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Hello— Sounds like you are going through an incredible difficult time. ROCD is exhausting. It is very miserable and it causes you to question everything. For me with ROCD I personally do not tell my partner my specific thoughts. I say “I am having anxiety right now” and he has learned to not ask about the specifics because when I tell him it’s confessing/reassuring. This is something we have learned over many months though. Something I tell myself is I do not like to make decisions in this state of mind. Allow yourself to do the work. If anything being in this relationship is a perfect opportunity to do ERP because it is forcing you to confront your OCD.
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It doesn’t stop! I really believe I don’t love him! How can I get my love back! Can ROCD really do this!?
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It is a wild ride. ROCD literally can change everything you think and feel related to your theme. It is horrible and heartbreaking. But there is hope with treatment.
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I’m constantly stuck feeling this way… I can’t remember the last time I felt love for him…. I don’t wanna break up! I had a dream I was arguing with my partner and I asked my friend what it meant. She said I have some unresolved issues with my partner or that I need to tell him how I truly feel. I know if I broke up with him I would cry my eyes out bc I don’t wanna break up!! I wanna fix issues that we have. My mental state is beyond bad! I am stuck in my own head 24 hours a day for 2 years! I had moments where I truly knew I loved him and was actually happy. But in the bad of my mind I still obsessed.
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@7710 ❤️ Awe it is so painful. I also think it can be hard talking to well intentioned friends/loved ones because if they do not know OCD they provide a bunch of reassurance/advice that is not helpful. Sounds like you really need to start doing ERP
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Also I have been in your shoes. When I first learned of this I was frantic and it was horrible. As you start to learn the tools you begin to heal and have better days. We are here with you in this.
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I need to.. I really do.. I want to get better… I just can’t do this anymore I can’t.. there was times I thought death would bring me freedom on a couple of occasions. This pain hurts… my head is all mixed up. I know I still love him but the feeling of not love him is so very strong. I just hear so many things and feel nothing but negativity… I don’t want to see him with someone else… I really don’t. Whenever I say I don’t wanna break up I always hear it’s bc I don’t wanna hurt him… 😢 Most of the time my nerves are shot that my hands shake uncontrollably. Yesterday I kept hugging him.
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Awe you are not alone. There is hope. I know it doesn’t feel like that now but there is always hope. We are all here for you. You are really in the thick of the anxiety and that is incredibly painful. I have been there. I have wanted to die because of how horrible I felt. But I promise you ERP can work. It’s not fun but it works.
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It sounds like you are experiencing difficult symptoms! I hope you know there can be relief in doing Exposure Response Prevention! ai have many members who are dealing with similar thoughts and have made a lot of progress with ERP!
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Would you guys take Fedelis??
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Why do I feel healed?! That’s why I’m stuck believing I don’t love him… I’m stuck believing I’m convincing myself or forcing myself to love him…
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I’ve just recently found out that Relationship OCD is a thing. I feel like I relate but it also feels like relationship trauma. I’m in a fairly new relationship and I keep telling myself that things are going great, we are good, he cares for me, but does he? There’s this unbelievable amount of self doubt that sits in me because of what my ex did to me many months ago. I kept getting told that I do too much, i smother, need constant reassurance, then got told that I don’t care enough, the things I do aren’t enough and that I’m not enough. I feel like I am waiting for the day that I get broken up with because of these “problems” just so I can be proven right at the fact that I should be considered unlovable. I go through this every month around my period because I get so emotional and nervous that I stress over the idea that he doesn’t like me. How does someone continue a relationship with Relationship OCD? How do I explain it?
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I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
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Hello, I unknowingly have lived with ROCD or OCD (not sure what one. I’m new to this). It has ruined so many amazing romantic and platonic relationships and I am so sad that just now I am finding out what the hell is wrong with me. Maybe life would be different if I have known. My OCD and anxiety is at an all time high (ATH) due to some horrible events that have happened in the recent months. I am at the point where paranoia has taken over my life now. I had my first panic attack a few weeks ago where I fainted. My anxiety attacks are so extreme I go thought cognitive distortion that has lasted days. My girlfriend of 3 years is my emotional guardian and she no long has the energy to be that and honestly it’s not her responsibility to be that. She is bi and wanted to have an open relationship and for someone who has OCD this has not been good for me. She also was assaulted in my own home by a good friend of ours when I was out of town but it’s not a clear situation because it sounded consensual at first. I just left my very high paying job. I am financially secure but the job was emotionally abusive and looking back made my OCD worse. I am taking some time off to get my head right…but now, all I have to do during the day is live in my OCD. I’m very happy I finally figured out why I act the way I do but I don’t know if I can get better quick enough to save my relationship. I have never been so worried about myself (M 28 years old). I am a confident young professional and never thought I would be writing on a page like this. Anyway…I hope it gets better.
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