How do you guys tolerate enough uncertainty to find a partner? I know a lot of ppl have ocd over whether their partner is right but I feel like that affects me in the dating stage so i cant stick up w anyone in the first place. Maybe i just havent found the right person

Maybe right now it might be best for you to focus on yourself instead I’ve tired dating with ocd and I treated those people horribly I really recommend getting into therapy and help and healing your own relationship first

Oof okay point taken. I should be mindful to try tolerating uncertainty better solo before relying on a partner. I hope it gets easier for you, it takes bravery to go to therapy

I’ve essentially given up on finding a partner, so that doesn’t bother me.

What do you do instead for social needs? Ive wondered before if adopting a pet would be good for companionship. Not the same as a relationship but its another kind of love

I was on dating apps meeting people who just weren't for me at all, but I really wanted to have a relationship again. I felt I was ready for it, but it seemed they weren't. So I stopped trying to force it. I stopped looking. And a few months later, I met someone special simply by going to places I already loved and was already going anyway. The right person for you is out there. They may even share the same hobbies you do, and by some chance you haven't met yet. Keep doing what you love. Keep going to whatever club or place you enjoy. You two will find each other. It might be longer than months, but it will happen.

Thank you, that’s how I hope for it to happen too. I feel like not knowing when or if youll meet someone somewhere is one of the biggest practices in tolerating uncertainty, so itll take time. Im glad you found yours

I don’t want to give up on finding love, but I don’t think anyone could live with my OCD….