- Username
- wildflower
- Date posted
- 5y ago
i know how it can be with the “am i crushing/in love or is this just me obsessing again”, but usually with ocd its like, you get a crush and then your ocd amps it up real good. i had about a year where i was ocd free, and during that time i fell in love with a guy, and for the first time it wasnt love, anxiety and obsessing mixed altogether. when ive been in love with ocd, yes, ive been anxious and obsessive about it, but still in love outside of all that. my advice is to go for it. my ocd got a hell of a flare up when i started “listeninh” to it and coordinating my life around anxiety. fuck ocd and anxiety! live your life as if youve never known ocd and anxiety!
Absolutely! Live your life the way you want to! Don’t let OCD get in the way! This isn’t the exactly the same but recently my boyfriend and I have seriously been considering getting a dog. Well we applied for a puppy and got confirmation back that they want pictures of our apartment and everything to verify our living arrangements. This means we’ve moved on to the next step. I was excited and then immediately terrified. All the what if’s about the dog and really wanting her and what if it’s a mistake etc came flooding in. A friend on here told me to go for it! I know I want the dog but I’m so so scared. Well, if this happens with the adoption we are getting a puppy. As terrified as I am, I will not let my OCD tell me not to do it!
Yes. Don’t let ocd rule your life
ohhh like that! my advice on that would be always act like you dont have ocd. its kind of like walking all over ocd and not mindinh it. that way, it starts to have less impact. and also, havinh anxiety and ocd isnt something that makes you less worthy of love. and in the end, if someone cant take that on, thats up for them to decide. but i wouldnt let it hold me back
Thanks everyone, but I kind of meant like... would it be fair for me to enter a relationship with someone and put them through the struggles of dating someone with semi-severe OCD? I know everyone has baggage, but...
Yes. You deserve to be happy just like everyone else. As long as you find the right person they will accept you, OCD and all!
Feels a little weird to talk about this here, but here goes. I'm 22 and I've never been in a relationship and I feel a lot of pressure to just get into one already, but i'm afraid to bc i don't think anyone would want me since i have ocd and the stigma against mental illness is so freaking terrible. I do catch feelings more often than I'd like to admit, but i usually let any oppurtunity to date someone slip by bc i feel like a nonentity and like they wouldn't /really/ be interested in me if they found out i have ocd.
How to tell the difference between normal relationship doubts and ROCD? Im going on a rant now: I have avoided relationships for the most part over the last 10 years. as soon as I get past the 2nd or 3rd date I feel like if I dont know that they have the potential to be “the one” then I worry constantly about wasting my life and theirs. I had 2 relationships that lasted about 3 months but the whole time, I just wanted to get out even though they were both good guys. In November, I had my first panic attack and soon discovered what I was dealing with (and still managing it) is SO-OCD. Then I learned of ROCD and wondered if that is something I have struggled with since my teens. As soon as I get into a relationship I have these strong urges to break it off for minor stupid things. Things that honestly make no sense. Like a weird freckle or chin (real examples). Not to mention I am afraid of getting intimate because Im super paranoid of getting pregnant... I started talking to a guy during quarantine and it’s slowly turning into more than friends. I really like him and enjoy spending time with him but I am constantly worried. Being aware of ROCD has helped me be mindful of the present but all my old habits are trying to come back full force and I find myself trying to avoid him. Ive read as much as I can find on ROCD and I can check off almost all the obessions and compulsions that are associated with ROCD. But it doesnt affect me the same way SO-OCD did. Like I felt like I couldnt breathe, and I could barely be in public. I wanted to escape so bad all the time. With this ROCD (if thats what it really is) I dont feel that panic, I just feel worried, stuck, and distracted. Not to mention, if I can manage to stay mindful, how on earth do you even tell someone you just started seeing that you have ocd, let alone so-ocd and rocd. It just adds to me wanting to avoid him. Also, how do you go from being dateless and single for 2 years to starting a relationship in the middle of a quarantine while you’re learning that you have OCD.
Hey guys so I have HOCD and real event OCD and false memory OCD and this guy i know is interested in dating me and I want to date him too, but I'm really scared. I don't know if I can date someone ever again honestly 😕 I just feel too guilty and like I have to tell them everything ya know? Especially with real event. What do I do? I just feel like I'll never be able to date someone
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