landonw

Date posted: 2y

Just Need Some Advice

• • • • • So, my OCD has been really bad today. I mean every thought I could ever have popped in my head I’m scared of being like jeffery dahmer and it plays on loop in my brain where I don’t see a future for myself it’s blank I can’t even imagine myself having a life it’s so scary. I’ve also struggled with religion OCD, I’m scared of being a bad person or being immoral and saying something bad to someone. I feel like I’m drowning and I’ve been taking medicine for like two months almost and I feel like I improved and now I’m decreasing I feel like I did when I wasn’t prescribed and I feel like I’m going mental. I write my feelings out and it helps but today it’s been so freaking hard. I’m scared I’ll cause harm to someone and I just don’t know what to do. I just want peace and to be happy again I don’t know where to go or what to do. Sometimes I get scared I’m crazy and it isn’t OCD. Idk I just I feel like fear and doubt is consuming my soul and I just want to be the smiling kid I was. I’m only 14 years old and it’s killing me I can’t do what other teens can. I see my friends and it enters my brain. I go to see family it enters my mind. And when I hold my sisters I get bad thoughts of being a p*do. I just feel like I’m drowning. What are your coping skills please let me know I want this feeling to go and I want to be a teenager and live my life before it’s too late.

Aine

Date posted: 2y

I really sympathize with you because I also struggled with OCD even before my teenage years. The only coping strategy I can give you is to accept the uncertainty of it all. You’re not accepting a yes or a no but a maybe. An “I don’t know”. This is how you teach OCD to not be afraid of these thoughts. Fear keeps the loop but acceptance silences it. It’s the only thing that has ever worked for me.

landonw

Date posted: 2y

@Aine Thanks for the advice I really appreciate it.

Aine

Date posted: 2y

@✝️ I know it’s hard and really really scary. I’m rooting for you love. Deep breaths can help a lot too. In through the nose, short hold, and out through the mouth 3-5 times. You’re brave and a fighter. I’m so proud of you 🤍

landonw

Date posted: 2y

@Aine This means so much to me thank you💕

Graciegirl

Date posted: 2y

I feel you in this one. I have struggled with POCD for 7 years, as well as harm ocd. The best thing to remember is that people who are serial killers/p*dos do not worry about whether or not they are like that. You are a moral person because you know it’s wrong! OCD recovery is a long journey, but when I was younger really struggling with my harm/pocd the best thing that helped me was facing my fears although it made me uncomfortable. Keep holding your sisters, babysitting, exposing yourself to your triggers little by little. Although it is anxiety inducing and uncomfortable, facing my fears really helped me the most:)

landonw

Date posted: 2y

@Graciegirl thank you for your kind words and advice I really appreciate it

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

I’m so sorry you have so much OCD going on. Are you getting ERP treatment or just being medicated?

landonw

Date posted: 2y

@Erin P I’m just on medicine rn. It’s different because it seems like it isn’t working now and I’ve done it for months

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

@landonn I know for me I need ERP as well as medication. Do your parents know much about OCD or did your pediatrician just suggest medications? My son is 14 and I would be willing to text, email or talk to your parents about ERP if that would help. I don’t know if this is against the NOCD rules but I’m willing. There is NOCD. And if you need more than that I have been in treatment at two centers that had programs for teens (teens and adults were separated).

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

@landonn I would give you my number to give your parents so they could contact me directly and keep our contact to NOCD.

landonw

Date posted: 2y

@Erin P I know that this may sound weird but in my opinion I don’t think ERP is right for me. I think there’s an alternative and I feel like I can’t live with uncertainty. I don’t know- it’s just difficult

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

@✝️ Uncertainty is so hard. If meds continue to not work and you don’t find an alternative, know that ERP starts with the least scary uncertainty and anxiety and then you work your way up. I wish you luck. Sending you good thoughts.

landonw

Date posted: 2y

@Erin P you are such a beautiful soul your personality just from these few chats is a soft green. Thank you for your kind words and help

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

@✝️ You are very kind. Please be compassionate with yourself.

