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When I was a kid I used to be like a tomboy and I liked to play with cars and stuff like that. I can’t imagine how it feels to feel like that and I’m sorry you feel like you weren’t meant to be a boy but God created you just the way you were supposed to be ? and also if I were you when these thoughts come I would sit and think on them and ask “ is this really how I feel or is it just ocd?” Because it might not even be how you feel it might just be ocd. I would recommend getting a therapist maybe and talking to her/ him about it and see what their opinion is and also maybe something easier to do would be when you have these thoughts make a list of all the good qualities about your gender and then see how you feel then. Ocd can really suck and I’m sorry you doubt your gender, it’s got to be tough and confusing.
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Thank you! These thoughts all started because of those stereotypes
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It’s not that I want to be a girl cuz I don’t even though my thoughts are basically trying to tell me I do. It’s more like I’m playing the victim to these gender role stereotypes. Like I said before, I’ve never hated my gender it’s more like I hate the stereotypes and what’s expected of me as a guy
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Oh yea I get what you mean on that ( sorry for not understanding ) I don’t like a lot of the stereotypes against girls. If that’s how you feel though you shouldn’t feel like you have to measure up to the stereotypes of being a guy because the world will tell you that you have to be like this or this is what’s expected of you but you don’t have to conform to the world. I would really recommend talking to a trusted family member or friend or therapist and ask what their opinion is.
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I do have a therapist but I can’t see him until early July. And I’ve been through this before too.
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How did you get past it before?
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It shifted to Homosexual OCD but then I got a girlfriend and that’s when it went away
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So when one ocd goes away a new one pops up or one that you haven’t had problems with in a while pops up again?
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Yes basically. Last summer these thoughts started around the exact same time. But it started with the transgender thoughts like I have now, then it shifted to homosexual thoughts around July and lasted for the rest of the summer. Then in Novemberish, I got into a relationship so I knew I wasn’t homosexual but then it shifted to harm ocd. But as I got even busier with school it all seemed to go away but now it’s coming back again
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Hey Ben! I’m a fellow gender OCD sufferer. And it seems we’ve both recovered from sexuality OCD in the past. I’m sure with your HOCD you remember doing this same sort of looking back into your past and weighing things compulsions, right? Sexuality and gender are both on a spectrum and the stereotypes and expectations you more describing are EXACTLY what cause these stupid themes to begin with: we get in our heads what we didn’t perform/feel our roles juuuuuust right and now we have to spiral into never ending questions to find 100% certainty. But I’m sure you also remember that going back into your past for clues never really fixed anything, right? It won’t in this case either. Since you’ve been through this before, you know what to do: list out your triggers, purposely expose yourself to them, and sit with the anxiety without performing compulsions until the thoughts stop producing anxiety or mattering to you anymore. Glad to hear you’ll be seeing a therapist soon. You’ve been here before, you can do it again. Good luck!
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This is so extremely difficult, i’ve never experienced having thoughts of being a different gender. i’ve always been comfortable being a girl. i’ve always been a girly girl. this all started a couple months ago and it’s increasingly getting worse. i’ve had times where i didn’t like my body but i always thought i could just go to the gym and fix it, never did i think i wanted to be a man. ever since these thoughts started i hate looking at myself in the mirror, i hate looking at my body, i’m aware of my breasts all day everyday, i can’t look at pictures/ videos of myself. from the moment i wake up to the second i go to sleep i have these thoughts. i’m in a panic EVERYDAY. i don’t want to be trans but my thoughts are convincing me i do. i’ve never bat an eye when someone calls me a girl but now it’s like i’m aware of it which i hate. i hate that i’m having these thoughts & it’s convincing me that i want them & that i have to just come out and change. i want to be able to go back to being comfortable as a girl. this has left me feeling so hopeless and depressed, i can’t help but cry every day. has anyone else felt like their whole world was turned upside down?
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I just recently kind of was getting over my Constant spiral of “am I a lesbian or bi?”(im a lesbian) and now I’ve been tackled by “am I trans” even tho I’ve never questioned my gender ever, I love being a woman, and I never thought I’d ever be dealing with this since I’ve always been so sure of being a woman, anybody else?
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2 nights ago I saw something on my phone and it has now spiraled into me scared of being trans or being gay because i don’t want to be… now i have a huge fear of what if i am gay and am attracted to woman or what if im not comfortable in my body and want to turn into a man. It’s freaking me out - my ocd always makes me question my character! Has anyone experienced this 😩
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