Heyyyyyyyy

So I’ve never had a boyfriend and I really want to have a relationship and I want someone to love and care about me, but I have never had my first kiss or even been on a date. My ocd makes me think the reason for that is that I’m gay. I have had crushes on guys but then I even start to doubt those. I’m afraid that once I do get a boyfriend that I won’t like them or be too afraid to get intimate. Which in my head “proves” I’m gay.. I hope you understand what im trying to say But the fact I typed the work gay 3 times is a step in the right direction for me

Username: bitty

Date posted: 118d ago

A few years back I faced a similar dilemma. I had never been in a relationship either, which led to me stressing over my sexuality. Up until then, I was certain I liked guys. I had never questioned it. But once the thought that maybe I was wrong crept in, I couldn’t shake it off. Same as you, I questioned my guy crushes. With help from my mom, I was able to come to the realization that these were just OCD thoughts(not mine). OCD tries to make you question what you know to be true. OCD doesn’t know you thoroughly though. You know yourself best. I hope this helps:)

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 118d ago

@bitty Thank you

Username: DragonNimbus47

Date posted: 118d ago

I spent so many years worried about my sexuality but a couple years ago I feel like I was saved by one magical word: ✨queer✨. I’m queer. Not straight, not gay, not bi, not curious. I just exist and let my sexuality evolve as I do and don’t worry about it because frankly, it doesn’t really matter. Sexuality is fluid and it changes and grows and and I may be one thing one day and another the next, I’m somewhere in the beautiful queer spectrum and I don’t need to be more precise about it with myself or anyone else 💖