Kms89

Date posted: 2y

I’m so sorry sweetheart ... I’m in my 30’s and this is hard enough to deal with I can’t imagine at your age .... I will be in prayer for you... you are not evil ( I know reassurance doesn’t help long term) just know that there is help out there ... do you have support from family ??

landonw

Date posted: 2y

@Kms89 I do have support from my family, my mom is who helped me start getting help I need I’m on medication but it’s not helping at this point idk why. Thanks for understanding me

Kms89

Date posted: 2y

@✝️ Glad your mom is on board to getting you help ♥️... give the medication some time ... meds took the edge off for me but coping mechanisms is what helped the most .... just know there is light at the end of the tunnel and this will not last forever ... try to keep busy with arts crafts a tv show something that is least likely to trigger you to give your mind time to rest ... even a silly game in my phone helped give my brain a break and then you can usually see more clearly after you’ve given yourself time to reset ♥️♥️♥️

Graciegirl

Date posted: 2y

@✝️ finding which medications work for you is always hard, but I hope u find which works for u soon💕💕💕

J.E

Date posted: 23w

Idk what to do at this point any tips help.

Hi I’m 17. My life since I was born has been full of exploring and tons and tons of hobbies. I have adhd. But about 1 year ago is when it kinda started or at least when I started to notice these thoughts and compulsions. I got in a relationship with my girlfriend. And about 2 weeks into that relationship my I started thinking “what if I don’t love her” and I didn’t even know that that’s what ocd was at the time and it ruined with gut wrenching anxiety for months. Then I started titling it as ocd. After we broke up I started to notice that my ocd was starting to flare up a lot. Like when I was snowboarding and normally when I was having the most fun is when I would ask myself things like “what if I hate this” “what if I’m not having fun” then I would try to feel if I was having fun. I would use chat gpt a lot to try and help it but it didn’t really help. I have lots of other ocd thoughts aswell but at the time this one really caused be anxiety and I just felt numb and I became not social. To this day I’m still not as social and I don’t feel like myself anymore. This is the opposite of who I was a year ago. Then I started questioning everything I do and people I love. So it feels like from the moment I wake up my mind just starts spiraling. I can’t seem to find peace or joy in anything anymore and I just feel like my life is going to continue like this and I’ll never be happy. I’ve accepted it at this point. I would love some help. I haven’t really told anyone I know so any tips would be appreciated. I’d be surprised if you even read this far haha. I’m also Christian and love to approach things from a Christian standpoint. I don’t want to sound like a baby who isn’t experiencing real ocd and it’s hard to put into words how much it affects me I just really hope yall understand and can help.

luckygirl

Date posted: 19w

Need advice

I am 16 and struggling with OCD. It is causing me to do irrational things that I wouldn't normally do and cause issues with my parents. I feel like a terrible person and want to take back things that have happen and don't know how to make it better. The OCD causes things to get stuck in my brain and my questions have to be answered and talked about. I don't know how to let thoughts go and ways that would be healthy for myself and my parent when this happens. Any advice?

Adi7

Date posted: 18w

Advice please ❤️

Hi ❤️ I’m really struggling right now I’m in my sophomore year of Highschool and I’ve finally started planning or thinking abt my future (for context I was extremely depressed and suicidal from 6-9th grade) After conquering my depression this is a huge leap for me and I’m proud of myself ❤️ But there’s something still holding me down :( and I’m not sure what to do anymore that thing is OCD. Since 6th grade I have had strong and invasive intrusive thoughts all the time they scare me so bad and make me feel as though I’m not even real anymore :( I’m sick of taking the time to do ridiculous compulsions to rid or ease these thoughts it’s a waste of time and energy and it hurts me so bad I feel like I will never get to just live my life without this :( How can I plan my future when I can’t even find myself in this mess of anxiety 💔 I’m so tired of fighting my mental health it’s been years from anxiety attacks to sh to survived suicide attempts (I got help dw❤️‍🩹) and recovery there. Just to be thrown into a storm of awful scary sickening thoughts day and night-when can I just be a normal teenager and possibly a happy adult? How do I conquer this so I can love myself to the fullest and live my life free and happy? :( ❤️❤️‍🩹 I’m so scared to talk to my parents about it I’m ashamed of my thoughts and every time I bring it up they just say I shouldn’t be diagnosing myself or it’s just ADHD. It really really hurts me they have no idea how awful this feels and it makes me feel so alone sometimes 💔

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