I was out with my girlfriend last night and got talking to a group of Dutch people. They were nice and bought drinks and we had fun I got too drunk and had to leave and as my girlfriend was leaving she hugged people goodbye and one guy grabbed her ass i don’t know if he meant it in a sexual way or what but I passed out so didn’t hear this until this morning My OCD brain now has this anger and anxiety swirling around in my head all day, I wish I could punch that guy because all my head is saying that I’m an idiot for being around them and that I look so stupid to my girlfriend! My heart has been Racing all day and the thoughts swirling. Am I overreacting in my head I’m never sure because of OCD tbh? Sorry for the rant just needed to get this out don’t want to say to my girlfriend incase it sounds psycho

I think you should tell your girlfriend how you felt about what happened.

I would feel angry and anxious about that too, maybe you could tell her how you feel once the anxiety has calmed down.

Just to clarify, what specifically are you angry about? The fact that the guy grabbed her ass, or that you weren't around to help her when it happened, or that anyone was in the situation period? Because yes, someone touching someone without their consent is not okay. But unless your girlfriend is upset about it I don't think it's a massive deal. Like it shouldn't have happened and it shouldn't be okay for people to do that, but it's not something that I would spend days beating yourself up over, and i doubt your girlfriend thinks you're stupid. But I might be misunderstanding your feelings.

Thanks for commenting guys. My girlfriend isn’t upset or that about it. I’m upset because I wasn’t there to deal with the guy I was almost passed out on the ground too drunk. But yeah I’ll tell her how I feel as it’s just going round in my head that I look like an idiot and a bad partner as I wasn’t there to hit the guy. I should be protecting her! The anxiety is calming a little so hopefully will clear up in my mind tomorrow. My issue is I never know if I’m overreacting to stuff because my OCD can latch to many things other people don’t trivial

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