughts from ocd telling u he’s not the right person or what if u don’t love him .
lexi1347lexi1347
- Date posted
- 3y
Idk I fele like I know deep in my heart I love him and I’ll be sadder if I left him . He makes me warm , and I feel a sense of comfort around him he always makes me laugh . I try to think these intrusive thoughts don’t know how I really feel toward him but sometimes it’s hard to not believe then
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
@lexi1347 You don’t know. No one knows
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
@lexi1347 My therapist says that until there’s nothing you like about your partner then don’t break up.
HopeforhappyHopeforhappy
- Date posted
- 3y
@Anonymous If there are problems or you are not happy or fighting constantly not good
HopeforhappyHopeforhappy
- Date posted
- 3y
If your upset constantly or not happy or get frustrated constantly or have fear anxiety and anger and pain when you’re with them and constantly upsetting you and they do things you dispise or you say to yourself what am I doing here this is stupid or can be dangerous I wasted decades with being with people just because I wanted some one in my life what huge mistakes and nothing but disappointment and frustration and regret years later wasted my life on wrong people and now I’m alone I should of been more alone then then settling or choose wrong people I feel so stupid and I have so many regrets and problems because of idiots but luckily I let it all go now many years later but it’s still ruined my life and emotions and trying to release and heal from so much bad choices and trauma and upsetting situations
lexi1347lexi1347
- Date posted
- 3y
But my rocd tells me I’m not happy or I have anxiety around them because he may be the trigger but I still have so much love and happiness and he does nothing but support and love me and tells me everything is gonna be okay . how would I ever wanna leave someone that good . idk I guess we all have different experiences I think anxiety and unhappiness soemtimes is in healthy relationship you have to work togeteht to solve and get through it and find ways to make things exciting again
lexi1347lexi1347
- Date posted
- 3y
I know they are intrusive thoughts tho because when we broke up once god I was a mess I was so broken and hurt and I felt so alone like I lost my soul and my best friend my ride or die all in one
lexi1347lexi1347
- Date posted
- 3y
I know intrusive thoughts are the ones that question my love and say I’m better off without him
HopeforhappyHopeforhappy
- Date posted
- 3y
You’ll know if it’s right to stay in relationships or not
WitchyKotaWitchyKota
- Date posted
- 3y
Actually alot of people with ROCD don't know, there isn't a right person. Love is a choice. It isn't a choice to be unhappy, to be nitpick, to have rocd, I don't think your responses belong here in this community. While ERP is helpful and helps alot of people just telling someone that they will know is not an okay response. I hope these people find their way through the rocd tunnel, I suffer from it too. I hope you are happy with your choices, but your experiences are not meant to guide theirs. Have a wonderful day ❤
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
@WitchyKota Thank you I also agree. Saying that you’ll know is triggering.
WitchyKotaWitchyKota
- Date posted
- 3y
@Anonymous Agreed
Related posts
Mariabae
- Date posted
- 24w
i need someone to respond rocd
Today, my boyfriend — who usually doesn’t post much — made a really sweet TikTok with me. He used a trend where he called me his princess and posted it on Close Friends. It was thoughtful and loving… but I felt nothing. And that terrified me. Last night, I looked at him while we were lying in bed and had a thought: “I lost feelings. I don’t like him anymore.” It hit me like a wave, and since then I’ve been so scared that this is all the proof I need that I don’t love him. The worst part? I’m not feeling any positive emotions at all. No joy. No spark. No connection. I’ve been trying so hard for so long to feel something — anything — and I just can’t. I’m scared that the numbness means the love is gone. I’m scared I never truly loved him. I’m scared I’ve just been coping all this time, forcing it. I feel like the relationship is fake, like I’m fake, and everything is falling apart. And still… he keeps showing up for me. He’s loving, kind, and consistent. He tells me how much he loves me. But I can’t feel the warmth anymore, and I don’t know what’s happening to me. I’m miserable, I feel like a shell, and I’m terrified that this is my truth — that I don’t love him and I’m just in denial. I need help. I don’t want to lose him. But I also don’t want to keep living in this constant fear, panic, and emotional numbness. I don’t know what to trust anymore — the thoughts, the feelings, or the memories that feel blurry. Has anyone felt this too?
Mariabae
- Date posted
- 23w
i would like a response:(
its so hard to not know if you live your boyfriend or not. this feeling and thought takes the life out if me im so scared. everything feels fake. like all of the sufren its not rocd but real. im trying to not talk to chat ght rn.
faye1010
- Date posted
- 20w
ROCD help PLEASE
Ugh...my boyfriend of 2 years just told me that things need to change because neither of us are happy with the way things have been going this is what he said to me "I don’t know just affection I guess. I want to hug and kiss my girlfriend and I want HER to want to hug and kiss me. And yeah sex is awesome. I get it’s not a requirement and it’ll never be for me, I get that’s been a big struggle for you in the past year but like it was a really big part of our relationship starting out and I do feel like it brings us closer personally. But maybe that’s just me. And a compliment or two every now and then would be kinda nice. It’s not that you never do that’s not true at all but I feel like it’s been continually less and less. And I try to at least give you a couple every day. This is by no means a bashing of you Ky I know you’re going through a lot I really do trust me. I’m very proud of the effort you’ve put in. I just want to work on getting back to the point where I get what I give and vice versa that’s all. And remember sometimes you might only be able to give 90 percent and that’s okay, that’s life. There will be times where I can only give 90 too" - I am so scared nobody will ever want me or wanna be in a relationship with me. I am so scared he is breaking up with me
- Young adults with OCD
- Relationship OCD
- Perfectionism OCD
- OCD newbies
- Contamination OCD
- Health Concern OCD
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond