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i know how it can be with the “am i crushing/in love or is this just me obsessing again”, but usually with ocd its like, you get a crush and then your ocd amps it up real good. i had about a year where i was ocd free, and during that time i fell in love with a guy, and for the first time it wasnt love, anxiety and obsessing mixed altogether. when ive been in love with ocd, yes, ive been anxious and obsessive about it, but still in love outside of all that. my advice is to go for it. my ocd got a hell of a flare up when i started “listeninh” to it and coordinating my life around anxiety. fuck ocd and anxiety! live your life as if youve never known ocd and anxiety!
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Absolutely! Live your life the way you want to! Don’t let OCD get in the way! This isn’t the exactly the same but recently my boyfriend and I have seriously been considering getting a dog. Well we applied for a puppy and got confirmation back that they want pictures of our apartment and everything to verify our living arrangements. This means we’ve moved on to the next step. I was excited and then immediately terrified. All the what if’s about the dog and really wanting her and what if it’s a mistake etc came flooding in. A friend on here told me to go for it! I know I want the dog but I’m so so scared. Well, if this happens with the adoption we are getting a puppy. As terrified as I am, I will not let my OCD tell me not to do it!
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ohhh like that! my advice on that would be always act like you dont have ocd. its kind of like walking all over ocd and not mindinh it. that way, it starts to have less impact. and also, havinh anxiety and ocd isnt something that makes you less worthy of love. and in the end, if someone cant take that on, thats up for them to decide. but i wouldnt let it hold me back
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Thanks everyone, but I kind of meant like... would it be fair for me to enter a relationship with someone and put them through the struggles of dating someone with semi-severe OCD? I know everyone has baggage, but...
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Yes. You deserve to be happy just like everyone else. As long as you find the right person they will accept you, OCD and all!
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