- Date posted
- 2y
My story with (R)OCD
Heyy, I am new here and just wanted to share my story. I hope it will help, because I’ve been feeling very anxious for the last couple of weeks. Maybe someone with (R)OCD can relate. I’ve been with my amazing boyfriend for about 9 months now and things are going up and down. At least, that’s what I think. When we were together for 2 months, I started having doubts about our relationship. And whenever I was doubting, I started to have a panic attack. It usually felt like I didn’t know him, or myself anymore and everything started to get blurry. I felt this huge pressure behind my eyes and in my throat. I wanted to be honest with my boyfriend and confessed everything to him. We decided to see me therapist together. My therapist is great. She has been helping me a lot. I am seeing her because about 2 years ago, my previous boyfriend died of lung-cancer. It was very sudden and I felt traumatized by it. My therapist really helped me with that, until my dog started to show some symptoms of getting sick. I started obsessing about her health and how I should cure her (I am a veterinary student, so I know a lot of diseases haha). This gave me so much stress, that I started to have thoughts that told me to hurt her and that I didn’t love her anymore. It was just a dog. This really scared me and I had sleepless nights. My therapist told me that this was probably Harm OCD, but didn’t really know how to help me with that. But then, my worst fear actually happend. My dog got cancer. Luckily, she is still here, but from that moment, my thoughts disappeared and I felt free. A month later, I met my boyfriend and I thought: Now my life begins. But it’s like my thoughts kind of jumped over on him. It’s exactly the same: “I’m not sure if I really love him. He is just a boy.” And the hurting changed into the urge to break up. But every time I get close to that or he mentions something about a break-up, I start to cry and hold him so closely, because I don’t want to loose him… Back to my therapist. She thought I did want to break up and said we should have a time-out. We listened, and it was one of the worst weeks ever. I went from: yeah we should break up, to maybe we can work this out. But because of the stress, I told him I wanted to break up after our time-out. And then he said: before you do that, let me show you this: He told my about ROCD and all its symptoms. I answered all the questions about if you have ROCD with a yes and everything, also looking at the thoughts about my dog, fear of contamination and all the other stuff from my childhood, just fell into place. I knew I had it and wanted to work on it. I started to listen to podcast, read a book about it and trying to explain to my therapist that this was the real problem I was dealing with. She finally believes me, but even that is not enough for my ROCD. I still have so many thoughts about our relationship and breaking up, and every time it feels different. Like my OCD wants to do everything to make me break up with him. Same thing happened last friday. I felt so real to me…. But he made me see, again, that this could be OCD. So we talked all night about random stuff, went to sleep, had breakfast together and had an amazing day together where I really felt like his girlfriend and just wanted to be around him, hold his hand, laugh with him and have sex with him. Everything was okay! Until we got on a very busy train with to many people and thoughts just jumped back in. This happens every time: I feel terrible, I feel good, I feel miserable, I feel amazing. If I really want to break up, why do I enjoy spending time with him so much? Haha, I was about to type: Why do I love him so much? And my brain went like: HAHA do you reaaallyyy though? Relatable? I really want to see a therapist and I found one, but the first step just seems so hard to take… Anyway, thanks for giving me space to tell my story and maybe someone can relate to this. :)