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I think you should tell your girlfriend how you felt about what happened.
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I would feel angry and anxious about that too, maybe you could tell her how you feel once the anxiety has calmed down.
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Just to clarify, what specifically are you angry about? The fact that the guy grabbed her ass, or that you weren't around to help her when it happened, or that anyone was in the situation period? Because yes, someone touching someone without their consent is not okay. But unless your girlfriend is upset about it I don't think it's a massive deal. Like it shouldn't have happened and it shouldn't be okay for people to do that, but it's not something that I would spend days beating yourself up over, and i doubt your girlfriend thinks you're stupid. But I might be misunderstanding your feelings.
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Thanks for commenting guys. My girlfriend isn’t upset or that about it. I’m upset because I wasn’t there to deal with the guy I was almost passed out on the ground too drunk. But yeah I’ll tell her how I feel as it’s just going round in my head that I look like an idiot and a bad partner as I wasn’t there to hit the guy. I should be protecting her! The anxiety is calming a little so hopefully will clear up in my mind tomorrow. My issue is I never know if I’m overreacting to stuff because my OCD can latch to many things other people don’t trivial
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Has this ever happened to someone and how did you react if it did?
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