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I was on dating apps meeting people who just weren't for me at all, but I really wanted to have a relationship again. I felt I was ready for it, but it seemed they weren't. So I stopped trying to force it. I stopped looking. And a few months later, I met someone special simply by going to places I already loved and was already going anyway. The right person for you is out there. They may even share the same hobbies you do, and by some chance you haven't met yet. Keep doing what you love. Keep going to whatever club or place you enjoy. You two will find each other. It might be longer than months, but it will happen.
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Thank you, that’s how I hope for it to happen too. I feel like not knowing when or if youll meet someone somewhere is one of the biggest practices in tolerating uncertainty, so itll take time. Im glad you found yours
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Maybe right now it might be best for you to focus on yourself instead I’ve tired dating with ocd and I treated those people horribly I really recommend getting into therapy and help and healing your own relationship first
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Oof okay point taken. I should be mindful to try tolerating uncertainty better solo before relying on a partner. I hope it gets easier for you, it takes bravery to go to therapy
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I’ve essentially given up on finding a partner, so that doesn’t bother me.
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What do you do instead for social needs? Ive wondered before if adopting a pet would be good for companionship. Not the same as a relationship but its another kind of love
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I don’t want to give up on finding love, but I don’t think anyone could live with my OCD….
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I hope the ocd gets better over time for your sake first 💜 its tough ngl but there maybe we could find people in communities where mental health care is taken seriously n understood
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I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.
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- 20w
Looking back, my introverted nature and struggles to find belonging in high school may have set the stage for how OCD would later impact my relationships. I had my first relationship in high school, but OCD wasn’t a major factor then. It wasn’t until my longest relationship—six years from age 18 to 24—that OCD really took hold. The relationship itself wasn’t the issue; it was what happened after. When it ended, I became obsessed with confessing past mistakes, convinced I had to be completely transparent. Even when my partner was willing to work past them, I couldn’t let go of the intrusive thoughts, and that obsession landed me in the hospital. From there, my struggle with ROCD (Relationship OCD) fully emerged. For years, every time I tried to move forward in dating, doubts consumed me. I would start seeing someone and feel fine, but then the questions would creep in: Do I really like her? Do I find her attractive? Is she getting on my nerves? What if I’m with the wrong person? I’d break things off, thinking I was following my true feelings. But then I’d question: Was that really how I felt, or was it just OCD? I tried again and again, each time hoping I could “withstand it this time,” only to fall back into the same cycle. The back and forth hurt both me and the person I was with. By the time I realized it was ROCD, the damage had been done, and I still hadn’t built the tools to manage it. Now, at 28, I know I need to approach dating differently. I recently talked to someone from a dating app, and my OCD still showed up—questioning my every move, making me doubt my own decisions. I haven’t yet done ERP specifically for ROCD, but I know that’s my next step. Just like I’ve learned tools for managing my other OCD subtypes, I need a set of strategies for when intrusive doubts hit in relationships. My goal this year is to stop letting uncertainty control me—to learn how to sit with doubt instead of trying to “figure it out.” I want to break the cycle and be able to build something healthy without my OCD sabotaging it. I know I’m not alone in this, and I know healing is possible. I’m hopeful that working with a therapist will help me develop exposures and thought loops to practice. I don’t expect to eliminate doubt entirely—after all, doubt is a part of every relationship—but I want to reach a place where it doesn’t paralyze me. Where I can move forward without constantly questioning whether I should. And where I can be in a relationship without feeling like OCD is pulling the strings. I would appreciate hearing about your experiences with ROCD. Please share your thoughts or any questions in the comments below. I’d love to connect and offer my perspective. Thanks!
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So I’m really struggling to believe that anyone will want to be in a relationship with me and still love me when they find out about my pocd and intrusive thoughts. I am holding a belief no one can love me with this condition and they will be repulsed by me when they find out. I just don’t know how to shake that feeling and be brave enough to try and share with anyone I’m dating.
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