So recently me and my boyfriend broke up for a few days because my ocd told me too and I felt pressured by people around me. We are back Robert now and I still love him as much as ever (I cried for 3 days straight and couldn’t sleep when we broke up) but now everytime I think of something like him getting s job and I ask a question about it to him my brain goes to him answering that he “isn’t trying” even though he or when I ask about homeowork “he probably didn’t do it” even though he said he did and he’s been working on his grades. My mind just keeps going to him not doing hat he needs to or just being idk bad I guess?? Lazy?? Idk but it’s so annoying

Thank you ? How did you overcome it though?

I haven’t fully over come it but I’m almost there, it used to consume my every thought and now I rarely think about it. I done it by realizing that no-one is perfect & whenever I get an intrusive thought I just agree with it or For eg. If I think in my head he isn’t attractive I would say “but I love him so it doesn’t matter’’ or if I think “he isn’t the one for me” I’ll say “oh well of course there could be someone else, I don’t care because atm I’m with him” My main thing is don’t try to change him & don’t give in to the compulsions. Just accept him by always telling yourself “oh well” type thoughts

This may be due to you not feeling good enough to be in a relationship or low self esteem that your mind will cause trouble. Ask yourself want you really want . What do I want ? Do I really want to be with him ? If yes then you are in control and you are good enough just relax and let things flow. Only break up with someone if they are not being nice to you or have hurt your feelings purposely.

I honestly think ROCD is the result of thinking love is everything & more than what it is. Movies are all based on love & songs too. We have been fed this image that love is this strong feeling and everything is perfect when in reality that’s just lust, it doesn’t last long. Real love is what you feel towards ur family (if u love ur family) and that is the way you should feel about the person you are dating, you love them but they are NOT perfect, just like you love ur mum or sister or dad, they are not perfect, they are not the best looking, they aren’t geniuses, they are not flawless but you love them anyway. Take the pressure off your partner to be perfect and you can enjoy your relationship. If you didn’t love him you would leave . :) I’ve dealt with it and overcome ROCD (for the most part) and I realised the reason I focused on him so much was because I wasn’t happy in my self and I thought he has to make me happy. Good luck :!

I have an urge to break up with my bf this morning ?

My worry is more whether he makes me happy enough

I do want to be with him but this is anxiety is ruining everything. I have zero sex drive whatsoever and that is obviously not going down very well at all.

@sn22pb I've been in the same situation not feeling sexual toward them. It took me while to realise I just wasn't ready for a relationship maybe i wanted one but for me I wasn't ready I was young didn't really know what I wanted as you get older things may become more clear with experiences. But I think in your relationship you may be feeling too comfortable to want to be sexual or you could actually not be attracted to them because they are too easy if that makes sense. When someone is playing hard to get you want them more but when people are just there when ever you want it's a bit boring let's say. So maybe you could be bored but that does not mean you don't love them. I think the best thing to do what I did is to be patient see if you feel differently overtime.