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Any tips on how to let things go? It’s the weekend and I’m perseverating on work conflicts. Combo or perseverating and guilt ocd. No physical compulsions on this just mental anguish.
Any tips on how to let things go? It’s the weekend and I’m perseverating on work conflicts. Combo or perseverating and guilt ocd. No physical compulsions on this just mental anguish.
Well... This might sound crazy but the other night I walked out into the snowing weather with no shoes and just a bit of clothes and stood out there until my brain no longer paid attention to what I was obsessing over, but instead paid attention to how cold my feet were and how I wanted to go inside. That 3 or so minutes in the freezing cold helped me to break from my sympathetic nervous system and get into a different head space. I was actually perseverating (you taught me a new word) on work as well. If you can't do an ice bath like that, cardio helps to get into the body. Something like running, biking, or really anything that just gets your heart and respiratory system going, even jumping jacks. Yoga helps force you to feel your body, even the kind of painful bodily feelings, which can bring up emotions and help you process them and calm the mind. Meditating can help you observe the mind while letting it do its thing while you watch without judgment. Getting into a manual task like deep cleaning a room, a physical project like building a model, anything that takes less mind and more physical action. Exposures are going to be the best method. I don't know if you have a therapist to guide you through them but you can at least come up with your own mental exposures and try to do it yourself. Getting out of the house also could be a great idea. I think what I'm getting at is exposures are always #1, but getting into your body and out of your head as much as you can is a helpful addition.
Thank you so much for such a lengthy response. I actually got a little emotional reading it and how thorough it is. I’ve done extensive erp for my compulsions but I’m not as sure on how to do them on mental obsessions and regulations of emotional responses. I just bought a book on pure o that I hope will give some insight. It took a long time to conquer the physical compulsions and I never thought that would be possible so I guess there is some hope there. I know exercise is key but I’ve been having difficulty motivating this winter. I’m hoping your reminder will give me a jump start. I can definitely try shocking my system with the cold. Thank you so much
If you try shocking your system with cold, just be safe about it. I wasn't out for long, and I don't suggest going out and getting frost bite ☺️ you can alternatively take an ice bath (I would look up how to do this). But all of those other options for getting out of your head are also good choices. I understand not being motivated to exercise. Maybe think of it as a survival response at the moment. Instead of making yourself establish a workout routine for the long term, maybe agree to doing it for the next day or two to get you out of your head space. Then at least you've done it, even if you forget to do it in 3 or 4 days.
I recommend ACT exercises, for example "Dropping anchor" (check you tube) it helos me a lot with my mental activity.
I'm wondering if this is a common OCD experience: does anyone else find that when you have idle time, your mind just spirals into endless rumination on negative "what ifs" & intrusive thoughts? It's been happening to me for the past three years, which coincides with starting a really high-stress job. Weekends used to be my time to relax, but now I dread weekends...I only feel relief when I'm sleeping because it's the only time my mind seems to quiet down. It's honestly so depressing to lose that enjoyment. Does anyone else relate to this, and if so, what helps you cope?
I’ve been stuck in this cycle for the last month or two and am not sure how to get out of it. Basically, I will work on ignoring the thoughts and not responding or engaging plus limiting/completely eliminating compulsions. After a week or two of constant work, the amount of intrusive thoughts in a day goes down. The anxiety each thought causes also goes down with some, but not all, thoughts passing without notice like they would for a normal person. The thoughts that do stick cause anxiety and make me want to ruminate or do other compulsions but I make sure to limit them. After a bit, I’m in a pretty good head space. This is usually when it goes down hill. I’ll start to question if I even have ocd because some of the thoughts (once again not all) pass without notice. The difficulty resisting compulsions goes down and so does the anxiety, only increasing the questioning. I spend a while questioning if I’ve ever had ocd in the first place and then something sets me off or the questioning itself becomes a trigger and I get stuck back into the same ocd cycle with constant rumination, anxiety, and other compulsions. This lasts for a week or two before I know I need to stop and try and work hard to get back to ignoring the thoughts. And the cycle just restarts over and over again. Does anyone have any tips to stop this from happening? It’s really harming my recovery as every few weeks I dive back into the same negative place I was.
Hi All, just wondering if anyone here has any tips with dealing with uncertainty? My OCD centres on my being worried that I have committed a crime and can’t remember doing so, I was out last weekend and my mind is telling me I attacked somebody as I got an intrusive thought to do so when passing them in a bar, my therapist says I need to sit with the uncertainty that maybe I did and maybe I didn’t and have to be ok with that But if the answer is yes then how can I be ok with committing a crime and going to jail??, it’s affecting my relationship and I’m going on holiday on Friday and I’m worried it will ruin that, any tips would be greatly appreciated.
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