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Thank you ? How did you overcome it though?
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I haven’t fully over come it but I’m almost there, it used to consume my every thought and now I rarely think about it. I done it by realizing that no-one is perfect & whenever I get an intrusive thought I just agree with it or For eg. If I think in my head he isn’t attractive I would say “but I love him so it doesn’t matter’’ or if I think “he isn’t the one for me” I’ll say “oh well of course there could be someone else, I don’t care because atm I’m with him” My main thing is don’t try to change him & don’t give in to the compulsions. Just accept him by always telling yourself “oh well” type thoughts
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- 6y
This may be due to you not feeling good enough to be in a relationship or low self esteem that your mind will cause trouble. Ask yourself want you really want . What do I want ? Do I really want to be with him ? If yes then you are in control and you are good enough just relax and let things flow. Only break up with someone if they are not being nice to you or have hurt your feelings purposely.
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I honestly think ROCD is the result of thinking love is everything & more than what it is. Movies are all based on love & songs too. We have been fed this image that love is this strong feeling and everything is perfect when in reality that’s just lust, it doesn’t last long. Real love is what you feel towards ur family (if u love ur family) and that is the way you should feel about the person you are dating, you love them but they are NOT perfect, just like you love ur mum or sister or dad, they are not perfect, they are not the best looking, they aren’t geniuses, they are not flawless but you love them anyway. Take the pressure off your partner to be perfect and you can enjoy your relationship. If you didn’t love him you would leave . :) I’ve dealt with it and overcome ROCD (for the most part) and I realised the reason I focused on him so much was because I wasn’t happy in my self and I thought he has to make me happy. Good luck :!
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- 5y
Are you still on this site? I am going through this right now and I am very lonely ?
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I have an urge to break up with my bf this morning ?
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My worry is more whether he makes me happy enough
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I do want to be with him but this is anxiety is ruining everything. I have zero sex drive whatsoever and that is obviously not going down very well at all.
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@sn22pb I've been in the same situation not feeling sexual toward them. It took me while to realise I just wasn't ready for a relationship maybe i wanted one but for me I wasn't ready I was young didn't really know what I wanted as you get older things may become more clear with experiences. But I think in your relationship you may be feeling too comfortable to want to be sexual or you could actually not be attracted to them because they are too easy if that makes sense. When someone is playing hard to get you want them more but when people are just there when ever you want it's a bit boring let's say. So maybe you could be bored but that does not mean you don't love them. I think the best thing to do what I did is to be patient see if you feel differently overtime.
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- 18w
I feel like my Rocd has become more sophisticated. It’s made me feel as if my healthy loving boyfriend is this terrible person. Or I’ll be thinking to myself like “I love him”, and in middle thought I get “no you don’t”. It’s convinced me that our values and beliefs are just TOO different (we’ve only disagreed on one thing in our relationship, but we talk it out). It’s like my ocd is clinging on to every reason why I should break up, like I don’t want this anymore, even tho I do! It’s frustrating. And the idea of doing erp terrifies me. Because I’m afraid if I do erp statements, that I’ll agree with them. Can someone give insight
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- 16w
Does anyone else struggle with object permanence in relationships? Like whenever my partner is out of the house I immediately think negatively or I find things wrong with the relationship or him… For background my partner and I always fight over chores (I know it’s common but it’s annoying) I definitely pull more weight than him and I think he has ADHD, which makes him struggle to help and be aware of helping. Lately we’ve been somewhat good with splitting meals and dishes whatever, I know it can change with work stress, fatigue whatever. But last week my partner was out of the house watching his uncle’s dog so he was barely home. He was sleeping over at his uncles house and would come home for meals sometimes and stuff like that. I started becoming super fixated on him not helping with the dishes before he left and would constantly feel urges to yell about it. Even though the week prior everything was good when it came to that (sometimes with my ROCD I’ll even question myself and be like was it?) so I have started 4 separate fights arguing about dishes and chores and mentioning that he doesn’t help enough and if this continues I’ll have to leave… it’s so hard for me to snap out of it and just realize that he was going back and forth and didn’t think to help because he was busy with helping his uncle. And then I get such a negative view of him in my head that I nitpick his appearance, I make comments, etc, because my underlying fear is he doesn’t care to help, he will never change, and we will fail. So it’s almost like I’m looking to have a reason to run before I actually need to? It’s a constant cycle for me and I’m truly so exhausted by myself. But also relationships are so hard for me because I struggled SO much with trying to depend on others that I almost don’t let myself depend on others…. Any advice is appreciated but also just like do you also experience this? Thank you & pls be kind 🥺🥺🥺
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- 15w
So i had really bad pure ocd but recently it’s been sooo much better but i’m in a relationship and me and my bf dated before about 2 years ago then we broke up and now we are back together but i’m having an issue where i will try to go back years and find something i did wrong and i really do not want to find anything to feel wrong about or guilty specifically something i may have done wrong to my boyfriend but the thing is i’m a good girlfriend and i’m very loyal so i don’t want to ruin something for me because of my past if that makes sense like i can’t remember doing anything wrong but my brain keeps going are u sure let’s look at all your interactions with people and it’s so annoying i just wanna live my life in the present does anyone have any tips
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