Aging

I am a female and I’m 26 going on 27 and I’m so afraid to age and get wrinkles. Even saying these things on this platform freaks me out. I know that aging is inevitable but I blame society, as always! I feel that if I age and get wrinkles I will become undesirable and no longer be attractive and my clock is ticking and I’m still single. Everyone around me is getting engaged, starting a family, and overall getting their lives together. Do I want these things? No, but the idea of having my life in order is something that I really crave. And I have no idea how to get there, or if there’s even a “there”. I’m not asking for reassurance because I obviously know we age, get old, and get wrinkles, but what I want to know is, am I the only one who thinks this way? And do you have your life together? In my mind having my life together is being financially independent and having a stable job and just knowing that I’ll be okay.

Username: ILikeMyself

Date posted: 90d ago

By your definition, yes I have my "life together" but it's only within the last year that I secured a stable job and financial independence and I'm about to turn 28. You'll never run out of time to succeed. Just work on goals that make you feel happy. No need to compare yourself to anyone. You're perfect right now. And as for the aging thing, and family, and kids I understand all that. I just lost my long term relationship a few months ago and I feel like I'm standing on the edge of the obyss because I don't know if the relationship was bad or if it was my ROCD spiraling. But I have a consult to freeze my eggs so that when I'm mentally well I can have my kids whether it's with a man or by myself. Just focus on getting financially independent and when we get old we'll be able to afford Botox lol.

Username: anonymous700

Date posted: 90d ago

Thank you so much for your comment! 😭 I really appreciate it. I’m sorry about your relationship but I really admire how independent you are and the idea of freezing your eggs is so inspiring to me because it makes me feel like I don’t have to abide by societal standards of what makes a family. And that’s awesome. Also @the Botox comment: haha! I am definitely considering getting Botox 😂. You’re awesome!