daisy1728383
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Rocd
Has anyone even happily had a relationship with their gf/boyf after having rocd with them
r.m.1r.m.1
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Yes! I’m happily married to mine now 💕. There’s hope. You can get through this
daisy1728383daisy1728383
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@r.m.1 There’s no romance due to rocd made me avoid kissing being romantic she took on a more caring side role due to having to help me with my thoughts towards her I used to avoid looking at girls but after theapry I can look at them and get such an intense overwhelming sexual feeling for them but not for my gf it makes me think I’m better of single
Casie DavidCasie David
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- 2y
Me! Don't give up, it will take time but remind yourself what you're fighting for. OCD loves to latch on to the things we value the most, but we don't have to let it stay there. Give yourself grace as you work through this and practice stopping OCD thoughts in their tracks. If it gives you anxiety and you have the immediate urge to "fix" it somehow, it's likely your OCD trying to creep up on you.
PernellPernell
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 2y
@ Facts I have hope!
LucielLuciel
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- 2y
I have. I’m very happy, but it took a while to get over
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 2y
I've dealt with having ROCD many times to the point where I would cry because I knew it was sabotaging my relationships. It wasn't until I was up front and honest with my now wife of seven years about my OCD that I was able to get past it. Sure we have ups and downs but we still love each other so much. So be honest about it and if the person cares they will stick by you. Talking openly about it is a big first step. If they can't stick by you then you need to do what you think is best for yourself. Best of luck.
daisy1728383daisy1728383
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- 2y
@Anonymous I have been honest with my gf abit too honest (talking her my thoughts ) which has lead her to be upset a lot, she has been amazing very understanding and got me therapy which helped a lot I rarely find myself struggling with ocd but now I’m struggling with our relationship due to all the trauma and me avoiding romance ,kissing ect it’s left us feeling weird like the spark is gone we can go weeks/months without kissing I don’t feel content. Went swimming on her bd and I used to not be able to look at girls for over a year would almost cause car crashes avoiding looking at other girls due to rocd being around loyalty but I had such strong urges to really check the girls out and had such overwhelming sexual desires towards them which I don’t get towards my gf which makes me think I’m better off single
Danielle CarterDanielle Carter
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- Member advocate
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- 2y
Yes, I have been able to enjoy my partner after working through ROCD. As long as they are understanding and supportive throughout the journey. It makes it a bit easier to get back to where you want to be again.
SydneyMarieSydneyMarie
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- 2y
Yup, my girlfriend and I are about to hit 3 years. You can totally be happy and healthy with any type of OCD. It’s just communion is key and an understanding partner is even better. Patience and kindness always
Danielle CarterDanielle Carter
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- 2y
Absolutely!
garden garden
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- 2y
i go through periods of rocd but me and my boyfriend are still going strong ❤️
NicaNica
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- 2y
Of course.
ChaniLBChaniLB
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 2y
Yes!
dnl-mobiusdnl-mobius
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- 2y
I just had a partner and wanted to leave because of ROCD. But it's nice to see people who have a good relationship here!
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