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Thank you ? How did you overcome it though?
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I haven’t fully over come it but I’m almost there, it used to consume my every thought and now I rarely think about it. I done it by realizing that no-one is perfect & whenever I get an intrusive thought I just agree with it or For eg. If I think in my head he isn’t attractive I would say “but I love him so it doesn’t matter’’ or if I think “he isn’t the one for me” I’ll say “oh well of course there could be someone else, I don’t care because atm I’m with him” My main thing is don’t try to change him & don’t give in to the compulsions. Just accept him by always telling yourself “oh well” type thoughts
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- 6y
This may be due to you not feeling good enough to be in a relationship or low self esteem that your mind will cause trouble. Ask yourself want you really want . What do I want ? Do I really want to be with him ? If yes then you are in control and you are good enough just relax and let things flow. Only break up with someone if they are not being nice to you or have hurt your feelings purposely.
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I honestly think ROCD is the result of thinking love is everything & more than what it is. Movies are all based on love & songs too. We have been fed this image that love is this strong feeling and everything is perfect when in reality that’s just lust, it doesn’t last long. Real love is what you feel towards ur family (if u love ur family) and that is the way you should feel about the person you are dating, you love them but they are NOT perfect, just like you love ur mum or sister or dad, they are not perfect, they are not the best looking, they aren’t geniuses, they are not flawless but you love them anyway. Take the pressure off your partner to be perfect and you can enjoy your relationship. If you didn’t love him you would leave . :) I’ve dealt with it and overcome ROCD (for the most part) and I realised the reason I focused on him so much was because I wasn’t happy in my self and I thought he has to make me happy. Good luck :!
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- 5y
Are you still on this site? I am going through this right now and I am very lonely ?
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I have an urge to break up with my bf this morning ?
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My worry is more whether he makes me happy enough
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I do want to be with him but this is anxiety is ruining everything. I have zero sex drive whatsoever and that is obviously not going down very well at all.
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@sn22pb I've been in the same situation not feeling sexual toward them. It took me while to realise I just wasn't ready for a relationship maybe i wanted one but for me I wasn't ready I was young didn't really know what I wanted as you get older things may become more clear with experiences. But I think in your relationship you may be feeling too comfortable to want to be sexual or you could actually not be attracted to them because they are too easy if that makes sense. When someone is playing hard to get you want them more but when people are just there when ever you want it's a bit boring let's say. So maybe you could be bored but that does not mean you don't love them. I think the best thing to do what I did is to be patient see if you feel differently overtime.
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- 22w
I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
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- 19w
I feel like my Rocd has become more sophisticated. It’s made me feel as if my healthy loving boyfriend is this terrible person. Or I’ll be thinking to myself like “I love him”, and in middle thought I get “no you don’t”. It’s convinced me that our values and beliefs are just TOO different (we’ve only disagreed on one thing in our relationship, but we talk it out). It’s like my ocd is clinging on to every reason why I should break up, like I don’t want this anymore, even tho I do! It’s frustrating. And the idea of doing erp terrifies me. Because I’m afraid if I do erp statements, that I’ll agree with them. Can someone give insight
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- 16w
So i had really bad pure ocd but recently it’s been sooo much better but i’m in a relationship and me and my bf dated before about 2 years ago then we broke up and now we are back together but i’m having an issue where i will try to go back years and find something i did wrong and i really do not want to find anything to feel wrong about or guilty specifically something i may have done wrong to my boyfriend but the thing is i’m a good girlfriend and i’m very loyal so i don’t want to ruin something for me because of my past if that makes sense like i can’t remember doing anything wrong but my brain keeps going are u sure let’s look at all your interactions with people and it’s so annoying i just wanna live my life in the present does anyone have any tips
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