- Username
- lenxiety
- Date posted
- 2y ago
- Username
- lenxietylenxiety
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Thanks again for commenting and sharing your experience
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- Ashhh1209Ashhh1209
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I completely understand how difficult it is. I’ve been struggling recently and my thought has come back to this conversation. I do want to reinforce that my relationship is not perfect. He misses some signs and I learn to hide signs better. Even though him knowing my signs is a good thing. It’s vulnerable to have someone able to read you. Even with trust, OCD for me has been really isolating. Part of that is our innate sense of needing to hide these obsessions. With your relapse, I’m sure signs to yourself and your partner have been much more subtle to hide and mask these obsessions. Obviously I can’t know for sure, but from my experiences in relapses that’s my conclusion. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Have grace. You are doing amazing!
- Username
- seekinghelp123seekinghelp123
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Sending you virtual support. Life gets tough. I know you can be great, whatever the circumstances
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- Ashhh1209Ashhh1209
- Date posted
- 2y ago
My advice is to talk to him about it. If you feel safe and comfortable talking to him about ROCD and what you’ve been feeling of course. In my experience, I ruminate on small details so much that I’m paralyzed. Luckily, after talking honestly to my boyfriend about how ROCD works and affects me he’s begun to notice the signs that I’m sinking and will make me tell him what I’m ruminating on. This help me from spiraling into over analyzing everything because he comforts me. This works for us because I have previous trauma that make addressing worries very difficult for me. Even if he doesn’t confront me I’ve noticed him putting extra time and effort into making sure I’m okay and showing that he loves me. I understand that I am very lucky in this relationship. I hope you’re in a safe relationship where you can share your struggles. I’m sending my virtual love and support!
- Username
- lenxietylenxiety
- Date posted
- 2y ago
So I have opened up too him about it but we almost broke up because i was asking about every little thing that crossed my mind. I don’t want to reassurance seek too much because he gets upset and takes it personal. It’s def a safe space but I just don’t want to bother him about it. I think it’s possibly really minor, and his behaviour hasn’t changed negatively so I’m hopeful
- Username
- lenxietylenxiety
- Date posted
- 2y ago
About my ROCD, not this specific situation
- Username
- Ashhh1209Ashhh1209
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I completely understand. In the beginning it was a lot like that with us too. I was diagnosed with ocd after we’d been together like two years so going through that together has been really helpful. Once we started living together was when I think he realized exactly how it affected me. It did take quite some time for him to get to this point we’re at now. What help for us I think is me explaining how I feel and what happens when I start going down the spiral when I’m not already in that spiral. I have many more worries than he ever notices. It’s the worries that grab on and won’t let go that we work on. I will also write some worries down that in my head already sounds silly. I’ll put pen to paper to write it down and then I’ll leave it alone until I’m in at least a semi better headspace and I’ll read it see how I feel and if it’s less distressing than before I rip up the paper. I don’t know why that works but it’s the physical manifestations to show myself I can have these thoughts and it not ruin my relationship. I hope something in this is useful. When I get home from work I’ll ask my boyfriend about his experience to see if he has any advice
- Username
- lenxietylenxiety
- Date posted
- 2y ago
That’s so helpful. So I am in a relationship of 2.5 years as well, was medicated for some time then got off and had ROCD relapse. So it’s been so hard. My partner is understanding but sometimes I may come off as a accusatory but I don’t mean to be. Especially cause my worries revolve around his phone and cheating. I know he most likely would never but I still worry. I get stuck on small things and then my brain tries to connect coincidences to make an issue. It’s so so hard :( I write in my phone notes and realize later it’s a stupid worry; but in the moment… it’s so difficult
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- annaaa
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- 5y ago
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Anyone relate (ROCD)
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he is an absolute angel. All throughout the relationship I would have nightmares and intrusive thoughts “what if he leaves/cheats”. And he would reassure me and treat me like the world revolves around me. Lately I’m realizing this was actually ocd and not anxiety as I had previously thought. I would get paranoid if he didn’t check his messages for a couple hours, I’d get anxious if I saw an ambulance heading toward his street while I was driving, I would ask for reassurance that he loved me constantly. Bear in mind, I have no reason to have these fears. My boyfriend is my best friend and has supported me through thick and thin and he’s amazing. One time a couple months ago I was being a bit snappy with him one night and I had the thought “only people who don’t like their partners are snappy with them” and it just stuck. Now I struggle with intrusive thoughts about my own feelings, do I love him, do I miss him enough, is my relationship going to end because this couple on social media broke up. I could deal with the thoughts about his feelings because he is so so good about making me feel loved but now I’m stuck in this constant guilt loop where I question my relationship for no reason then get anxious and feel guilty for even thinking that way because I think I’m manifesting it. Was wondering if anybody else in a healthy long term relationship has had this happen to them and how you talk yourself down :(
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