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- 7710 ❤️
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- 2y ago
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- tinydancer tinydancer
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I’ve been there friend! It really sucks and I’m sorry. Remember that your ocd latches on to what is important to you. Seeing as how it’s attacking your relationship means that you value it. Careful of confessing, it can lead to compulsion and hurting your partners feelings even though it brings us temporary relief. Sometimes this gets overwhelming but remember you aren’t your thoughts and you can control your actions even if the thoughts are pulling you down.
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- 7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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- 2y ago
It’s more feelings.. I’m worried bc the symptoms aren’t as strong as before… 😢
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- tinydancer tinydancer
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@7710 ❤️ It’s true, it may be real or it may be OCD. It’s hard to live with the uncertainty but that’s what these therapists keep saying to do! There’s a ROCD support group you should totally join (free). It’s very supportive, validating, and nonjudgmental. Just took a look at your profile and you said that if you obsess too hard it can feel like reality, that you want to love your partner, and that it gives you hope that y’all are together still. I hope you can talk about this with an NOCD therapist or in a group bc sometimes it’s all very heavy in our minds. It helps to get it out
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- 7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@tinydancer I’m worried bc it’s like I subconsciously don’t want him… but why would I fight if I didn’t or cry if I didn’t love him… I just don’t want to leave but I am so tired..
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- 7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@tinydancer I even bought him blueberry muffins bc I know he loves them. My friend believes I really do love my partner but she says sometimes I love him too much
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- tinydancer tinydancer
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 2y ago
@7710 ❤️ Is it possible that you just want the panic breakup feeling to go away? I can’t speak for you but in my experience, I would feel the compulsion to break up with my bf when one of these rocd spikes hit. Because I wanted to have the doubt and guilt feelings go away. Even though I didn’t want to leave him, I felt like the only way to get rid of that horrible feeling was to break up. Back then I didn’t know it was rocd and I especially thought it was real, or a sign from God, or my “gut” telling me what needed to happen. OCD sucks but our brain is trying to protect us from the worse by preparing us for every situation which causes major anxiety.
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- 7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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- 2y ago
@tinydancer It’s like I want relief…
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- 7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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- 2y ago
She said that because I’ve been going through this for so long I rewrote my brain Into thinking I don’t love him…
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- TyylerTyyler
- Date posted
- 2y ago
ROCD is a tough one…I’ve ended a couple relationships and almost my current due to this subtype. I thought I just didn’t love that person but as soon as we broke up I just wanted them back. All what was going on was me transitioning out of the “honeymoon” phase. I had no idea that this was just my OCD. Trust me, you’ll really know when you don’t want to be with someone anymore. Our brains just get confused with “comfortable” and “not in love”.
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- 7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
- Date posted
- 2y ago
How real did it feel? Did it seem like u knew even if you were fighting against the damage that has been done?
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- 7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Please how real did it get for u? Did you ever just get tired and exhausted and just went with it bc you just can’t keep fighting??
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- TyylerTyyler
- Date posted
- 2y ago
When I started to have doubts in my relationship, it became pretty obvious and I told my partner that I was having doubts and that I wasn’t sure if I loved them/wanted to be with them or not. She knew that I was just in my head. She could tell when I was contradicting myself. We worked on it together. The doubts started to happen when we passed that “honeymoon” phase and the relationship began to mature. When you get out of that phase of excitement, you start to question if there’s love. For me, there was love. It was always there. I just didn’t see it and or acknowledge it.
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- 7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I get worried… I don’t know how to fix things… I know I love him. When I don’t overthink I am fine.. I am scared… I am depressed, anxiety ridden, exhausted… I just wanna be with him like before…
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- TyylerTyyler
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Most of us here fall under the burden of overthinking..it’s a struggle..we latch onto these negative thoughts so much that we start to believe them. It’s extremely frustrating.
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- jenny
- Date posted
- 4y ago
My boyfriend and I went through a rough patch a while back ago, we’ve patched it up and things are better than ever. But I over think if I feel the same after what’s happened, if I want a future with him especially after everything that’s went down, I fear the future, our future,I wanna say I love him, I know I love him, but what if I’m in denial about it all and I should just break up with him because deep down I know it isn’t going to work. I go back and forth and try to check if this is rocd or not and I’m scared if it’s not.
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- 7710 ❤️
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I don’t wanna break up! I am up crying all morning. I ruined my own birthday yesterday! I want to love him! I have my period but even before it was sorta like like! I held his hand one day and cried!!! Why would I cry for a man if I didn’t love him!! Why!? I know I would’ve walked away! Can ROCD truly make you believe you found truth and make you not love your partner!!!?? Can it honestly get this bad!!!!
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- 7710 ❤️
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I really need someone to talk to… just to vent… if not.. i just need get this out and everything can ignore if they want.… I don’t know what to do… I know I’ve been severely obsessing for 2 year about if I truly love my partner or not for 2 years… I am severely saddened about how I feel right now…. Before I knew I wanted to love him and stay.. it felt genuine like I was really mentally sick… but now… my partner looks like a stranger to me, I get annoyed at him easily even if he’s just sitting still… it’s like he’s a different person to me and I hate it… I wanted so badly for me to know if I love him or not… and it’s like our time together never happened… I don’t cuddle talk or do much of anything anymore with him and it bothers me… I feel no emotional connection with him… maybe his flaws are too much for me… 😢😢 I don’t know…. I want to love him again like before but I completely feel like I’m lying to him and myself… I don’t wanna end my relationship I really don’t want to… I do t know how badly ROCD can get but… this is the worst I’ve ever had… my relationship is gonna die… 😢 I’m sitting here quietly crying while he is asleep….
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