Has anyone ever felt the need to overshare/confess things to their partner that they didnt need to know?

It is a very common compulsion. And with it comes the feeling of guilt. Sometimes you don't even know what to confess exactly, but just a bunch of messy thoughts that brings a guilty feeling. It is a compulsion that has to be cut, and even if you feel guilty, just say "I'm not confessing, and it's ok to feel guilty anyway", and it will get better.

This feeling is so familiar with me. You should understand that feeling the need to confess is in and of itself a compulsion. You must ask yourself, what is the benefit of confessing? Will it benefit your partner? It will benefit you, for half an hour. Then you'll find something else and feel that hard spike once again. My advice is to resist the urge at all costs to confess. It's the OCD, it's not you. Then it will leave you alone, because you will have starved it.

Definetly a compulsion. Just tell urself if you give into you will be hurting yourself. Deal with the obsessions it causes you and it will go away. Trust me I was an avid confessor and it did neither one of us any good. I think he eventually just told me to stop that he didn’t care about those things anymore and it’s in the past

Girl trust me my fiancé is the jealous type too. It did us no good. It’s funny now because in the past he would ask me all these questions and pre ocd I would just not answer him. Once ocd struck I would tell him all these things I remembered from back when he asked me and he would be like I asked you that what was wrong with me. We are talking years before that I would remember now once Ocd hit. Don’t set urself back by giving into the compulsion! Past is the past move forward!

I'm experiencing this right now. My mind can't find anything to feel bad about, yet I have an overwhelming feeling to confess something, but there's a blank space in the place where reason should be.

Yeah I know how that feels. My boyfriend had always been the jealous type and because of that I feel like he needs to know my whole past that I had been keeping from him. I dont remember every aspect of my past but I confessed everything that I remembered which was most things and he didnt love it but we are over it now. I just remembered something else last night and now Im worrying again thinking what if I need to tell him or he should know.

Yes! I do this often! Especially when i think I did something “bad” or “wrong”. I literally did this allllll the time as a kid to my mom!!!!!!! I think I’ve read before that this is a compulsion or ritual! The obsessive thoughts keep saying you did something bad, you NEED to tell ‘whomever’ what you did!

I like to think as well that it's an indication of your morality. You're a good person. No more confessing, nothing to confess. It's hard I know, but it'll get easy the more you resist the urge. When you get the feeling to confess, resist it. You must separate yourself from this urge and understand that it isn't you!

You know you love your wife. Look at it this way. Try to work on this for her, BECAUSE you love her, regardless of what your passing feelings say. Its just OCD and it can be taken over. If you go into it with the attitude that you are going to beat the OCD and manage the anxiety out of love for your wife, even if your OCD tries to make you question that, then that is the ultimate sign of love.

Thats how I feel too. Im glad I confessed the first time because I felt bad about continuing to lie and I wanted to see if he would look at me the same.. but now that I know he will and that I didnt lie again, I dont think theres any benefit to telling him. He has a general sense of my past so I think thats enough. And you have no obligation to confess either, its just so stressful sometimes because you feel like a weight is on you.

Thanks so much for that, I know I didnt do anything wrong but its so hard because I know he would want to know. I just dont want to bring up this conversation again because I spent days trying to get him to move on from it

Yeah wow Im so glad to know Im not the only one. I didnt even know confessing was part of OCD. Im just gonna keep my mouth shut then cause I dont wanna make him overly jealous and have to answer a million questions.

All the time. I confessed to my wife yesterday that I thought that i would get better if I were to leave her and move back home. It really sucks. Sometimes I don’t realize I do it until it’s too late. I love my wife but OCD tells me I might not.

Tappey you're not alone. I know how this feels. Its awful.