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- 6y ago
- Date posted
- 6y ago
This feeling is so familiar with me. You should understand that feeling the need to confess is in and of itself a compulsion. You must ask yourself, what is the benefit of confessing? Will it benefit your partner? It will benefit you, for half an hour. Then you'll find something else and feel that hard spike once again. My advice is to resist the urge at all costs to confess. It's the OCD, it's not you. Then it will leave you alone, because you will have starved it.
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- 6y ago
It is a very common compulsion. And with it comes the feeling of guilt. Sometimes you don't even know what to confess exactly, but just a bunch of messy thoughts that brings a guilty feeling. It is a compulsion that has to be cut, and even if you feel guilty, just say "I'm not confessing, and it's ok to feel guilty anyway", and it will get better.
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- 6y ago
Definetly a compulsion. Just tell urself if you give into you will be hurting yourself. Deal with the obsessions it causes you and it will go away. Trust me I was an avid confessor and it did neither one of us any good. I think he eventually just told me to stop that he didn’t care about those things anymore and it’s in the past
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- 6y ago
Girl trust me my fiancé is the jealous type too. It did us no good. It’s funny now because in the past he would ask me all these questions and pre ocd I would just not answer him. Once ocd struck I would tell him all these things I remembered from back when he asked me and he would be like I asked you that what was wrong with me. We are talking years before that I would remember now once Ocd hit. Don’t set urself back by giving into the compulsion! Past is the past move forward!
- Date posted
- 6y ago
I'm experiencing this right now. My mind can't find anything to feel bad about, yet I have an overwhelming feeling to confess something, but there's a blank space in the place where reason should be.
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Yeah I know how that feels. My boyfriend had always been the jealous type and because of that I feel like he needs to know my whole past that I had been keeping from him. I dont remember every aspect of my past but I confessed everything that I remembered which was most things and he didnt love it but we are over it now. I just remembered something else last night and now Im worrying again thinking what if I need to tell him or he should know.
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- 6y ago
Yes! I do this often! Especially when i think I did something “bad” or “wrong”. I literally did this allllll the time as a kid to my mom!!!!!!! I think I’ve read before that this is a compulsion or ritual! The obsessive thoughts keep saying you did something bad, you NEED to tell ‘whomever’ what you did!
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- 6y ago
I like to think as well that it's an indication of your morality. You're a good person. No more confessing, nothing to confess. It's hard I know, but it'll get easy the more you resist the urge. When you get the feeling to confess, resist it. You must separate yourself from this urge and understand that it isn't you!
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- 6y ago
You know you love your wife. Look at it this way. Try to work on this for her, BECAUSE you love her, regardless of what your passing feelings say. Its just OCD and it can be taken over. If you go into it with the attitude that you are going to beat the OCD and manage the anxiety out of love for your wife, even if your OCD tries to make you question that, then that is the ultimate sign of love.
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- 6y ago
Thats how I feel too. Im glad I confessed the first time because I felt bad about continuing to lie and I wanted to see if he would look at me the same.. but now that I know he will and that I didnt lie again, I dont think theres any benefit to telling him. He has a general sense of my past so I think thats enough. And you have no obligation to confess either, its just so stressful sometimes because you feel like a weight is on you.
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Thanks so much for that, I know I didnt do anything wrong but its so hard because I know he would want to know. I just dont want to bring up this conversation again because I spent days trying to get him to move on from it
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- 6y ago
Yeah wow Im so glad to know Im not the only one. I didnt even know confessing was part of OCD. Im just gonna keep my mouth shut then cause I dont wanna make him overly jealous and have to answer a million questions.
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- 6y ago
All the time. I confessed to my wife yesterday that I thought that i would get better if I were to leave her and move back home. It really sucks. Sometimes I don’t realize I do it until it’s too late. I love my wife but OCD tells me I might not.
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- 6y ago
Tappey you're not alone. I know how this feels. Its awful.
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- 9w ago
Last night I had a fucked up intrusive thought/urge about harming my partner and I'm spinning out today. I let them know I had an intrusive thought and was struggling with compulsions around it and future repercussions, but did not tell them exactly what the thought/urge was, which they accepted. Do y'all share details with your partners about harm ocd? How can we healthily ask for support from people we are having horrible thoughts about?
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- 7w ago
I understand trying to find comfort in your thoughts but what can i do if i can’t keep these thoughts to myself sometimes?
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 7w ago
my spouse cheated on me on our wedding night and i haven't gotten over it. they never told their parents and i was resentful their parents didn't know. so i called them and told them today. it felt good in the moment to have that extra support from my in-laws but im freaking out now that i have to confess to my partner and they will feel betrayed by me and leave me. is this confession OCD or a real fear? i'm really freaking out.
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