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- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
i know how it can be with the “am i crushing/in love or is this just me obsessing again”, but usually with ocd its like, you get a crush and then your ocd amps it up real good. i had about a year where i was ocd free, and during that time i fell in love with a guy, and for the first time it wasnt love, anxiety and obsessing mixed altogether. when ive been in love with ocd, yes, ive been anxious and obsessive about it, but still in love outside of all that. my advice is to go for it. my ocd got a hell of a flare up when i started “listeninh” to it and coordinating my life around anxiety. fuck ocd and anxiety! live your life as if youve never known ocd and anxiety!
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- 6y
Absolutely! Live your life the way you want to! Don’t let OCD get in the way! This isn’t the exactly the same but recently my boyfriend and I have seriously been considering getting a dog. Well we applied for a puppy and got confirmation back that they want pictures of our apartment and everything to verify our living arrangements. This means we’ve moved on to the next step. I was excited and then immediately terrified. All the what if’s about the dog and really wanting her and what if it’s a mistake etc came flooding in. A friend on here told me to go for it! I know I want the dog but I’m so so scared. Well, if this happens with the adoption we are getting a puppy. As terrified as I am, I will not let my OCD tell me not to do it!
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- 6y
ohhh like that! my advice on that would be always act like you dont have ocd. its kind of like walking all over ocd and not mindinh it. that way, it starts to have less impact. and also, havinh anxiety and ocd isnt something that makes you less worthy of love. and in the end, if someone cant take that on, thats up for them to decide. but i wouldnt let it hold me back
- Date posted
- 6y
Thanks everyone, but I kind of meant like... would it be fair for me to enter a relationship with someone and put them through the struggles of dating someone with semi-severe OCD? I know everyone has baggage, but...
- Date posted
- 6y
Yes. You deserve to be happy just like everyone else. As long as you find the right person they will accept you, OCD and all!
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- 24w
I need advice. I’ve had OCD in different forms since I was eight. I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now. He has always been subtly anxious and jealous. He would say things like, “I find everyone but you ugly” or “I could never find anyone else attractive.” That stressed me out morally, especially since it’s our first relationship and I, of course, want to be good enough for him. It started around the three-month mark of our relationship. Now to the problem: When I see someone who is attractive or cute, it already begins. I start thinking—or rather, I don’t just think, I feel. I genuinely and naturally feel these emotions, like I find that person attractive, like I like them, like I want them. I even feel infatuated, like I want to be with them, spend time with them, be their partner, even sexual scenarios or feelings like I love them. These emotions feel so natural and real that I can’t tell the difference. With one person, I’ve had these feelings for over a year. But I only know most of these people by sight. It could be that I’ve fallen in love with the idea of them. That’s a big issue for me. It completely goes against my moral values. I don’t want this. For me, it would be terrible to have a crush on someone else, to like someone else, or to fall in love with another person. Or worse, to love someone else. Because I do love my partner, and I want a future with him. And I know the relationship wouldn’t survive if my fears came true. Even if he always tells me, ‘No, I wouldn’t break up with you,’ I couldn’t live with it myself. And the thing is, it’s not even such an unrealistic fear. It’s not like I’m afraid I want to kill someone or that I have feelings like that. No, this topic I’m dealing with involves real people. There are many people who suddenly fall for someone else, who develop a crush or even fall in love with another person. And I can’t reconcile that with myself. A year ago, I saw someone, and it hit me like a shock (I think in a negative way). Yes, he is attractive or cute. But in that moment, I felt so much fear, panic, and adrenaline because I felt and thought that I liked him more than my partner. When that happens, I start testing my feelings again. And of course, I feel exactly what I’m afraid of. I then constantly feel this pressure or burden, along with guilt. When I think about a scenario, or imagine the person, those feelings come immediately—followed by fear, panic, and guilt. Because of that, I avoid certain places, things, or even numbers because I’m afraid of being triggered. By now, I’m convinced these are my true feelings, because I just can’t imagine that OCD could produce such emotions, and for such a long time—sometimes over a year. I simply don’t want this. I just feel awful, like a monster. What should I do?
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- Date posted
- 21w
I’ve struggled a lot with mental illness (severe social anxiety, depression, OCD), but have done a lot of work to get to the great place that I’m at now. I feel like a different person compared to how I felt a few years ago. Here’s my question: I started seeing someone really important to me. We’re not official yet, but we’ve been in each others lives for years and it feels like it’s the real deal. He struggles with OCD, and it’s much worse than mine ever was. My question is, do you think this is healthy for me, as someone who has done the work to get to a better place? He’s not in therapy, he’s against medication (I love my meds — they changed my life), and is generally in a different place than I am mentally.
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- 17w
So I recently met this girl and honestly she is amazing. She’s beautiful and her personality is perfect. She lives only 15 min away from me and I feel blessed to have a chance to get to know her, we both feel the same. But here comes OCD to ruin it. My OCD has latched onto a friend of mine. He’s a pretty close friend and we talk often. He’s never really one to let out a laugh so I always like to hear him laugh and just be able to have a good time. Partially it’s because I just don’t want to think I’m annoying and unfunny, I’m pretty self concious about myself. OCD is turning this into some sort of scary what if I like him question. I don’t have romantic feelings for my friend and I don’t actually want to be with a man. I am a straight male and getting to know this girl has been a blessing. OCD makes me feel in denial and as if I’m lying to myself. I hate this. It feels awful, when I haven’t felt this way about a girl in a long time
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